What is she up to?

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DB, his partner “Jane” & her 2 kids have been staying with me - in my house - after the house they were buying fell through. They had been looking at other properties to buy but have since decided to end their relationship so that’s no longer happening.

Yesterday while my DB and I were out and unbeknownst to me, Jane had an estate agent over to value my house & as he was leaving he told her he’d send her an email with the valuation & they were talking about viewings etc.

Today Jane asked me to give her a letter stating that my brother is living here but wouldn’t tell me why she wanted it & was really unhappy when I said I’d give her a letter saying they were both temporarily staying with me as that’s the actual truth.

What on earth could she be up to? I’m honestly baffled!

Should I tell her that I know about the valuation? Should I tell my DB about all of this?

On one hand I don’t want to get involved in their troubles or make things worse (things are bad enough between them already) but on the other hand I feel I’m being drawn into it as it’s my bloody house she had valued!

Why haven't you asked her and immediately told your h

Sorry...
Why haven't you told your brother?

Did you challenge her at the time? Like what the fuck are you up to?

"It seems obvious to me - she wants to be able today “Fred is adequately housed in a house worth £XXX. Therefore I should get most / all our joint assets to house me and the children.”"

Yep, it's obviously for this reason. Not that it'll make any difference but she's giving it a good go anyway

I think I'd be locking my bedroom door at night, she's having his potential inheritance valued!! 😬

How do you know about the valuation?
It could be a number of things I could think of, but I can’t think of a single harmless reason.
At best, she wants to show that your brother is adequately housed to enable her to get a better divorce settlement. At worst, she has stolen your identity and is trying to sell the house from under you.

That makes the most sense.

It might be for the best if you kick them all out. Then she can't pull the 'DB is adequately housed therefore I need more money' card. I'd also be tempted to contact the EA and tell them you want a copy of the valuation as you own the house not her.

I suspect not (not a lawyer) but you can get some dodgy advice from forums and she may be following it!

I'm sorry. What?! I have SO many questions

I’d tell my brother about the valuation in front of SIL and then walk out of the room, leaving it for them to sort (whilst also doing the Land Registry thing).

Why didn’t you say something straight away ?
If somebody got the house I owned valued I would be fuming.

I’d be absolutely fuming and would ask her directly. I would also be chucking her out - if they have split up then you have no obligation to house her.

Definitely do the Land Registry thing. I’d also get in touch with the estate agent and make sure they know it is your house and not up for sale.

Does she have an income? I wonder if she has applied to rent somewhere, and when asked how she will pay rent she has said the sale of my house, then got sucked into a valuation.
Still completely unacceptable even if my far fetched theory is correct!

Phone the estate agent and ask wtf they were doing in your house.

It makes sense why she is - she’s going after the house money as the homeless one.

Why you didn’t take her task on the valuation, I don’t know. Only giving her a letter saying they’re both housed is a smart move though.

Tell your brother.

I don't like the sound of this Jane, be wary

I would contact the estate agents and explain the situation.

She needs to leave, now.

How did you find out op.? It’s all a little unbelievable really.

Do estate agents just turn up and value houses without needing to see proof of who owns them ? It's not that I think they'd be bound by any professional rules of conduct. Just that it seems a waste of their time and money.

you also need to let the estate agent know that the house is not hers to sell, nor should he be taking instruction from her in respect of the house.
Do not acquiese to her request, she is trying to beef up your DBs income for cms assessment i suspect

Yesterday while my DB and I were out and unbeknownst to me, Jane had an estate agent over to value my house & as he was leaving he told her he’d send her an email with the valuation & they were talking about viewings etc.

So you and DB walked back in time to overhear this conversation and you didn't say, 'Wait, WHAT VIEWINGS?!'

Actually this could be a problem if she has access to your paperwork staying there - I'd get her to move pronto, she doesn't sound quite right.

Can she stay with family?

How the fuck wasn’t ’why are you having my house valued?’ the first thing out of your mouth?

People will never stop surprising me.

Yep - her stuff would've been outside. Off she fucks.