My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

Well you see... babies are human beings and it's not very comfortable having your dinner with a cloth over your face is it?

Did you dick of a husband pay attention in biology, or is he one of those males who believes that breasts only exist for sexual gratification?
Tell him to go to the edge of the food court and sit behind a potted plant, then he won't have to stare at women who are breastfeeding, making them feel uncomfortable.

Why? Is it equally horrific in a changing room if someone lets it all hang out? I'm not particularly liberal but this is not a hill to die on. It's something to be fought for imo.

OP, if your husband is ever in Glasgow, please let me know so that I can go sit right next to him and feed my son. I’m usually relatively discreet, but I’ll make sure that I’m wearing a low cut top and flop a whole boob out especially for the occasion.

Im not a parliamentarian, but I have fed my son in my workplace. If anyone was put out by it then they certainly didn’t say, but then maybe that’s because I give off an air of ‘I don’t give a flying feck about your opinion on this matter’ 😂

No way would I risk suffocating my kid to spare some prudish stranger an apoplexy over a 0.3 second, two-millimetre flash of tit

@SerafinasGoose That might be what you think it looks like when you do it but it isn't what it looks like whenever I've had someone doing this in front of me. It's like, unmissable large boob and then the baby is around the nipple.

Perhaps you should look away if it makes you so uncomfortable?

The same reason I don’t put a cover over my own head when I eat- that would be very uncomfortable! I’ll just keep ‘flopping a boob out’ but in general I do put a baby’s face over it 😂 there’s nothing exhibitionist about breastfeeding at all.

Urgh, this judgemental nonsense just persists.

It's not exhibitionism, breastfeeding is never considered to be inappropriate in public, legally. Sometimes it's just what works best for that particular woman, and really who cares? Doesn't affect anyone else. Use the same process that you use when you see other things that you personally don't like, but other people are entitled to do. Turn your head and concentrate on something else. People who are upset and perturbed by it, or consider it "exhibitionism" are demonstrating their own hang ups.

Thank god you're in the minority, just imagine more people like you and your DM!

The world would be a sadder place!

LTB

I do lol but if it's right in front of you you have to spend the whole time you're having your coffee with your head turned at a weird angle.

Just cover up, people.

Do you object to any showing of breast, cleavage, sideboob, etc, low cut tops, or is it just when a woman is using her breast to feed a baby that you have an issue?

Your DH’s opinion is idiotic, sad and he’s BVU.

But what’s worse is how many women seemingly agree with him.

No, we won't thanks. Perhaps you could get a straw or something.

Exactly.

Whenever I see a woman breastfeeding I make a point of not looking in order to protect her and baby's privacy. But she has a right to breastfeed as, when and wherever she needs to.

If it makes him uncomfortable, he can leave. While he's at it, he can ask himself why a child being fed makes him feel that way.

Here's some "unmissable large boob", still less than you'd see of many women in a bikini.

Ludicrous that anyone thinks this should be done in a corner or under a cover. I'm only sitting on the floor here because we'd moved in that day and the furniture van hadn't arrived yet!

Never seen any more than this of anyone's breasts while feeding other than a momentary bit of nipple if it was a friend I was actually sitting right next to.

Go sit somewhere else if it bothers you.

Don't look, then!

Just to say that i have large breasts - 32G - and I am nursing a 15 month old on demand.

I am very happy to "wap out a boob" in public when my child wants to nurse because that's what my breasts are for.

They feed and nourish my child and i absolutely don't give a flying flamingo if my skin is on show. I haven't got any fucks to give if that makes anyone heave or uncomfortable.

No one is obliged to look. It's THEIR problem, not mine.

Just a mother feeding her child, nothing to see here.

Do you normally stare at women’s boobs?

If not, why are you only doing it when she’s feeding?

If you don’t need to turn your head at a weird angle when someone is covered up (because I assume you’re not sat there staring at someone’s tits), then why is it any different if they’ve got a baby feeding?

Anyone who objects to seeing a woman feeding a baby is tripping over their own feelings about breasts being a sexualised body part.

Keep your dirty thoughts to yourself and let mothers get on with feeding their babies.

Either have I! It's always the same people seen it countless times.....

I call bullshit!

I daresay if one goes out actively looking for it one might get a glimpse of a bit of a boob now and again.

Why are you telling us this? Frankly it’s none of his business how and where women choose to feed their babies.