My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

@MrBenschangingroom women can and do ogle?

Did you not know that?

Modesty is a dirty word because it’s a way of repressing women.
Mens behaviour is “disgusting’ not “immodest”.

I agree, it's not a sight everyone wants to see......

So why don't you sit behind a large plant to avoid it?

This really is a weird thread for a site purporting to support mums.

It's not a special part of bonding, it's a practical way to get a baby fed. Or do you think women bottlefeeding need to hide away to bond as well? 20 years ago, I had many elderly woman remark positively on breastfeeding.

Comments like this are so damaging to people's confidence feeding.

How would you know how easy it is for a new mum to be 'discrete'?

Have you ever breastfed yourself? More specifically, have you breastfed with her boobs, her milk supply, her baby?

Of course not. So you have zero clue how easy it is for her.

@FinFan24 modesty is not a dirty word, it's just oppressive to women!

When did you last ask a man to show some modesty?

Agreed

I didn't see it as a "Special Part of Bonding" whatever the fuck that means I was just feeding my child.

Baffles me that it would give you the heave my baby drinking milk from me but presumably not from a bottle...

Bad news for those who believe the older generations had more 'modesty' and decorum.

Public breastfeeding has been around forever.

Image circa 1943.

Those covers are an abomination. Like something from Gilead.

Also what's offensive about seeing a boob, tit or whatever?

What bothers you?

I only managed BF a very short time, but it was lovely tbf. But quickly forgotten once the bottles came in. Neither method was better, both had benefits.

Brilliant!!

Yout husband and all the PP agreeing with him are gross pervy weirdos.

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@MrBenschangingroom the older generation also allowed their husbands to beat them and thought that was ok, had sex against there wants, because that was there duty to their husbands, turned a blind eye to infidelity for the sake of the children

That generation has a lot to be thoroughly ashamed off .

Modesty was another way to oppress women and you should be totally ashamed for suggesting it was a positive from days ago!

Shameful you are!

😅100% this.

Your husband is a total twat.

Show him this video :-)

A women feeding her baby is not 'offensive' - it just feels like something that is private to her and her baby and should be done in a quiet, private place as far as possible.

@MrBenschangingroom why? You're assuming everyone is as inhibited as you, had the same issues due to upbringing

It's so weird and thank god we've moved on, well most of us have!

I agree with your husband. Years ago I was waiting in a photography studio waiting room for photographs for my 3-week-old. A couple came in with a 2-year-old that was in really good mood but it was my turn next. My turn came and I suggested they go first as I was feeding my infant. Neither the couple with their 2-year-old nor the photographer and assistant knew I was breastfeeding. There is a way to be classy.

It "just feels like" that to you but not to me.

I don't agree with any of this. I am modest for my own sake not for mens.

It might “feel like” that to you. But it isn’t.

It’s just feeding a hungry baby. It isn’t private. It isn’t sacred. It isn’t special. You have to feed a baby loads, every single one is not a special fucking “private” moment, it’s largely just a functional act.

Ps. Attitudes like this just add to the overall “women are so mysterious” crap that is the reason why our healthcare is shite too and perfectly normal things like breastfeeding, periods, miscarriages and menopause are shameful / taboo