To ask how often you ignore someone calling you

[Biggybigbiggles]

I quite often see a friend /family member calling and just not pick up, usually because I can't be fucked to speak. Is this normal? 😬

I always pick up to DP as he's the only person I have energy for all of the time. But sister, mum, friend etc. Will probably get my answerphone more often than not. Am I a complete twat? I still speak to them a few times a week through text.

This is what caller ID was invented for

I do about 100 calls a day at work. Outside of work, I reply to texts only

Never. Why would I ignore my friends and family? Seems an odd way to live to me.

Because I'm not a slave. I can choose whether I want to speak to someone when I want. So can they. Just because someone calls me it doesn't mean I am forced to engage.
I get exhausted by interactions. I love my f&f but I need down time.

If I want to chat I'll message someone first and ask if it's a good time. If they don't reply or say not great time I'll respect that. Usually he of us will say 'How about in an hour'. then we do that

I don't really do social phone calls, and all my friends and family know that and therefore almost never call me - I'm in touch with them constantly via WhatsApp/Messenger/text but we don't really call each other. For that reason, I actually do pick up if one of them calls me, simply because I know that they will only be calling me if it's an emergency or something very serious/important.

I'll always pick up if DP calls though.

I'm not a slave either. I do like my f & F though and don't get exhausted by chatting.

I ignore calls when I'm not in the mood to speak, and I'd imagine my friends and family do same. Totally legit! I'd generally message them or try to call back later.

I always answer the phone. I'd love to have a landline if I could block out spam callers.

If I suspect it's a suspicious incoming call I'll answer with a different voice.

But for some people, constant phone calls with friends and family would feel like an odd way to live too. I'd find it pretty suffocating if I was essentially on standby all the time and expected to drop everything and talk to everyone close to me at any time, regardless of how chatty I was feeling and regardless of what else I had going on in my life.

I adore my family and friends but that doesn't mean I want to chat to them all 24/7.

I always answer and if it’s not convenient to chat I just say and call back later. It’s normal curtesy.

If I was busy I'd answer the call and say I'm busy I'll call you later. I would not ignore the call.

Never, but that's because my friends and family know I absolutely despise talking on the phone, so if they're calling me instead of texting/WhatsApp it means it's important and/or an emergency. They know me well enough to know not to call to chat about the weather.

I have never answered an unknown number and I never will.

I don't routinely ignore calls, but I don't answer if it's not convenient.

Just because someone is calling me because It's a convenient time for them, doesn't mean I have to stop what I am doing. I do usually drop them a quick message to say sorry, couldn't take the call, will catch up later.

We don't usually do phone calls. A quick whats app to my sister and nothing from my brother usually and I do facetime my mum and eldest daughter every 2 weeks usually. I see my youngest 2 or 3 times a week as she is local. The others I see every 3 months usually by us visiting them or them coming down here. I can cope with that so no I don't ignore phone calls. If they phoned all the time I would though.

I often want to pick up and say “Can’t you just text like a normal person?” I hate chatting on phones.

Quite often. My dad usually calls me when I'm working so I ignore it.

Most of the time I text people, pretty much the only person who phones me is DP when he's at work and has a break/fancies a chat on his way home, and I always pick up to him as I never get bored of talking to him.

I do sometimes ignore a friend, because I just know they'll be asking me for a (non urgent) lift somewhere.

Regularly to some of my friends. One because she rings just after I get home from work while she is cleaning up after dinner. I spend most of the call asking her to repeat herself as all I can her is clattering of pans and plates or the hoover and I just want to have my dinner. I do call her back after she has put her kids to bed and her husband goes for his run.

Another friend is impossible to get off the phone so if I need to do something in the short-term I call her back when I have more time.

Friends and family? Only if it's genuinely inconvenient or impossible to answer.

It can be suffocating, I think mobile phones have made it too convenient for people to 'just' give you a call, but then I come from a time of no mobiles, when some didn't even have a landline and we managed.

My major annoyance however is when I'm at home, someone will ring my mobile, by the time I get to it, it stops ringing and the landline goes. I go to the landline, it stops and my mobile is off again, it's the same person who hasn't given me a chance to A. answer, B. ring them straight back or C. leave message.

I find it very needy.

Same!

I'll answer when I'm ready. My mum drives me mad, she hears her phone ring and has to answer RIGHT NOW RIGHT THIS INSTANT WHERE'S MY PHONE even if we're in the middle of something and it's really not appropriate. She doesnt get the concept it's a mobile.

Most calls I'll answer...

Not scammy con artists (usually tell with an unrecognised number and im not expecting a call, if its important they'll leave a message).

My sister, because she will call repeatedly despite it being clear I'm on a call/not answering because I am busy and she thinks thats not important. And the call will always be something like 'so and so feels ill/has this illness/threw up last week, what do you think it might have been?'. She seems to think I am some sort of medical oracle and then gets pissy when my response is 'see your GP/Go to hospital/Tell them to speak to their GP'...

She does seeeeem to have got the message over then trying the landline... if I'm busy and can't answer the mobile, that won't change if you ring the other line!

I do call her back when I can though, just... when its convenient to me!