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How do you feel about women that don't wear make-up -thread 2

217 replies

flutterby1 · 20/02/2024 07:41

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in my mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or self confident enough not to ' need' it, regardless of how attractive you view yourself ?

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Summerthing · 07/06/2025 20:56

@BIossomtoes love 'more front than Brighton' - never heard that before!

I'm not a very confident person and I used to hide behind make-up when I was younger. I often go out without make-up now though and I find people respond to me in a more friendly way when I'm make-up free.

I love to see a fresh-faced beauty such as Yvonne Strahovski in The Handmaid's Tale.

Hiddenvoice · 07/06/2025 23:13

MarvellousMonsters · 07/06/2025 20:42

Oh @Hiddenvoice what an incredibly cruel thing to say. I hope your H told her she was wrong.

He was amazing, said he wasn’t even going to respond to such a horrible comment and told them the night was over and showed them the door. Hasn’t spoken to them since.

People can be cruel for absolutely no reason!

Praying4Peace · 07/06/2025 23:25

Octavia64 · 20/02/2024 08:24

I don't wear make up.

I have tried, mostly when I am ill and I know my face reflects that.

I hate the way it feels on my skin. I hate the way it makes my eyes itchy.

And fundamentally I don't have to look at me so I don't care what I look like.

I wfh. I know there are minimum socially acceptable standards for both men and women for clothing and I do stick to them when I am out ( so I do dress up when needed) but frankly I live in jeans/joggers/shorts and T shirt and I'm very happy like that. I work for myself so my boss is also happy.

I don't worry too much about people judgjj in by me because I use a wheelchair and for most people that is the first and only thing they see. They wouldn't notice if I was an alien as they only see the wheelchair.

Gosh!
I really hope that there are people who see you before the wheelchair
I'm hoping that society's attitude and prejudices are in the change process

StrawberryWater · 07/06/2025 23:28

I couldn't care less whether other people wear make up. It doesn't even factor into my way of thinking.

I personally don't wear make up. I'm allergic to pretty much every thing (even the so called hypoallergenic stuff) so it's not even a choice.

WeCouldDoBetter · 07/06/2025 23:51

I don't have much of an opinion of women who don't wear make up. I do sometimes but more often than not, I don't.

However, I find women who wear tons of make-up, especially the flawless, airbrushed look, a bit difficult to read, as if they're wearing a uniform or mask and not showing who they truly are.

biwinoone · 08/06/2025 00:16

TryForSpring · 07/06/2025 19:24

In your opinion. As someone who wears makeup at times, but doesn't most days, your "natural is best" dogma sounds judgemental and insular.

I will stick to what I said. For me special occasion was my wedding and I didn’t feel like myself wearing full makeup. I have attended other people’s weddings bare faced or with just lipstick to go with the dress. My lipstick never stays for long and I don’t touch up.

SunnyOchreNewt · 08/06/2025 02:28

I have only thought about this one time in my life. I was shopping in Sainsbury's on a Sunday morning and I saw my boss without makeup! She's normally plastered. I thought how much younger and better she looked without it.

PoppingZits · 08/06/2025 07:17

I don’t wear make up and couldn’t care less what other people think. Same about others who choose to wear it or not. Who cares?!

Goingawayistricky · 08/06/2025 08:16

BIossomtoes · 07/06/2025 20:40

I feel sorry for those who wear makeup everyday and feel like they don’t have enough confidence to go without

I suggest you take your pity and stick it where the sun don’t shine. I’ve got more front than Brighton, with or without make up. I just prefer my face with it. How dare you judge and condescend to other women about whom you know nothing?

Well fair enough but if you put on “a front” that’s what people see.

As I says make up isn’t on my radar so I don’t think anything either way.

However watching Married at First Sight(Australia) you see the participants with (lots of) and without. One in particular had very pale skin and acne. Objectively she should have looked worse bare faced but actually she had more expression and came across better without. As did all
of them. It’s only when you contrast both you see what else make up hides.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 08/06/2025 08:21

I love a natural face. My husband does too. I always wear a bit of mascara and blusher but that’s it. Weekends nothing unless I’m going somewhere nice. When I see a make up free face I think that woman is confident in her skin and/or has more important matters at hand.

whiteluckycat · 08/06/2025 08:24

I wore make-up daily in my 20s and for most of my 30s, even when I had young babies and toddlers and wasn’t going anywhere!

I stopped wearing it (other than for special occasions) 5 or so years ago. I have blonde lashes and don’t even bother with mascara.

I think it’s because I now feel more confident in myself and can’t see the point in wearing it daily. I have other priorities.

So I never judge others without make up. Or with, unless it’s piled on along with fillers and massive fake eyelashes etc.

