To ask how often you ignore someone calling you

[Biggybigbiggles]

I quite often see a friend /family member calling and just not pick up, usually because I can't be fucked to speak. Is this normal? 😬

I always pick up to DP as he's the only person I have energy for all of the time. But sister, mum, friend etc. Will probably get my answerphone more often than not. Am I a complete twat? I still speak to them a few times a week through text.

I answered a question about if my mum rang me 10 times a day. Unless there's a direct line from the grave yard the answer was no because she's dead. Is that better?

People seem much more self entitled these days.

Feeling that someone wanting to talk to you is such an imposition is rather sad.

@RampantIvy i get what you’re saying but when you see those people 3-4 times a week and speak to them often enough then it can be an imposition. I see my parents at least twice a week and speak on the phone probably a bit more done weeks…it’s ok for me to not answer the phone straightaway

MIL is annoying in that if I send her a text to see if she’s free one day, she’ll never just reply yes or no, always “I’ll call you later.” Then she calls and says yes or no. 🙄

I don't like to be forced by an unexpected caller to speak on the phone and generally communicate by text. I do answer rare calls from immediate family (that I live with) because I know they'll be quick. Otherwise I don't answer unexpected calls except from my dad. I will call back later if necessary.

I'm not an anxious person at all - indeed, I'm quite the opposite.
I don't gear my daily life around being prepared for bad news.
However, I've been on this planet long enough to know that sometimes it does happen, and yes, quite frankly, I'd far rather hear that from a person speaking to me, than pick it up via text.
Same with lovely news.
Indeed, when sharing lovely news, it is nice to be able to hear (and see now with WhatsApp calls) someone's reaction, IMO.

Reading a text, or other written message is so very different from speaking to / hearing the person.