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Why don't parents feed children what they eat?

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Gruffallowhydidntyouknow · 27/02/2024 20:25

Twice this week I have had conversations with people that make me wonder why in the UK we are obsessed with children's food and feeing children bland foods.

One friend told me that they were furious at their mother in law, as they had been for Sunday lunch at the weekend and had had to go to Tesco to get food in for their children (5,7, 10) because it was ridiculous that they were being offered the roast beef dinner.

Another friend was bemoaning cooking two different meals as she had to cook something the children would eat and something separate for her and her wife. She laughed and said she couldn't wait until they were old enough to eat curry (8 year old twins).

I despair at the sight of pub menus as it's always beige and chips for the children or a token tomato pasta unless you are in a really nice place. Is that really how people feed children?

I have literally never made separate foods with the exception of not giving my children steak pre teeth.

I'm genuinely intrigued what makes people feed their children separately. Is it that people really believe that children won't eat normal foods? Do people think you "shouldn't" give children spicey foods, or Game/ an olive / duck / stir fry?

Is it that they were weaned on plain things and are now fussy?

I'm not talking about the tiny portion of additional needs selective eaters.

OP posts:
Notthegodofsmallthings · 09/03/2024 18:58

mitogoshi · 09/03/2024 12:21

No idea, I did, straight after initial weaning from around 6/7 months they ate what we did with minor modifications if required. This included curry, chilli, stir fry etc.

I think I was fortunate to live in a pretty multicultural area and not be closed off to other ways of raising kids - at the time people were spoon feeding purées from 4-6 months then lumpy jarred foods until a year, but on visiting a local Mexican restaurant when dd1 was 6 months the chef/owner's wife who was front of house took a shine to dd and asked if she wanted food, then went and made the food she brought her own children up on, dd loved in, it was far from plain, and buttered tortillas were a hit too (she insisted on sending leftovers home with us and the recipe and didn't charge for any of it) from then onwards it was normal food for dd1, and dd2 from the start. (I took them back there on a visit to the city many years later and they still ran it, she remembered us!)

Children are all different but quite often we make rods for our own backs. I had lots of eating issues with dd1 (autistic) so it wasn't plain sailing but refusing to let them eat specific foods did pay off

One day you will remember you wrote this post and cringe. That day may not be for many years, but it will come.

Gruffallowhydidntyouknow · 12/03/2024 19:21

Wellhellooooodear · 08/03/2024 16:40

Your post is both smug and xenophobic. Well done OP 👏

Why xenophobic? I'm genuinely a bit baffled by that.

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Wellhellooooodear · 12/03/2024 20:24

Gruffallowhydidntyouknow · 12/03/2024 19:21

Why xenophobic? I'm genuinely a bit baffled by that.

You literally generalised the whole of the UK in your OP as feeding their kids shite!

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