My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

If a man is getting aroused looking at a mother feeding her infant child, he needs to get himself booked in to speak to a therapist asap.

I have never covered up while breastfeeding and never will. I will feed wherever i need to. I'm not going to sit somewhere hidden to make anyone feel more comfortable

I think your husband should be more 'classy' and take his misogynistic and outdated views discreetly to the edge of somewhere else.
No wonder breastfeeding rates are so low. It isn't a sexual activity, women shouldn't have to hide they are feeding a baby. Clearly if someone whipped their entire top off that may be distracting to some people .... But on balance I still instinctively feel those people would be the problem and not the woman feeding her child.
I find it very depressing that women's bodies continued to be so policed in so many ways.

❤️

Totally right!

I find it lacks class and decorum when men harass women in the street, explode with rage for random reasons, stick their hands down their trousers, don't wipe down gym equipment...I could go on.

Well I personally did do that when bf, I’d have definitely picked a table near the edge rather than in the centre in full view. Personally I was more comfortable that way

And by other women as well, as shown on this thread.

It involves satisfying an infant's basic needs. Doh!

I think most women like to be discreet anyway but if baby needs feeding they get fed wherever it is most comfortable for mum.

Or foist their neanderthal opinions, on topics they have no personal experience of by virtue of their sex, on a mother's forum.

No she’s not. She chose to do what she thought best.

I agree with the OP’s husband. Nothing wrong with discretion and decorum. It’s perfectly easy to breast feed in a restaurant without anyone even noticing.

Those of us women who did that are being judged very harshly on this thread.

@Cailin66 so you always went behind a plant or on the edge? What about of those places were not available? What did you do?

Did you move midway through feeding if a place more on the edge became available?

The DH was not talking about a woman taking her top and bra off and full on tits on show!

Yeah, mate, but you are here as a voyeur. Not a woman with lived experience to share. Can't you go and discuss this on Dadsnet or something?

@Mohur 👏 👏

He's a twat, mate

Has the irony of this not struck you when the whole thread is about the oppressive nature of male gaze and male policing of what is acceptable femable behaviour?

I am yet to see one of these women who sit there with both boobs hanging out in a public place and I know a lot of breastfeeding women (I currently am one!). I always see/hear these stories and I actively look out for it because it seems so common yet in reality I think people just make the stories up to validate their 'modesty' stance.

Anyone who says they think more women should breastfeed whilst simultaneously announcing on a public forum that they are judging how women breastfeed and that breastfeeding women should hide in corners is obviously a bit thick.

Anyway, that's my 10 pence, blessed be the fruit 🙏

😂 I used to be precious about it and apologetically skulk in the darkest corner to feed. 10 months on of feeding 6 plus times per day (and night) and I absolutely do not care. What a waste of energy it would be to still be fretting that someone might be offended!

I do find it interesting that people who are anti breastfeeding focus on what the mum is doing: "She is exposing her breasts". When in my view the baby is the one feeding, and right now my breasts feel like entirely unsexual tools to deliver that milk. Anyone else trying to sexualise that is the one with the problem.

Totally agree with you husband OP, can’t stand seeing a woman flashing her breast, breast feeding or not.

No they're not. I happen to be one of them: managed to feed publicly for 18 months without a cross word and only one cross look (and that was by a woman who came right up to my car window when I was feeding peacefully in the passenger seat and stared down at me until confronted).

The issue people have here is with those trying to police other women's behaviour; to gatekeep the correct and permissible way in which they should be feeding (hiding) their child.

It's not an attitude to which most people take particularly kindly.

Perhaps your husband should move to the edge of the food court. Maybe bear a potted plant.

In all seriousness, are you OK OP? This doesn’t sound very enlightened or supportive of women/mothers. Is this the tip of the misogynistic iceberg?

You can't be serious can you?...surely you must be joking or taking the Mick for attention.

Tell him he can get to fuck

and if he DARED to speak that shit to me when I was breastfeeding I’d be calling the police on him

twat

Why? What's your problem with breasts?

Do you ever question your inhibitions?