My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

When your husband is able to feed a baby, he can have an opinion.

I didn’t breastfeed, but had lots of friends that did when our kids were babies. I don’t think I even seen a glimpse of any nipples. People tended to be discreet

I hope none of these people ever visit art galleries 😂

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@Chickenkeev brilliant! Imagine a bare breast in art form

Your husband bruised sensibilities and unreasonable demands don’t need any discussion. He’s wrong. End of

Your mother may disapprove but well she needs to acknowledge her views are antiquated and moribund

Frankly BF a baby anywhere one would eat their lunch, so yes to park,bench,parliament,museum, GP,sports event
No to hiding, and skulking in the plant pots just to spare someone else sensibilities

Flashing.That's your commentary and pejorative terminology. It’s feeding not flashing
Dont make a natural act salacious or sleazy

Flashing.That's your commentary and pejorative terminology. It’s feeding not flashing
Dont make a natural act salacious or sleazy

Lordy, all that flashing and titillation has sent my posts into overdrive

I fought to feed my babies in the 80s. I fought my inlaws. I fought the public. I fought establishments. I was once told to move to a toilet!! I had a perfectly acceptable technique without masses of boob on show. I remember saying firmly to one man "what do you think breasts are actually for?"!

And why he is looking at them.

I actually agree with you but I always get viciously attacked if I ever dare say this in company. I don't think it's sexualising breasts or weird or anything like that I just don't think it's very nice much like I don't like men parading around shirtless when it's boiling hot.

You should speak to your GP about counselling for your issues.

Does your husband understand basic anatomy? Does he understand breasts are not sex organs and should not be treated as such? Does he understand that we are only shamed about breastfeeding because men have assigned meaning and power over our own bodily autonomy? Does he understand that he’s uneducated and a bit of cunt?

His views are patriarchal and problematic. A man deciding which parts of a woman’s body are sexual does not make them sexual. Any women that hold the same views are sadly projecting their internalised misogyny which they are unlikely to have any awareness to because of their early brainwashing and conditioning.

So basically he is saying women should take into account men’s feelings before they feed their child. Women breast feed when their child is hungry. It’s the most natural thing in the world and he needs to get over himself.

@DoYouBelieveInMagic do you ever wonder why you get viciously attacked? Is it because you're so wrong?

A bit like racists are viciously attacked

A bit like misogynists are viciously attacked

A bit like rapists are viciously attacked

A bit like child abusers are viciously attacked

All those people probably think they're right and can't understand why they are viciously attacked....

Do you understand now?

Shirtless men is an aesthetic choice and unnecessary
Breastfeeding women is nutrition and necessary
That should clarify things for you

99% of breastfeeding is done so discreetly that you barely know it's happening. So does that make you uncomfortable? I guess low cut tops make you feel uncomfortable too?

It's not a "special part of bonding" it's feeding your child, a basic need. It's not different to bottle feeding.

By the time DD was 4 weeks old I’d fed her over 300 times. As lovely as it was, the ‘special bonding experience’ novelty had worn off slightly by that point.

Plus, bottle feeding babies is a bonding experience too. Should bottle feeding parents also go and sit behind a pot plant?

I take it he wasn’t breastfed and is bitter?

People like you who can't accept differences of opinion are really scary. It's a thread where people post their views. It is people just like you who viciously attack too, nice trait to have. I don't think it's very nice at all and I wouldn't do it, I was bought up to be very discreet and with quite a rigid upbringing, it's quite tricky to undo your thinking just because some absolute venemous cow has compared you to all of those abhorrent things you've listed above on mumsnet. Honestly you're vile.

@DoYouBelieveInMagic get therapy for your rigid upbringing and stop passing it on to the next generation.

Do it ASAP!

@DoYouBelieveInMagic I'm not as vile as someone who vilifies a breastfeeding mother!

That's beyond vile!

I like how I am thank you and I liked my upbringing. Apologies that you'd prefer me to be exactly like you with the same views. Do you always bully people who don't agree with you?