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Air BnB CF?

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Jbrown76 · 24/02/2024 17:52

Air BnB (sleeps 10) has been booked for £600, and has asked for £120 towards the cost as there are 5 adults who agreed to the price and number of people going (600 divided by 5 is 120).

The organiser has then invited his 2 adult children without asking anyone. The adult children both work full time, and they aren't being asked to pay or contribute their fair share.

£600 divided by 7 (7 adults including the 2 additional host children is £85.71).

The host is still asking for £120, so the remaining 5 adults are expected to cover the contribution of the organiser's children.

Is the host being a CF?

OP posts:
Wheelz46 · 24/02/2024 22:25

What do the other friends think, do they agree you should all pay less?

If so, agree it between you and one of the friends who have not yet paid, pays £17.13 to the organiser and then £34.29 (so £68.58 in total) each to the 2 friends that have already paid.

Message organiser to let them know or even better pop it in a group chat with you all included and add the adult kids if you have their numbers!

Delatron · 24/02/2024 22:37

Its should be split by room. And since we have no idea on many rooms and how many adults per room, how many couples, singles..

Fallenangelofthenorth · 24/02/2024 23:09

I'd pull out as you just know the food/drink budget is also going to be split unfairly.

rainydays03 · 24/02/2024 23:21

I don’t mean to be rude OP but are you actually going to use any of these suggestions and share the outcome or was it just a thread to see peoples opinions for no point at all?

Surely the fact that you and 4 other people are going to an air b&b at £120 a head is already outing, and anything else wouldn’t matter anyway?

Goldbar · 24/02/2024 23:22

I'm not sure I'd still want to go if having the adult children along is going to change the dynamic.

WallaceinAnderland · 24/02/2024 23:26

dh was sent a link, agreed to £120 for 5 adults, sleeps 10, but all 5 adults get their own room

Where will the extra 2 adults sleep if all 5 rooms are already reserved for the 5 adults at £120 per room?

BarbieDangerous · 24/02/2024 23:29

Why hasn’t anyone said, ‘so the amount per person will now be X? I’ve transferred the money, see you then!’ Or whatever.

Who just randomly brings their adult children somewhere without even mentioning it to the group first. Totally changes the dynamic. Not sure why everyone else has to cover the cost of their two children. Madness

AliceMcK · 24/02/2024 23:34

Jbrown76 · 24/02/2024 19:54

I'm being vague because it could he very outing.

It's an Airbnb, dh was sent a link, agreed to £120 for 5 adults, sleeps 10, but all 5 adults get their own room, no idea why we needed a place test sleeps 10 when only 5 were originally going. It's for 3 days. Group of friends, no relations.

My bet would be the organiser always intended on their adult children taking up places and not charging them. I would absolutely call them out. My response would be: Can we just clarify that the original five “paying” guests will be having a room each? If not then we as a group need to re-agree on costs and room arrangements, as at the moment we have 5 paying guests and 2 non paying.

Moveoverdarlin · 24/02/2024 23:45

Sometimes these things take a lot of organising. If the organiser has spent ages researching Air BnB accommodation, getting quotes, sorting travelling arrangements, emailing all the friends, getting varying opinions, maybe he might think ‘I’ll invite my kids, they won’t bother with us grown-ups much and they can kip in with me’ then I would be fine with that. It’s not a huge amount of difference and if it saves me the job of being organiser then I’d let it go. I hate sorting these types of things. I’d be more worried about the dynamics of the group than the 30/40 quid.

OooohHowIMissThe90s · 24/02/2024 23:54

My feeling is that if the adult kids get a room together or their own room, then the cost should be split per room. If they're bunking in with their parent/the organiser then, no. (Although there's the factor of food etc... that's by the by).

I'm getting the impression OP was hoping we'd all agree on CF being a CF. But as soon as the question on how many rooms is asked they're being deliberately obtuse.

It's not outing to say how many rooms there are...OP just doesn't want us to disagree with them.

OP surely your DH has shown you the link?! You can't expect us to believe he's not shown you or you've not asked 🙄

Just tell us how many rooms there are so we can give you the right advice. Whether that's YABU or to pull out because of dynamics!!

andfinallyhereweare · 25/02/2024 00:19

I’d reply like great! Brings the cost down for everyone and then send the maths you’ve sent here, just act like your assuming their contributing, make it out like a for gone conclusion

MooFroo · 25/02/2024 00:57

Who’s paying for food and drinks etc? will the whole group be feeding them for free too?

will change the dynamics of the group if it’s all friends plus 2 ‘kids’?

someone ask now why they are coming along?!

fridaynight1 · 25/02/2024 01:30

Jbrown76 · 24/02/2024 18:38

We don't know how many rooms there are.