Zanatdy · 08/06/2025 08:26

I wear make up every day now but didn’t for years. As i’m approaching 50, I definitely need a big of foundation so usually do some eye make up too, but only wear lipstick at parties.

BIossomtoes · 08/06/2025 10:25

Well fair enough but if you put on “a front” that’s what people see.

More front than Brighton is a metaphorical colloquialism for having confidence, which I can assure you I have way too much of.

I can’t believe the absolute nastiness and sense of superiority from women who don’t wear make up on this thread. Who the fuck do you think you are?

RosesAndHellebores · 08/06/2025 10:35

I don't feel or think anything about women who do or don't wear make-up. My life is full of other priorities.

I wear make-up almost every day because I like it. Not much and it's a 3/5 minute job and makes me feel good. That's all that matters.

Krest · 08/06/2025 11:42

Oh God I didn’t really anyone would ever judge me for something that would only ever affect me. I never wear make up. Only on a rare occasion if I’m out in the evening. Never during the day. Not because it don’t need to, but quite simply I cba.

notacooldad · 08/06/2025 11:46

I can't recall feeling anything about people not wearing makeup.
I have thought that someone may have gone too heavy with blush, for example or that i wish I could get my eye make up as nice as someone's but it doesn't occur to me to have a thought that they don't have make up on.

Parker231 · 08/06/2025 11:49

Don’t wear makeup and never have even on my wedding day. I use a moisturiser with spf and a lip balm - all that’s needed.
Do I notice those wearing makeup - sometimes when it’s obvious and badly put on.

BeNiceWhenItsFinished · 08/06/2025 12:40

StrawberryWater · 07/06/2025 23:28

I couldn't care less whether other people wear make up. It doesn't even factor into my way of thinking.

I personally don't wear make up. I'm allergic to pretty much every thing (even the so called hypoallergenic stuff) so it's not even a choice.

I don't know about you, but I'm even more sensitive to the hypoallergenic stuff than I am to ordinary. Hay fever season is particularly trying.

Make-up is something I have gladly jettisoned day-to-day.

Goingawayistricky · 08/06/2025 13:17

BIossomtoes · 08/06/2025 10:25

Well fair enough but if you put on “a front” that’s what people see.

More front than Brighton is a metaphorical colloquialism for having confidence, which I can assure you I have way too much of.

I can’t believe the absolute nastiness and sense of superiority from women who don’t wear make up on this thread. Who the fuck do you think you are?

I know the quote.
I thought “ the front” worked for both confidence and the face you show the world,

I hate the expression “ who the fuck do think you are”. Pointlessly aggressive. Why should we all think the same as you?

I can’t see anyone being nasty. If anything it’s the make up wearers thinking bare faces are unkempt or lacking .

Nothing to stop you going without make up. You make the choice every day.

user1476613140 · 08/06/2025 13:19

Generally I don't wear any make up day to day except for a special occasion....

ShowDownTime · 08/06/2025 13:20

I don’t think anything. I don’t think I notice. I only notice when people wear noticeable makeup. I don’t like the caked on foundation and brows look that’s fashionable nowadays. I wear a tinted moisturiser, some concealer here and there and a cream blush. Mascara in the evening maybe. Never lipstick as mine are thin, just Vaseline!

Illegally18 · 08/06/2025 13:34

ExercicenformedeZ · 07/06/2025 12:51

I'm 42 and I am often without makeup. I do like a cat eye, but I make a point of not wearing skin makeup every day and I never contour. I loathe the Kardashian/TOWIE overdone look and think it looks very low rent, especially when worn with trackie bottoms (that seems to be a mini trend lately) I do love lipstick, however.

Yes I love lipstick as well.

BIossomtoes · 08/06/2025 18:08

I can’t see anyone being nasty.

Perhaps you should read the thread a little less selectively.

I feel sorry for those who wear makeup everyday and feel like they don’t have enough confidence to go without isn’t particularly nice, is it?

YodasHairyButt · 08/06/2025 18:13

I don’t wear make up because it makes my face feel dirty. Whether other people choose to do so is none of my concern.

ZoeCM · 08/06/2025 18:25

I respect them. I only wear make-up because I don't have the confidence to go without it. And although I only wear light make-up, I still feel a strange relief when I take it off - a bit like when I take my jewellery off.

I know a woman who was super-feminine, always dolled up to the nines, seemed incredibly confident. In her late thirties, she got into body-building and left her husband for a woman. I haven't seen her wear a skirt, high heels, make-up or jewellery (except for her nose piercing) for about six years. She seems so happy now. There's something refreshing about seeing someone who used to be so concerned about looking glamorous just being comfortable in her own skin.