My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

Just because society and culture has sexualised breasts for the benefit of men. It’s probably because he finds it sexual when it’s not.

I hope he never makes a woman feel inappropriate for breastfeeding wherever she needs to. Women do it when they need to, not for fun!!

I think your husband should be more classy and stop being a twat. What do you think OP?

I don't think your husband and I would get on.

I’ve never given a shit and never will

I agree, hence the argument

I fed all my babies wherever and whenever. I doubt anyone ever knew I was feeding them. I never covered them or anything but just wore tops you can pull up so you can’t see anything anyway.

She was probably a J cup with milk running out of the breast the baby wasn't feeding from.

Oh do jog on. I have an oversupply breast (the left) and it's very stressful when it leaks in public when I'm feeding the other side.

You think she's doing it deliberately? How would you even do that deliberately? Sometimes it happens suddenly and you've got both hands full.

How was her cup size relevant? Should larger women hide in a hut, yeah?

Yabvu and suit your username with this comment.

Wait until you find out how much faeces and other nasties end up in a swimming pool!
https://www.popsci.com/swimming-pools-are-gross/

@blueshoes that cover thing is awful. It just screams 'I am breastfeeding and breastfeeding is something to be ashamed of'.

Neither of my two would have accepted it. Many babies won't feed with their faces covered like that.

Sorry , I'd never seen one before but this lady used it even amongst our "new mot
hers group". I did not know the name,

Interesting! Sounds like you pointed out that the boobs-he-likes-to-ogle-on-TV are a bit much, so he scoured his brain to think of boobs-he-doesn't-like-to-ogle-on-TV so that he could perform I'm-not-a-boob-ogler-no-really-I'm not-so-there! to his captive audience of you. You, who had raised the suspicion (in his own mind) that actually he is a boob-ogler. And he doesn't want to think of himself as a boob-ogler, hence his overreaction.

"I've never seen women with their boobs out either. He is telling me he and his mates have! I spend more time shopping than they do so I called that out as absolute crap."
Again, he's focussing all his energy on boobs-he-doesn't-like-to-ogle (although this time in the wild rather than on TV) to hammer home the point that he's not a boob-ogler. And neither are his friends. Really, really, we're not.

"Just turned 53yo, and is a grumpy pain in the arse. Also swears from morning to night and spends most of his days gaming. He does help with our young son ( pick up and drop offs) and the gardening if I complain for about an hour( otherwise I do it all). Cooks occasionally and shops with a list I give him . Gah , he;s not sounding great is he. He does have redeeming points."
No, he's not sounding great. And what the fuck is a grown man doing, spending "most of his days gaming"??? It suggests he doesn't work, doesn't want to spend his not-working days doing anything useful like domestic chores so pisses his time up the wall gaming. And let's face it, the games are likely to be misogynistic crap, nudging him towards - well, the sort of behaviour you've just pointed out to him.

Why isn't the lazy fucker picking up more of the household duties since he seems to have the time(or why isn't he working)?

He really is a lovely man though

So lovely that you do 99% of everything around the house and with your son. Your idea of 'lovely' is very different to mine.

Top hat and tails or some sort of evening gown. He sucks.

LTB

Why does bonding give you "the absolute heave"? What is nauseous about it?

i breast fed my children wherever and whenever they needed it - I am still a very classy person (whatever that means) HTH

I exclusively breastfed both children. I do agree with your husband. We don't live in a jungle

Perhaps your dear husband would like to comment on the bra adverts, car adverts, in fact anything where some woman has her tits out to sell something.

As for BF mothers, you really have to look hard to notice.

Addendum
In Victorian times, that bastion of prudery, a BF woman was considered not only respectable, but virtuous. Oh, times have changed!!

Sad that some women feel they need this - I hope they're not being pressured by the men in their lives.

Interesting that the photo thumbnail is of a toddler feeding (judging by the size of the leg). Lol! As if my dd would have put up with that. The amount of flailing she used to do, that thing would have swiveled right around to become a cape.

My only concession to "discretion" was to use the euphemism "Feeding" with my dd. I knew I'd be breastfeeding a while so I didn't call it Booby Milk or similar because I didn't want her yelling that in public! I appreciated it later when she used to yell FEEDING NOW rather than any number of other embarrassing labels.

He is being unreasonable!

True -I wouldn't stand-up and wave my breasts and baby around triumphantly during fine-dining, but then I wouldn't eat my own food while displaying my chomping teeth and the inside of my mouth either.

I suppose it depends whether you see a baby quietly sucking on a breast as a sexual thing or a nutrition thing.

I see it as the baby having an experience of consuming food... dining and snacking places seem appropriate for feeding but bushes and toilets (where women/babies have often been sent) do not.

Your husband sees breast-feeding as... ?

then he started on the women should be have more decorum,

What century does he imagine he's living in? Decorum?

I bet he'd have said women demonstrating to get the vote weren't showing adequate decorum.

Do you feel the same way when you see a baby being bottle fed?

Haha, I was waiting for that. Don't think I havent considered it. It;s my house he is living in and no he doesn't work, but then neither do I. It's a tiny acreage and I do all the gardening, washing, cleaning etc, He mows, ( annoyingly sometimes as I can do that as it is a ride-on) and he does the edging and keeps the aminals watered. Anyway, that;s not important, I'm more annoyed about his opinion on women breastfeeding in public. Maybe he''s gone bonkers! Because this is news to me, . Thanks for all responses( even the nasty ones).

‘heave’ how completely bizarre 🙄

Ap24, comparing breast milk to faeces is as ignorant as op's partner