To ask how often you ignore someone calling you

[Biggybigbiggles]

I quite often see a friend /family member calling and just not pick up, usually because I can't be fucked to speak. Is this normal? 😬

I always pick up to DP as he's the only person I have energy for all of the time. But sister, mum, friend etc. Will probably get my answerphone more often than not. Am I a complete twat? I still speak to them a few times a week through text.

I don't even ever turn my phone volume on.
I answer calls if I'm expecting them or someone texted before hand to ask if they could call at a certain time.
Or if I can see someone has rung many times and it may be important then I ring them back.
If the school has called I'd answer it if I happen to see or I'd call them back.

My friend does this. Every time I ring her there’s no reply, then she’ll ring back half an hour later and say sorry, I was washing up/cooking/in the garden/having a shower. I wouldn’t mind if it was once in a while but every time feels passive aggressive.

Not often. I primarily get calls from friends/family/lover - all people I enjoy talking to.

My friends and family also know I sign off after 9pm, so if they call after that time I know it’s important or urgent.

Yeah I'm the same

I prefer a text to check they can call tbh

I only get calls from friends but I will ignore them if they know I am busy (a surprising number of them will call when they know I'm out or have DC with me - presumably so they can later say they at least tried whilst knowing I'd not actually pick up). No idea why people think calling people is fun, but I do understand it's quicker than writing a long message if you have multiple points.

@Biggybigbiggles It's normal for Mumsnet. Ditto ignoring the doorbell, thinking "No is a complete sentence" and only inviting your kids' friends round if you know they are going to be invited back. And never giving anyone a lift even if you're going to and from the same place. I honestly don't think it's particuarly common in the general population....

I think we need a new acronym. NFM. Normal for Mumsnet.

I rarely ignore it unless it's inconvenient, or while I'm working.

I don't respond to people who ring multiple times either just because I don't pick up. If it's urgent, leave a voicemail or send a text.

Depends on why and the relationship.

I used to ignore my mother’s calls when I was in uni because every time she called it was because I somehow managed to do something wrong despite living hours away. I had to prepare myself to answer her calls because she was always so negative. I call her myself, she would make a pa comment about it. What’s the point if you end up wrong either way so didn’t answer. I remember getting a lecture for not calling during a school trip, and they didn’t call me either.

I only ignore calls now if I’m busy or don’t recognise the number. Most of the people I know video chat or text me, other than DH who will call me.

I don't get that many phone calls but I sometimes answer them, sometimes not. I'm not always in the mood to chat. I hardly ever answer unknown numbers.

So you drop everything at the beck and call of all and sundry f&f?

I like to and need to concentrate on things. I don't like being interrupted

Only if I've got my hands in a bowl of pastry, driving, washing my face, in the middle of a conversation, in a meeting, washing up or vacuuming.

So quite a lot really!

I always text or call back within 20/30 mins in case it was urgent

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I'm not much of a caller either. But it wouldn't hurt to answer the odd call now and gain.

Ok so I get FaceTime calls about 3/4 times a day from my mom. She never just rings usually it always always has to be a video call. A lot of the time I leave the call unanswered because I’m busy with the kids or out etc; I don’t always have free hands to sit and hold the phone for half an hour 3 times a day 😳

If I'm available to answer, then never.
I mean, if I'm driving I can't pick up, and if I'm in a meeting or at a performance or something I couldn't, but if I'm just at home - or, come to that - out and about and not doing anything, then of course I'd answer. But then I've got normal relatives and friends and have good relationships with all of them.

Rarely, caller ID often is an unknown number, and it could be an elderly relative.

‘slave’? give over @drumbeats 🙄

Everyone knows I hate talking on the phone so when I do get a call I know it's important and always answer it.

I ignored two phone calls from a colleague today. I answered on his third try.

I usually wouldn't but I just couldn't face talking to him.

People have learned to text me first to see if I can talk

Totally get you
bit I did this a lot as my ex was so all consuming ( turned out to be a covert narcissist and a cheat)
I now regret not putting more importance on my own life and friendships
super important and and thankful I still have a good group of mates around me and rarely ignore a call or text now

@Sasqwatch yes slave. I'm not a slave to my phone

Literally all the time. Unless it’s my DP or my mum I just stare at it til it stops.

I always pick up if i cant or miss the call i ring back right away.
Never know what it could be.
I never understood people that dont pick up or take days or weeks to reply to a message.
Or even them that dont open the door unless you make an appointment weeks in advance.
I have a family member that never picks her phone up or reply to a message we gave up and she wonders why shes missed out on some things.
I had a friend that would take about a week to reply to any message and to meet up we had to make an appointment basically.
We no longer talk.
I dont live on my phone im not a slave to it i dont really use it i use my laptop instead.
My phone is for calls and messages.