What is she up to?

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DB, his partner “Jane” & her 2 kids have been staying with me - in my house - after the house they were buying fell through. They had been looking at other properties to buy but have since decided to end their relationship so that’s no longer happening.

Yesterday while my DB and I were out and unbeknownst to me, Jane had an estate agent over to value my house & as he was leaving he told her he’d send her an email with the valuation & they were talking about viewings etc.

Today Jane asked me to give her a letter stating that my brother is living here but wouldn’t tell me why she wanted it & was really unhappy when I said I’d give her a letter saying they were both temporarily staying with me as that’s the actual truth.

What on earth could she be up to? I’m honestly baffled!

Should I tell her that I know about the valuation? Should I tell my DB about all of this?

On one hand I don’t want to get involved in their troubles or make things worse (things are bad enough between them already) but on the other hand I feel I’m being drawn into it as it’s my bloody house she had valued!

Jane the grifter must be a bit dim if she thinks the weird stuff with the letter wouldn't trigger alarm bells?

Exactly what @Mumofteenandtween said. Get her out and change the locks.

She sounds like a dodgy character, I hope you find some answers xx

If someone I was kindly helping invited a stranger into MY house and then proceeded to have it valued, I would most definitely be chucking them out!

@Kwasi They weren't married and the kids aren't his. Jane has already right, there's a see all option at the bottom left of op's first post. It's in a daft place and ridiculously small but it helps you keep up with updates instead of scrolling loads of comments

I don't know what she is up to but I wouldn't be reacting too kindly to it.

It will be interesting to see what she is doing.

The fact that she expected you to do it, then was unhappy when you didn't is some CF behaviour to me.

If she wanted to forge your signature in some way I am sure she could have found something in your house with it on during the time she has stayed there.

Please make sure the estate agent knows this is your house and make sure you register with Property Alert , Government Land Registry to protect against fraud on your property

She's certainly up to no good but your DB's Ex is deluded if she thinks the value of your house will make any difference to her situation. If they were married and/or his DC I could understand but they're not and he owes her nothing. I hope you're getting on OK with the hospital treatment and this is playing on your mind OP

Government Land registry site. You just register your property/s with them and then if anything like searches etc and done against the property they will let you know
www.gov.uk/guidance/property-alert

Bloody Hell- NOT playing on your mind - sorry OP

Fatchilli99 that's only been suggested 400 times....

It sounds as me as though “Jane” might be working towards obtaining entitlement to some share of the value of the house, on the basis of living there now and being pregnant.

I do not know UK laws but I would definitely take legal advice on what way or ways should could stake a claim, and then do whatever you need to do to prevent that, even if it means kicking her or both of them out of your house immediately.

Maybe she needed "her" (your) house valued to enable her to view other properties with the estate agent?

So I saw the actual estate agent who came to my house and their manager; they were quite blasé about the whole thing and I got the impression that this isn’t the first time something like this has happened.

Basically they were under the impression they were dealing with me over phone and email (they wouldn’t give me the phone number or email address but confirmed the email address contained my name). They were fully aware that I’m sick and of my exact diagnosis which is why they apparently gave me some leeway with providing the information they were asking for before the actual valuation / market appraisal. Apparently just before the appointment “I” called up and told them I needed to go to hospital but that I’d arrange for a family member to let them in. When the agent got there, Jane introduced herself as Jane and said she was staying with me temporarily and confirmed I was at hospital so she wasn’t trying to impersonate me or anything like that.

Anyway long story short, they didn’t send the valuation, the email they sent said the valuation was ready but before they could go any further, they need to register my property and carry out some checks and asking me to fill out some forms and provide all the information in the checklist (photo ID, proof of address etc). There was no reply to the email.

As far as the estate agents are concerned, they did nothing wrong as they were genuinely trying to be accommodating considering my health and didn’t actually supply a valuation or do any marketing without all the necessary checks first.

Jane has denied that this is anything to do with her, she said she let the agent in because she had assumed I had just forgotten about the appointment (because of my “brain fog”) and then she forgot to tell me about it after. As the agent knew about my health and that I was in hospital, it all seemed legit to her apparently. When my DB bought up the letter though, her only response was it’s none of his business.

My brain is honestly frazzled by all of this.

What a horrible shady character Jane is.

Wow! This feel incredibly sinister. And to confirm, Jane is now out of your property?

Man that's a huge amount of energy she put into it. A very elaborate ruse to seek your house from unserious when you are not well that's unbelievably nasty. Your DB is well rid. I think if you haven't yet you need to inform the police.

It sounds like the estate agents didn't do anything wrong. As she couldn't get any further without id etc.

I’d be putting in a massive complaint to the estate agent. I wouldn’t be giving Jane any furniture either now, and change the locks once she’s gone

Goodness me. Very sorry you are having to endure this stress.

Get rid of Jane asap !

I mean, what was she hoping to achieve? And if the email address had your name in, does that mean she set up an email address with your name just to do this?

The only thing she can do is deny everything now, no matter how implausible the denial is.
She’s backed herself into a corner and will double down on the lies. You know the truth. You just don’t know why she did it, and you probably never will. So don’t waste precious energy trying.
Protect yourself, and the house. I’m truly sorry you’re having to deal with this shit at such a terrible time for you.

Wow!
Good to hear the estate agents were ticking all boxes they should have been.

Doesn't explain her behaviour though.

Crikey! What an awful situation. I would change your email password.

Oh man! I would be updating the police about this - she’s clearly trying to commit some type of fraud, otherwise why would she set up a fake email address using your name. I know you’re monitoring your house on the land registry - keep an eye on your credit score too in case she tries any financial shenanigans.

Sorry this awful woman is doing this shit to you whilst you’re ill too!