My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

Commenting on women’s bodies, particularly when feeding their babies, is several shades of fucked up.
Twat needs to shut up and mind his own business.

FWIW it took me 6 months to bond with my dc, despite bf a hundred times a day...

I bet he happily reads page 2 of the sun or whatever it is with topless women infront of people. Tell him to lower his gaze and grow the hell up.

He really isn't though. HTH.

I remember 40 years ago l was feeding my baby in McDonald's while eating my lunch .. a woman.. yes a woman manager came up to me and asked me to go sit in the toilet to feed her because it wasn't appropriate .. WTF?
I said .. are you going to sit on the toilet and eat your lunch .. she said no! Why on earth would l do that..
So l said.. Well my baby isn't going to have her lunch in the toilet either..
I then got in touch with my local TV station/ newspaper.. breast feeding group.. and then .. McDonald's proudly announced they welcome breast feeding Mums.
Your husband needs to fuck off.

What is "the metal circle with fabric hanging down"? Never seen anything like that in my life and can't even imagine how that would work (or indeed...why. Just why.)

Your husband is very unreasonable and should keep his misogynistic opinions to himself

B. The sexualising of breasts is cultural. They are an organ for feeding babies; nothing more than organic milk bottles.

Notreally true. Alone amongst mammals, women’s breasts are permanently present, not just when lactating. They play a role in sexual attraction, without which there would be no babies to feed.

Is your husband from the 1940s/50s/60s? It's natural...why do we have to hide it under scarves and things? If you don't want to see it don't stare! Honestly if men didn't objectify women and sexualise breasts which are designed for feeding babies surely we wouldn't be in the position where they can't cope with seeing them being used in the purpose they were intended for?!

He’s a knob.

Your husband is an idiot. I remember running into an old friend and her sister at the opera. Sister was bf at the time and her DH was charged with brining baby to her at intermission. There she was in her evening gown, sat on a bench in the middle of the main foyer placidly feeding her little mite to not a single disapproving and many an admiring glance. Such a picture.

How people get offended by this is beyond me. It's a boob and a baby feeding 😂 jeez.
Don't come to Germany. People walk around public parks here naked...

Most women I see breast feeding you can barely tell - they may be slap bang in the middle of wherever but they calmly put baby to chest and carry on.
And shame on you and your 'elderly' mother @Whatevershallidowithmylife (how old? My parents would be almost 100 now and were very happy about me breastfeeding in public if needed - so it's nothing to do with age). Bonding takes place whether you breastfeed or not - after a while it's just something you do to feed your child.

He can fuck right off! Be more classy! Jesus! There are no words for this level of ignorance!

Most women aren't making a spectacle of it, they're just getting on with it. Especially if it's a second or subsequent child, there often really isn't an option to stop what you're doing or disturb everyone and move them just to feed the baby.

Maybe dh should sit behind a potted plant and keep his mouth shut to stop making a spectacle of himself

Because a mum with a hungry baby would always be able to find just the right seat in the location your husband suggests , wouldn’t she? Wouldn’t add any stress to her day at all 🙄
Mums should feed wherever they want, wherever they feel comfortable.
Your husband doesn’t like it he can move.

I would like your husband to wear a plant pot on his head at all times so he can't be distinguished from the room decor

What a goady post.

My husband 68 didn't blink when DIL fed twins simultaneously, you can't do that discreetly. Otherwise it's really no issue with one child.

I voted, YANBU (assuming you disagree with your husband!) but it seems I'm in the minority. Should I be voting on the unreasonableness of your DH (who is BU).

If men were the breastfeeders I bet they'd be doing it wherever they wanted to. We'd long ago have normalised taking babies to work, and feeding them in meetings.

I do think there is a middle way with this.

The younger generations (here) don't seem to know that until quite recently, feeding your baby in public was just not done.

(My DCs are close to 40 and when I BF very few women did it in sight of others.)

There are still plenty of people about who don't feel comfortable looking at women's breasts in public, even if they are BF. So that's people in their 70s and older.

It's easy to be discreet with a shawl or your clothes.

Like it or not, breasts are also sexual and not just for feeding babies.

My DH is very laid back but even he feels slightly uncomfortable in cafes if women are showing a lot of their breasts. This is not because he's being salacious, but because he feels he has to avert his eyes in case the women think he is staring when in fact all he's doing is sitting where they are in full view.

If you can't appreciate that not everyone is comfortable seeing breasts, then maybe work on your self-awareness @stargazing8

You don’t need to hide, you don’t need your whole breast on display either. I just wore a top I could pull up and a vest I could pull down, I have very large boobs and had to support the breast with my other hand whilst feeding but managed to feed in public.

I don't care what your husband thinks.
Breastfeeding women don't need to hide themselves away it's nothing to be ashamed of.
I haven't voted as it wasn't clear what I would voting on.
But your husband is being very unreasonable

I don't think I've ever seen a mother breastfeeding in public with her boobs fully out to the point where its making people uncomfortable. I have however, seen lots of men with their tits out that I'd rather not be looking at. No one seems to call them out