You don't know where you are staying?

SD1978 · 25/02/2024 02:11

I'd say sod off. The statement was for 5 adults, no kids. The arrangement is now for 7 adults- all adults pay an equal share. Organiser is taking the piss and changing the dynamics.....

JacquesHarlow · 25/02/2024 02:43

no idea why we needed a place that sleeps 10 when only 5 were originally going.

You really have no idea?!

well, I think now you know why the organiser booked a place that sleeps 10, @Jbrown76

This was clearly planned all along,

The OP wanted their children there from the start, and found a place that would easily accommodate or absorb them.

Then the “surprise reveal” that they’re coming, because I bet they didn’t want to impose the costs on their children.

So instead, they got you all to share in the initial costs agreement instead.

Otherwise if they didn’t do this (and the adult children coming are students or low wage) they’d be personally paying £255 to everyone else’s £85.

Which is fair!! I’d happily pay such a small amount to bring my kids along.

I can just see however how in their mind, they would have worked themselves into a froth about that.

As a previous poster said, she goes on holiday with others and their grown up kids, and the group agrees that the young adults are low wage etc so folk are happy to pool money to have them there etc.

Thats the conversation the booker should have had with you all, instead of silently imposing their DCs costs on you.

Mothership4two · 25/02/2024 03:10

Of course everyone should pay their fair share. I would be very vocal about this and the fact that they had invited extras without discussing it with the group (especially as they aren't easy going). Personally I would be tempted to pull out.

MixedCouple · 25/02/2024 05:11

Only pay the amount due £88

MixedCouple · 25/02/2024 05:14

As someone who was on low wage as a 18 - 22year old i still paid full price for family holidays. So sorry not an excuse whatsoever. I mean coughing up over £500 for plane tickets and taxi etc.

Mothership4two · 25/02/2024 05:40

No-one should be subsidising or paying outright for someone else's children even if they are on a low wage. If the parents want to bring them and not have them pay, then they should be covering their share. I wouldn't expect anyone to subsidise my adult children and no way would I do it for someone else's unless there was a very good reason. Like I said upthread I would be uncomfortable that the organiser has invited extras without any discussion anyway. - almost like they consider themselves the hosts. It would make me wonder what else is going to crop up on the break and how are other costs going to be divided up.

PriOn1 · 25/02/2024 06:11

If there’s an event you still want to go to, or you’ve paid for flights/fares you could look nearby to see whether there was somewhere else DH and you could get for £240.

In fact, I’d be willing to pay more for separate accommodation and for the pleasure of dropping the CF in it.

Nicole1111 · 25/02/2024 07:09

Reply saying
“I’m a bit confused about the costs now there’s more of us. By my calculations it would be £85.71 each when there’s 7 people staying in the accommodation. I’ll transfer £34.29 to ….. and ….. given that they’ve now overpaid and the remaining £17.13 to you”.

ThePure · 25/02/2024 07:43

Recently I booked a rental property for a family event that sleeps 12 but only 8 were originally coming. When my DBro and family decided to come along I asked to add them which owner agreed but upped the price. Seems fair to me as there would be extra laundry and cleaning for extra people. This was VRBO not Air BnB but are you sure the same does not apply?

rookiemere · 25/02/2024 07:43

PriOn1 · 25/02/2024 06:11

If there’s an event you still want to go to, or you’ve paid for flights/fares you could look nearby to see whether there was somewhere else DH and you could get for £240.

In fact, I’d be willing to pay more for separate accommodation and for the pleasure of dropping the CF in it.

Edited

This is a good point, unless it's Taylor Swift you're going to see, you should be able to get a great hotel room for £240.

HomeTheatreSystem · 25/02/2024 07:53

Categorically unreasonable of him. That's 2 more adults in the house so the cost to you should now be £85. That's only fair. Doesn't matter so much about bedrooms. You could suggest that you each invite even more people for free, see how he likes that!

MsSquiz · 25/02/2024 08:01

Jbrown76 · 24/02/2024 19:54

I'm being vague because it could he very outing.

It's an Airbnb, dh was sent a link, agreed to £120 for 5 adults, sleeps 10, but all 5 adults get their own room, no idea why we needed a place test sleeps 10 when only 5 were originally going. It's for 3 days. Group of friends, no relations.

@Jbrown76 if your DH was sent a link to the air bnb they are staying it, it will state how the bed/bedroom situation is. So why not just check that to see how it will work out?

If it were me, and the price was per person, not per room (since you don't know how many rooms there are) then you pay £600 between 7 people. No discussion needed