Air BnB CF?

[Jbrown76]

Air BnB (sleeps 10) has been booked for £600, and has asked for £120 towards the cost as there are 5 adults who agreed to the price and number of people going (600 divided by 5 is 120).

The organiser has then invited his 2 adult children without asking anyone. The adult children both work full time, and they aren't being asked to pay or contribute their fair share.

£600 divided by 7 (7 adults including the 2 additional host children is £85.71).

The host is still asking for £120, so the remaining 5 adults are expected to cover the contribution of the organiser's children.

Is the host being a CF?

This (assuming everything else being equal, own room/bed)

So basically prickly CF is relying on you all to be too gutless to challenge this and so far it's working...
Find your voice and say 'no, we will not be paying £120 and subsiding your children, if they want to come they pay'.
I'd also be enquiring as to the sleeping arrangements as it sounds as though you are clueless with regards to this.

when we asked the host, they confirmed their 2 adult children were invited and that there would be no more paying persons

Right, and how did this conversation go, then?

host: my two adult children are now coming.
other person 1: right-how will that affect the rooms/sleeping arrangements?
other person 2: shall we split the costs 7 ways now then?
host: no.
other people 1/2/3/4/5: ???

Did nobody say anything? If you are all good enough friends to go on holiday together, why can’t you speak to them and ask a few questions?!

Was it 5 individuals going as opposed to say 3 singles and a couple, therefore only needing 4 rooms leaving one spare?
If 5 individuals I’d be asking CF where he thinks his 2 adult DC are going to sleep.

IMO the booker planned to take adult DC all along - all of the rest is smoke and mirrors to minimise the cost to them. I'd pull out.

If you know the location and you can find it on AirBnB, you could approach the owner/renter with a vague question about additional guests that wouldn't be included in the original booking and what their policy is on that.

OP, you asked if the person who booked the AirBnb is being a CF.

470 out of 473 people have voted yes. Every person who’s written an answer has said yes. JOB DONE. The answer’s yes.

I’m unclear if you were planning on doing anything about it. If you wanted support, everyone has told you he’s morally wrong. He has made a unilateral decision that changes your vacation, its dynamic (friends catching up unrestricted vs adult friends and some of their adult children), and its cost while insisting you pay the original cost.

You can take any comment’s advice and it will be right: pay him the lower amount; tell the group chat it’s a lower amount now that it’s seven people; pay a lower amount but split it between him and people who have already paid a higher amount so that they will have effectively paid a lower amount too; don’t go because you don’t want a different dynamic and the price will still be the same as there are now two more adults to replace you and your husband and POINT THAT OUT before you bow out and he tries to charge anyone more; or any other suggestion.

But I don’t recommend just quietly seething and doing nothing. The weekend will be ruined because you will not be completely able to let go of your resentment and his adult children will be a constant reminder, ESPECIALLY if they’re in a bedroom and someone paid £120 for a sofa bed.

You say not everyone has paid? I would be tempted to suggest you all pull out and those of you who have not paid refund those who have between because I am petty and would rather do this than subsidise complete piss takers.

Of course those who have paid should try and get the money back from the organiser who has moved the goal posts but do not hold out any hope. It is infuriating but do not buy into the whole 'sunk cost' thing. I am assuming there will be added costs to travel, when you are there so best to cut your losses now. No doubt it will continue when there.

Sorry, I voted YABU by accident. YADNBU !

Ok. It’s been established that this is CFery. There are unanswered questions, but leaving that aside; what are you going to do or say OP? You’ve now had a chance to think of a response.

if it was me and I was now concerned about the whole arrangement (and I suspect you are) I’d just pull the pin to avoid the whole drama.

You can change your vote!

“Since we are yet to pay, would you like us to reimburse the additional £34 to Person A and Person B who have paid, and send the balance to you CF?”
job done?

I bet sleeps 10 means four double beds and a double sofa bed in the living room.

So much more info needed - 5 adults? Are any of those in couples? Because 2 couples plus CF means you have 2 spare bedrooms. (Assuming sleeps 10 means 5 bedrooms but please tell us!) Doesn’t mean that the kids go for free but I would be more worried about the sleeping arrangements being compromised than £45

Does CF think he can get away with this as he is going with 2 couples and his kids are therefore part of his party?

OP you really need to provide more info. If you can’t provide enough info because it may be ‘outing’ then don’t start a thread. Because you’re not answering any questions and it’s very confusing. Do we even know if your DH is going?

You've been had @Jbrown76 , the CF booker planned this from the start.

Depending on your relationship with them, I'd either:

1. Not pay and not go
2. Just pay the £87 each
3. Do as @OccamsRaiser says: “Since we are yet to pay, would you like us to reimburse the additional £34 to Person A and Person B who have paid, and send the balance to you CF?”

If you pay the £120 each and still go, they will continue to take the piss during the holiday. You'll end up splitting bills 5 ways instead of 7 etc. You'll end up paying for rounds of drinks for their adult offspring who won't buy anyone back a round etc. Cheeky Fuckers.

Well, I think it depends.

I organised a thing for myself and some cousins. We're in our fifties. Two brought their adult offspring, who yes, are over 21 and yes, do have jobs. But their jobs are like bar staff, or part time shop assistant. So there was no way any of us expected them to pay. The rest of us are professionals with decent incomes. So it felt fine to me that we all subsidised the "kids".

More details needed from the op I think.

Your posts don't give enough information.to say for sure OP

Is your husband going ? How can he have a link but not know how many bedrooms there are, that doesn't make sense

Message that you’ll transfer the £85 or would they rather you put your share into directly refunding the others who’ve already paid.

If it sleeps ten but theres only 5 rooms then thats a double bed per room or two singles in some..

So who is going to be sharing with his kids?

It pays CFs to be prickly. That’s how they get away with it!
Id just pay the lower price and say you’re paying 1/7.
Then they can prickle away, which you should ignore.

CF indeed, people count on others being too polite to say anything. I'd be texting back and ask that they recalculate the amounts as an extra 2 adults will be coming along

I'd pull out of the arrangement now if I were you. The person organising it is obviously a cheeky cunt.

I think you all need to make sure you are saying the same thing to the organiser. Those that haven’t paid only pay the reduced amount. Those that have already paid ask for a refund. The adult children are paying less than £30 a day for three days accommodation, that is very reasonable.

Ps if the organiser refuses I would pull out, pointing out that the adult children will now have to pay £60 each to cover the £120 the organiser originally asked for from you.

On the face if it, it's obviously cheeky fuckery. But you're being so obviously secretive about rooms that I think there's some mitigating factor you're keeping deliberately quiet to make him look bad. For instance, why would you and your husband have separate rooms?