Air BnB CF?

[Jbrown76]

Air BnB (sleeps 10) has been booked for £600, and has asked for £120 towards the cost as there are 5 adults who agreed to the price and number of people going (600 divided by 5 is 120).

The organiser has then invited his 2 adult children without asking anyone. The adult children both work full time, and they aren't being asked to pay or contribute their fair share.

£600 divided by 7 (7 adults including the 2 additional host children is £85.71).

The host is still asking for £120, so the remaining 5 adults are expected to cover the contribution of the organiser's children.

Is the host being a CF?

Them being prickly is what helps them get away with it! Be prickly back. Why should you pay over £30 per adult to subsidise their kids??

It would very much depend on what the occasion was and the relationship with all concerned.

With regards to accommodation, that's a fixed price, so the inclusion of his two adult children isn't costing you any more.

But what is happening regarding catering? This is what I would be questioning. Is the host and/or his children going to cover their bill or is he going to split food costs 5 ways, not 7.

I could live with the accommodation issue, but I would be digging my heels in if I was being expected to pay extra to cover their share of food or other expenses.

Yes if the ones who haven't yet paid give some money to those who have 'to make it easier' and just forward the lower level to CF. So the two who haven't yet paid forward £52 each to CF and £34 to the two who have paid.

Who's to know the organiser hadn't planned it this way all along?

What's the reason they were invited along? Is it because there were bedrooms spare? Will there be any spare bedrooms left after these young adults come along? If so, decide between you and the non-CF guests who can come and use it for free. Don't ask the organiser. Just announce that your sister and her husband are coming to use the last bedroom seeing as it's going spare.

I wouldn't just pay the lower amount without saying anything - I'd message first saying "great, that makes it cheaper per head for everyone" and pay the lower amount.

And ask your sister and her DH (or whoever it is) to pay a share (but don't give any of the money to the organiser - split it beween the non-CFs so that you all end up paying slightly less than £120 - except for the organiser).

I like this, with a note to the organiser explaining why

Doesn’t matter how they react, reply saying since there are now xx amount of self sufficient adults going, the cost is obviously xx per person and you look forward to reimbursement of over payment.

Or if you haven’t already paid, just pay reduced amount,

How many rooms OP?
You have been asked this and haven't replied.

We're not sure how they will react, as they have previously been quite prickly

CFers often are ... it's how they get away with being CFers because people get in a stew about challenging them

In any case there's no need for unpleasantness; just pay the lesser amount, and if anything's said ask why it shouldn't be lower now two more working adults are coming

This puts the onus straight back on the CFer, and frankly it's hard to think of any credible excuse they could come up with

Host has two choices - everyone pays including working adult dc OR host pays for their 2 adult children and therefore the host pays 85 x 3.

We don't know how many rooms there are.

Well that's just ridiculous -surely you know the sleeping arrangements?
The number of rooms is important

How can you not know how many bedrooms there are, but you know they aren’t sharing a room? Sleeps 10 could mean anything with enough sofa beds

Bizarre! Why don’t anyone ask?

How many adults and children are going? Are you friends? Family? How close?

The number of rooms is pretty important here?

Where are they going to sleep if they're not sharing with their parent (the organiser)?
Before paying any money I'd be adding that, asking how many bedrooms there are etc etc!
If you're all going to sit back and moan about it but not say anything to the CF organising it then I can't really understand what the point of asking on here is!
So I hope you now raise yes they're being a massive CF and you're all going to pull them up on it!
CF's get away with this sort of stuff because people let them - DON'T LET THEM!

How can you not know how many rooms there are?

You say 5 adults were originally going, but are others also bringing (non adult) children, and they haven't been counted in paying? If so I could see why the booker would assume it was also ok for their children.

If not it's V cheeky and I think it's fine to say 'oh great,so now only £85 each' or whatever. And ask for a link to the Airbnb. I wouldn't be paying anything for accomodation I hasn't seen details of and don't even know how many bedrooms!

How about

"Oh I wouldn't have agreed if I'd known it was so many, your DC can pay for my share and I'll drop out"

Yes. Does he still park in the parent and child spots at the supermarket if they come with him? Honestly, I would ask him.

So look it up?
Presumably you know where you're going and you said it's an AirB&B, so it'll all be there on the site

What’s the deal with the bedrooms? There’s usually a not so nice room or a pull out in the living room. Make sure they don’t get the one with the en-suite!

I'd be cheesed off if the CF's children were going to be sleeping in the living space, as opposed to a bedroom. Just wondering whether you might end up having to pass them to access the kitchen and end up tiptoe-ing around them.

CF didn't run it by anyone else first, which hardly in the spirit of openness.