My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

Today is National breastfeeding in public day apparently. I'm surprised that some of the lunatics on this feed haven't been out and about in high Vis vests with clipboards telling people off.

My husband reckons your husband is a noob. He couldn’t give a hoot where women breastfeed their kids, says surely that’s the most natural thing ever given that that’s what boobs were made for. And finally, my personal favourite: “boobs are good in any situation” 🤣

you think?
a poor imitation of the one Monday? night which was eventually removed by spoilsports. I have not laughed so hard for a long time, also re breast feeding, posted by the ‘concerned partner’ My ribs hurt, it was hilarious, the more
extreme the claims the wilder the responses.

I’m finding this one pedestrian, breastfeeding has all been done so many times.
There is a drug taking std giving coke snorting cottaging one atm getting a little tiresome, same old hyperbole, same old nonsense, OP went off to new horizons over 24 hours ago, mission accomplished.

…and some fell on fallow ground …

When I was breastfeeding, my mum was so horrified about my father seeing me breastfeeding that I used to end up going off upstairs in my own house to breastfeed if they were visiting.
Strangely, we didn't see a lot of them while I was breastfeeding.

Your husband can do one imo. When I feed my baby, its hard enough as shes disabled, I have to do it where I can, when I can. My daughter has Down Syndrome, and breastfeeding her isn't just about her getting whats best, but its about strengthening her jaw for speech which is difficult for her, its about the fact she can't drink formula easily, its about me passing on as many antibodies during these covid times to keep her protected, I already lost her twin brother. But ultimately, its about the most wonderful intense bonding experience I have ever had, and your husbands views mean nothing in comparison.

Honestly, I have some choice words for your husband, and I hope, if he dares ever say anything negative to a breastfeeding mum, that he's ready for a proper mouthful, and it won't be of delicious sweet breast milk either...

I think your husband should not go out in public so us breast feeders don’t have to look at him.

He would be disgusted with me, I walk around shopping centres, supermarkets, parks etc feeding my baby. I hold her in my arms and go about my business. Anyone doesn’t like it doesn’t need to be up in MY business.

Your husband is a dick. Tell him nit to perv on them then he won't notice.

Oh come on @threatmatrix no one has their 'breasts hanging out'.

Enough with the hyperbole.

Nothing like breastfeeding to stir up arguments between folk!

For what it's worth, my husband does everything to look the other way if he sees a breastfeeding woman in public.

He feels like he's intruding on their privacy when in actual fact, if a lady was bothered about privacy, they'd probably feed in a more private place, if available.

Can we put him next to the pot plant instead?!

Does he aye

I don’t think anyone is too bothered about the opinions of your boring and irrelevant husband

I don’t get why my post was deleted. Never happened before. I said ‘ I think this is a wind up.’
it is possible that occasionally people post controversial stuff to get a response.
Ah,well.

Little babies rarely cooperate on location when they are hungry.

I don't agree with his "sit elsewhere" attitude. The mother and child need to be with their companions and, especially at half term, you sit where there is space. However, this trend of total baring of your boobs (and often nipples too) for all to see, while it is your right, is unnecessary for comfortable feeding. You would not do it if baby was not present. When feeding anywhere, even at home, I would always had a burp cloth, which not only had it handy for spills, but it encouraged baby to focus on the feed rather than what he could see moving around his peripheral vision.

Some do! It looks like they are making an aggressive point about their right to do so. I have seen women choose the central point sit down and remove their clothing, looking around to see who is looking, glare and shout about what they are doing.
I agree with Closetheblinds that she can and should be able to happily walk around doing her thing, but I bet that she is not going out of her way to show everyone what she is doing.

Had to acknowledge your post, so sorry you lost your wee boy. You’re very right to want to breastfeed your gorgeous girl how and where you wish without anyone commenting. Wishing you both all the best going forward

when you’re ready ask GP about referral for counselling and therapy to support you (and partner) following a bereavement

Haha this thread will trigger so many women. I think that you can be discreet if you have an option to but not go out of your way to. If you don't have that option then baby needs to feed what can you do you just feed wherever you are?

Don't like it, don't look. Simple.

I was frowned upon on holiday by an older
man for breastfeeding my child on the beach, I wonder if at any point he realised how uncomfortable his constant staring was making me!

strange to put this thought of your DH out there.

Not just MY culture, I have lived in other countries in Europe and people just don't see breast feeding the same as here. It's so natural and normal

Is decorum still a thing or have we traveled back in time?
At least a breast feeding mum is doing something natural and beneficial for her infant. I dread the Summer when men, usually with a sizeable paunch, seem to think it very decorous to walk about town with their tops off and their bellies hanging out. Lovely Jubbly!

Arse

Your husband shouldn’t be out in public then, especially not near food courts.