My husband thinks breastfeeding women should be more classy

[marshmallowburn]

He thinks if you are feeding, do not do it in the centre of a food court , try to go to the edges. Choose your seat around the fringe. Preferably near a potted plant. Choose to be discreet. Do not make a spectacle of yourself ( in Parliament),
In a restaurant, don't sit in the middle.
Women should show more discretion and decorum.

All of which is fine if you really want to hide away but entirely unnecessary.

I did none of that. And if anyone's thoughts and feelings were that seeing the back of my babies' heads in a position that made them think about my breasts then their thoughts and feelings are entirely unworthy of my consideration.

Being considerate of other people doesn't mean pandering to their hang-ups.

@Iwasafool I honestly couldn't care less what that woman was doing whilst breastfeeding, if it was working for her. For the few moments you were walking past, you can cope I'm sure.

As opposed to near someone with the IQ of a potted plant.

Anyone that shows some boob is not being un-classy or low-class fgs. Sometimes its unavoidable, issues with older babies, latching, breast size/shape, type of hold etc etc. No woman should be made to feel lesser by you and others with the same judgements, because of how they are feeding.

OP has replied multiple times in the thread expanding on her post

If he hates seeing a boob so much make sure he doesn't look in a mirror

I couldn't care less what you think so we are equal there. Funnily enough I'm entitled to think she was an exhibitionist but I guess some people are like that.

Let's put it this way shall we - when your husband is breastfeeding your baby he can do it exactly how he likes. Until then he should keep his mouth firmly zipped - no one, but no one is in the least bit interested in his opinion, in the same way that they wouldn't be interested in his opinion about the best analgesia to tackle period pain, feminine hygiene products, or how to choose a suitable bra!

Weird why you are quoting me. Weird that you think different countries do not all have cultures like your own.

I am not even from the UK and I don't need to be told "to get out a bit". 😂

Lots of people don't choose to 'make an exhibition of it'. Most people don't. And it's those attitudes that put people off doing it. Some people gawp, and it's their attitudes that are the problem. And that makes it harder for new mums imo.

I think he should hide by a potted plant.

Your husband needs to go back to living in the 1900's. I am still breastfeeding my 15-month-old and will not ever be ditacted too where I should feed my baby. I eat at a restaurant table then so will my baby, if anyone has an issue, then they can move themselves. I would not be moving.

I did it in the window of Sommerfields (showing age). Does that have enough decorum for your DH? It was at the edge of the shop.

My boobs are very classy, perfectly formed and fed 3 babies, two at the same time. No one is trying to be sexy while feeding a baby.

The original post didn’t say the husband had any hang ups about breastfeeding, didn’t mention being aroused by breastfeeding mothers and men who do have these issues are probably in the minority and hopefully would keep their mouths shut.

The original post was a point of view about feeding baby and discretion when doing so. He didn’t deserve the barrage of abuse that some authors of posts have subjected him to. Shame on you.

As a once breastfeeding mother I agree with him. Feeding baby discreetly isn’t giving into the whims of men or other onlookers or passers by.

I do too, but people have different opinions. I'm breastfeeding my third now and always try to either cover up or sit in the back or something .
I'm not ashamed of breastfeeding, but I don't necessarily want to flaunt my breasts. Babies especially as the get older tend to wiggle around exposing a lot of my breast. I feel like having some decorum is for myself, because I don't want to show my breasts to the world, and to not make other people uncomfortable. Why would I try to be as obvious as I could about it?

I mean picking your nose/blowing your nose, taking care of zits etc, maybe scratching your bum or taking out a wedgie are all completely natural, but that doesn't mean I do it publicly. Your try to be as discreet as possible.

"preferably near a potted plant" 😂😂😂😂! Is he normally this much of a dickhead? What a strange thing to say 😂😂. You can only get your boobs out behind the Yukka...oddball.

So what do you think op?

Jesus Christ, read the the title of the OP. He clearly has hang ups if he feels women feeding their babies are not 'classy' enough for him. Cop yourself on.

Exactly this me to. It's the one's who lob it out of the top of their top like look at me I'm breastfeeding. I remember reading an article about an Australian woman. Thought the Ideal place to breastfeed a toddler was on the floor of a supermarket clothing section and got in a nark when asked to move.🙄🙄🙄

Kinell.

No way would I risk suffocating my kid to spare some prudish stranger an apoplexy over a 0.3 second, two-millimetre flash of tit followed by the sight of a baby's head.

This is about an odd inability to separate the biological function of breasts from their sexualised image in western culture. It's about the age-old Mary versus whore complex: that disconnect between women's 'sexiness' as opposed to their maternal function (implied sexless - which is odd considerating the way babies are made).

In short, it's good old-fashioned rank misogyny. Again.

I think it's fine to sit where you want but I don't see why more women don't put something over themselves or put the baby under their top or whatever.

The women who choose to flop a boob out in public without putting anything over it do seem like exhibitionists.

Why does he have an opinion and why do you think anyone cares to hear it ?

That's nice for your husband.

I'll continue to feed my child how and where I like.

HTH.