My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

Tell your husband he’s embarrassing when he eats, he should be more discreet about it, go to the edge of the food court by himself, maybe cover his head, or maybe sit behind a pot plant to eat, better still he should go eat his dinner in the toilets.
what a pleb.

Your husband sounds awful, OP.

It's so depressing and discouraging on a site for new mums to read this shit. I honestly despair.

I'm surprised he hasn't said that they should go in the toilet to breastfeed!

God this thread is depressing. Your husband is a nob OP.

I have big boobs and I had a very fast let down. I expect I was less 'discrete' than some on here would like, but I was more concerned with stopping my son choking than their delicate sensibilities. Just imagine!

BFing women are concerned with nourishing their baby. If you unfortunately can only see their breasts as sex objects, then kindly turn your head away and keep that gross thought to yourself.

Put the baby under your top! Lol have you ever breastfed? That is impossible. At least, it's possible if you a) don't care about milk going everywhere except your baby's mouth and b) potentially smothering your baby to death if it's a newborn.

Lemme see, what's worse, being "indiscreet" or starving and smothering my baby? I better get behind that aspidistra

I know, right? 🤦‍♀️

And we wonder why rates are so low

I agree with your husband. You should of course feed your baby when it needs it but a little bit of discretion is appropriate. I am female.

@porridgeisbae you don't have to spend the whole time drinking a coffee with your head at a weird angle!

You could leave
Turn your chair to the side
Look at your phone and update MN at how you've got a neck ache from staring at a breast feeding mother

You'd be weird if you were constantly staring at anyone whilst drinking your coffee. Do you often do that?

😂😂 He can fuck right off with his stupid opinion then can’t he. Sorry you’re married to a prick.

Tell him I’ll feed my child wherever and however I like thank you.

But what does "a little bit of discretion" mean to you? Turning your back, hiding in the corner, putting an apron on.... to.me these are all way more than "a little bit of discretion".

Or you could bring a towel with you and hang it over your head to drink your coffee?

This and especially the women agreeing! Absolutely outrageous.
I feel very lucky I fed 3 babies over a year each and never had a bad comment IRL.
People are all shitty opinions online, thank god no one had the balls to criticise me feeding in public.

Saying from my childhood "it's a pity he suffers!"

It was always my preference to sit at a table with a little more privacy when breastfeeding. However sometimes you just have to sit where there's space. And if a baby needs feeding you feed the baby.

Mystifies me that people are that bothered by what other people are doing in a restaurant or cafe. Is the company at their own table not enough for them?

And if the baby is choking and spluttering on the key down, is it acceptable to unlatch them (potentially showing some boob) or should we just take our chances?

the one last night at one point had me helpless with laughter, not at the OP’s truncated automaton like replies but the earnest do gooding bristling advice

this one just doesn‘t have that je ne sais quoi
that an OP claims to be a longterm poster is meaningless

I would like to thank the posters last night who afforded me tears of laughter
and indeed the OP with the anagrammatical name for maintaining the thread
so subtly.

There is precious little humour on here these days, credit where it is due.

Discretion?!! The baby’s head covers the breast for the most part. If you can see anything it’s because YOU ARE LOOKING.

Maybe some people need to be more discreet when they’re ogling new mums in public.

And it's hard enough to actually feed them, with the best will in the world, without this needless judgement. Fair play to you, I couldn't manage a year 😞

Discretion is apparently more important than the baby's basic sustenance so it must be more important than them choking I assume!

It's all very well telling people not to look but some performance breast feeding mums don't always make it easy.

I remember one occasion when we went into a cafe. It was very busy and we asked a couple sitting at a table for 4 if they minded us joining them. They said they were nearly finished anyway and so we sat opposite them. While we were waiting for our food the other couple left and before we could move to opposite each other a couple of mums with babies in arms came and sat opposite us. They got comfortable and then both of them got both breasts out and started to feed their babies. This meant that we either had to look at the ceiling, the table or to the extreme right or left. We had ordered and paid for our food and there was nowhere else to move to. It was very uncomfortable for both of us and we rushed our food and left. There were other mums there feeding their babies and you would be hard pressed to notice but these two were so out there with it all and we felt they were just waiting for one of us to look vaguely in the direction of their breasts so that they could say something. It was horrible so I totally get where the OPs husband was coming from.

Maybe I would rather see a young Mums and Babe feeding ,than some awful loud mouthed boar drinking and shouting and slurping their food .Your DH sounds unkind and unpleasant

Hahahaha! Behold! A man has entered to share his manly opinion.

Shame the field where I grow all my fucks is barren.

Please @marshmallowburn. Nobody cares about your H’s opinion on women’s bodies, especially if he can’t handle a bit of flesh on display.

There is no reason not to be discrete. If there is and you simply have to just do it right in the middle of the street, do it. People will stare at you, because you'll be the only one. Just like if you were snogging your partner, people will look because it is actually a personal moment that is being carried out intimately which is why people look. Of course babies need to be fed. But really why wouldn't you want to just sit to the side a bit? Like I would if i was having a sandwhich or drink. I just go to the most private place because that's the nicest place to be! But agree it's not up for anyone to tell you. Just do it where you want. And not being funny, but who gives a shit what anyone thinks about it?