My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

It’s funny how all/most men didn’t complain about page 3 models with their boobs out in the newspaper every week.

But a mother feeding a baby, showing much less skin than them, is somehow a massive issue.

What a shame OP. You appear to have married an ignorant, sexist knob.

It's sadly some women as well....

I’m breastfeeding a 10 month old.

I try to be discreet. I wouldn’t breastfeed at a table in a restaurant for example, or in front of my in laws. I just don’t want anyone else seeing my boob, and DS is of an age where he will turn to look at something mid feed. Equally I respect that nobody wants to see my nipple while eating or just in general (bar DP lol). DS has better and longer feeds when somewhere quiet and not distracted which means he’s nice and full and doesn’t constantly ping on and off the breast.

I do find some women to be really confrontational when it comes to this. I went to a baby cafe a while ago and one woman was recounting, with glee, laying into a teen boy working at a leisure centre who asked her not to feed in the swimming pool. She even said ‘I’d been waiting for this moment!’ she was delighted

On another note why would you want a newborn ingesting pool water full of verruca juice and chlorine from your boob?! Vile.

Much as people are entitled to their opinions, an unsubstantiated opinion is valueless. This is a personal hang-up. And personal hang-ups are very much your own issue. Your right to hold an opinion does not make this the rest of the world's problem.

If you disapprove of public breastfeeding, then don't breastfeed in public and redirect your gaze away from other women who do.

It's that straightforward.

'they' are angry because you are spouting shite quite frankly. That's the long and the short of it as they say.

that OP makes me wish i was still BF and i'd track him down and just bf wherever he was. Constantly

I wonder what all the men ogling over images of the delightful Sam Fox would have said had they known she was a lesbian.

One in the eye for them, as it were ...

100% agree with OP’s husband.

Shocking and shameful

Actually I think when women breastfeed their baby is is a good thing. I think more should probably do it if they can. Not everyone wants to though.

All I'm saying is my opinion (yes not fact) is I would prefer women to pick a quiet discrete corner if possible.

Everyone being angry about it is not going to make me have a different opinion.
Lots of others have said the same.

Is this not a discussion forum? The OP asked what others though of her husbands views. I agree with them. Carry on being angry - I'll still be thinking the same thing.

By the way I'm the woman who holds the door open for you and your buggy and helps you with your baby bag at the counter when you are struggling to carry everything.

Woman are entitled to breastfeed wherever they want and I (and the others) are allowed to prefer they went somewhere more discrete. And so the world goes on........

@MrBenschangingroom women do t breastfeed because of judgemental women like you.....

Does that not make you ashamed?

If men breastfed, they would do it in the middle of wherever and be competative and shirtless.

This is a misogynistic comment.

Breastfeeding is a power only women have, and men who are uncomfortable by it are deeply insecure as its something they can't do.

so your opinion is correct and factual. Nobody else is allowed to disagree with you or have another point of view.

But women here are also showing the same breastfeeding shaming....

Awful

I think the anger comes from the fact that this type of attitude might be unhelpful to some breast feeding mothers.

Fine to have a different opinion but sometimes its worth stopping and thinking about how your opinion might come across to others and the effects that might have on some people. In this case it could make some woman feel very uncomfortable when they shouldn't.

Exactly this!

But if they open the door for a woman with a buggy that want praise.....

Why?

As I've said I would never say anything or do anything to let the woman know my thoughts.

I'm allowed my own opinion. We are all 'judgmental' about pretty much everything.

I doubt any woman has ever had 2nd thoughts because of me. I doubt they even knew I was in the room.

Actually I think when women breastfeed their baby is is a good thing. I think more should probably do it if they can

Well, be aware that telling women they should be discrete will put some off. Breastfeeding in public can be intimidating and stressful. Please stop making it harder for women by telling them there's a 'right' way of doing it.

I would have loved to have been more discrete, but it wasn't physically possible. Comments like yours would have really thrown me and knocked my confidence.

make them think they have to wear a "smock" of they're pregnant, like they should hide they've had sex and are now happily carrying a child

This took a bit of turn, erm 😂😂😂

The 1st time I saw those cover ups for breastfeeding was in Canada.

I must admit I did keep looking trying to figure out why these women had a huge bib on. Took me a while to realise there was a baby underneath.

Personally, I thought it drew attention to the feeding. I don't normally notice it normally. DH thought the same.

For reference I couldn't breast feed so my kids were bottle fed

As I've said I would never say anything or do anything to let the woman know my thoughts.

You're expressing them on here and women who are establishing breastfeeding or planning to are reading them

of course which is why I would never volunteer this opinion in real life unless someone specifically asked. This thread is the OP asking for our opinions on what her husband said. Should I have lied then and said I though he was an idiot. Does that not make the forum kind of pointless then.

By the way I'm the woman who holds the door open for you and your buggy and helps you with your baby bag at the counter when you are struggling to carry everything.

Hang on. Here is your 🥇!

Oh no, I'll save that for the woman that doesn't judge a breastfeeding mother!

Do you expect the BF mother that sits in the busy area of the cafe, because it was the only seat available, to move to the edge when a seat becomes available? So that you don't strain your neck and roll your eyes? Because she should be more modest? Does she need to explain to you, why she's also bang in the middle, so you don't judge her?

Yes but the OP asked. Should I lie in my answer? Surely that makes the forum pointless.

You will also note that I have said several times that I agree with breastfeeding, that I think mothers should do it.