My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

I think they want us to hide in a hut until our children turn 2yo

Probably 😵‍💫

Bet you would be the first to be tutting at and moaning about a crying baby though wouldn't you? You seem JUST the type.

there are plenty of extended breast feeding mothers beyond that age. I dread to think what they’d impose upon them …. 🤦🏻‍♀️😉

Well if the cafe is full and the only seat means some poor inhibited man or woman needs to stretch their neck not to see a potential flash of a nipple or some bare tit skin, then a toilet, car, storeroom or behind the lofts would be good enough surely?

I mean why should you be comfortable and feed your baby, if you can't be "modest"?

Honestly, the woman of today!

The frustration people face in having strong opinions about what other women 'should' do - that they 'should' breastfeed but that they 'should' be discreet to the point of coyness when doing so - is that women are not all made the same. You can control your own behaviour, but you can't control other people's. Any attempt to police the behaviour of others, not least perfectly legal, everyday and pedestrian behaviour like feeding an infant, is only going to make those people personally look like a controlling, unreasonable twat. Which is precisely why some who articulate such views claim to hold those opinions so dear, but openly admit they would never dare confront someone openly in that situation.

There is no more futile a word in the English language than 'should'. This must really stick in the craw. 😂

If you can't tell the difference then you won't understand the answer to your monumentally daft question

Disdain is not something I feel about breastfeeding. That word is completely wrong.

Yes we should just 'agree to disagree'

Sadly your husband's view is the prevalent one in society in this country

I'm not sure it is.

I breastfed 2 children everywhere and anywhere over a couple of years.

Never had a problem.

A few times was offered cushions, a fresh drink and was complimented by older women.

Honestly anyone with a problem with breastfeeding - it's their problem, issue, fetish, hang up - not yours.

I feel sorry for them.

@MrBenschangingroom stop tagging me

Totally agree with this...

It's a hang up or fetish that causes the person unhappy with the BF mother to feel uncomfortable.

It's their own emotion that's causing them the issue, they truly believe though that it's the BF mother that's making them feel like that, it's so many levels of wrong it's unbelievable.

I agree
No one should be eating in parliament!

I'm old school. I never breastfed in front of people who might have felt uncomfortable. It's just courtesy. Some men think the sight of a woman's breast is sexual so feel embarrassed, that's not perversion. Anyway, do what you think right and ignore your husband.

How strange, when you have been tagging me for loads of posts.

Near a potted plant 🤣🤣

Your husband is a tit

What is n*b?

Wow he sounds like a delight. He's being totally ridiculous!

Certainly I have known a few who were desperate for attention and almost dared someone to object if they took out practically their entire breast for all to see....those types DO exist. But they are best ignored, the vast majority of women breastfeed in the middle - not ashamed or hiding away but neither making a big 'behold the earth mother' kind of thing.

It's not a perversion? The poor little poppet can't help but get an erection from a breast feeding mother, so they must cover up?

Are you actually serious? Really serious?

Maybe tits during sex is a turn on for men, but breast feeding means they get turned on, so we must protect them??

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I agree. I think it’s pretty rare to be shocked/disgusted/cat’s-bum-mouth about breastfeeding.

I was incapable of discreet feeding – tongue-tied babies with tiny mouths, enormous boobs where you had to do the “squish it and flip it” manoeuvre, plus they both from newborn did this incredibly annoying thing at the end of feeds where they’d fling themselves dramatically from the nipple and fall asleep arms up in my lap, and I was more concerned about stabilising them than whether I was scandalising someone’s retro husband – but still went largely unnoticed. And when it was noticed, my experience was the same as @DinnaeFashYersel: nice chats with other breastfeeding mothers, offers of coffee and cake, particularly when on a windswept park bench, offers for more comfortable seats, cushions, blankets, cooing over the baby, apologising for curious toddlers sticking their faces in my chest – which I never minded, really. The kids definitely aren’t judging, they’re interested!

@MrBenschangingroom stop tagging me, you've no idea of boundaries, so stop!

I’d rather sit and watch a mother breast feed than a pig of a man scoff his baguette whilst sharing his pathetic opinions. Perhaps he’s best off staying at home so he never needs to look at anyone else eating again; we shan’t miss his contribution to society.

Did you go round asking everyone in the cafe were they ok with you BF? Did you wear a sign or BF sitting on a toilet in a locked cubicle?

You're not old school, you're a disgrace to BF women!

Or a po faced woman sipping her earl grey tea!