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Original poster

Wish mumsnet would stop Deleting threads

87 replies

Haydenn · 19/02/2024 14:13

Anyone else get really cheesed off when they are reading a thread and it just disappears for no apparent reason or for “investigation behind the scenes”. As far as I know there is no investigation because these threads never reappear, I lose count of the number of times I am half way through a reply or just reading a thread and it vanishes.

I know people get annoyed when others don’t read the full thread, but it doesn’t really encourage this!!! I was really interested in the lady and her daughter with the gusto boxes this morning- it struck quite close to home for me as a childless daughter in a similar boat…

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BounceHighBaby · 19/02/2024 14:14

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 19/02/2024 14:15

I feel exactly the same. I understand that MN have to take some things down and I don't mind when they explain, but it drives me mad that they take something down to look at it and we never get an update.

Robinbuildsbears · 19/02/2024 14:18

Agreed. I'm not convinced that they ever reappear when they get taken down. And then that's just the end of the conversation for everyone permanently, because we're not allowed to start a new thread about the deleted thread.

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Haydenn · 19/02/2024 14:19

Drives me up the wall, I don’t really care if it might be a reverse or a few details changed. The delete the post but then dozens of quite well thought out responses vanish too. 😡

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Ihatethenewlook · 19/02/2024 14:22

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I think it’s more people reporting other people’s posts than people reporting their own. I’ve seen people commenting on their own threads asking for them to be removed, but they’ve been left up. There’s usually a ‘trolling’ message left by mn when somethings disappeared from what I’ve seen, even when it’s just people having a laugh on a thread. I wonder what they’re classing as trolling nowadays, as it seems to be everything

LolaSmiles · 19/02/2024 14:24

It depends. There's been a run of threads recently on the same topic and it's obviously someone with a weird obsession about that topic. It's understandable why MN would delete them.

SurelySmartie · 19/02/2024 14:25

Yes it is really annoying. Even if the op has some doubt the replies are often interesting. I think MN should only delete if it’s really obviously dodgy/ trolly.

Sauvblanctime · 19/02/2024 14:37

Agreed!!!

Original poster
Haydenn · 19/02/2024 14:38

LolaSmiles · 19/02/2024 14:24

It depends. There's been a run of threads recently on the same topic and it's obviously someone with a weird obsession about that topic. It's understandable why MN would delete them.

But if there’s been 200 odd comments, then people obviously still find the chat interesting and it’s a lot of genuine user comments to remove. I also think if mumsnet have got it wrong it’s a bit awful for the original poster to be told they sound fake.

obviously if the thread is obscene or goads then fine. But I really find most of the deletions frustrating

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SemperIdem · 19/02/2024 14:38

I agree with you

Hoplolly · 19/02/2024 14:38

It's been excessive recently.

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 19/02/2024 14:43

I agree with you. I was very invested in that thread this morning too 😂. It feels like a waste of time commenting on threads only to see the threads get taken down. You invest time following the thread and then it just vanishes.

Cazpar · 19/02/2024 14:47

That thread was a total pile on and full of personal attacks.

Lord knows what value anyone thinks it would have.

LolaSmiles · 19/02/2024 14:50

I didn't see the thread this morning OP, sorry.
The ones I'm talking about disappeared quite quickly, often with half a dozen "not this again" comments.

Hoplolly · 19/02/2024 14:54

Some of the threads I was contributing to and their reasons (in the past week or so)

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Original poster
Haydenn · 19/02/2024 14:56

Cazpar · 19/02/2024 14:47

That thread was a total pile on and full of personal attacks.

Lord knows what value anyone thinks it would have.

As a childfree daughter I found it incredibly valuable and validating reading the comments and perspectives.

My own situation is slightly different where my parents are leaving almost everything to my sibling, and I was terribly hurt when they told me this. I don’t financially support them in the way mentioned in the thread (and I’m not loaded 😂) but I found the balance of comments very interesting in justifying the hurt I felt years ago when I was told.

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/02/2024 15:02

This thread will probably be deleted too as it's a TAAT

StevieNicksWannabe · 19/02/2024 15:06

For me, it's the fact that @MNHQ pick and choose what they're willing to remove. I've had threads on here before that have had pile-ons and caused me a little upset, other threads that upon reflection were outing and a mistake. once or twice, I've requested removal but oh no, refused due to the value of the thread as a whole and it not being their policy to remove blah blah blah

Rules for one and rules for another. Have a policy and bloody well stick to it.

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Haydenn · 19/02/2024 15:11

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/02/2024 15:02

This thread will probably be deleted too as it's a TAAT

No it’s not, it’s a thread about a policy.

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Whoopaday · 19/02/2024 15:13

I liked reading that thread. My life would be deemed unbelievable if I posted it all at once, someone would call me a troll. I name change for each bit as people will only believe small sections at a time. Don’t see why they should be deleted. I remember the poor person who had a premature baby and was deleted for being a troll. She then appeared on one born every minute, or whatever the programme was as a real person who did need support.

randomchap · 19/02/2024 15:19

At least they could give a proper reason for the deletion.

Too many times it's taken down to be looked at, and that's the last message we get.

Notthrowingawaymyshot42 · 19/02/2024 15:24

I have noticed quite a few threads have a nasty feel atm. Starts ok but turns very negative towards op after a dozen or so posts.

Seems to be a bit of an unpleasant trend. I don't know if it's worse than usual but there is certainly something unpleasant going on.

MarmitePizza · 19/02/2024 15:25

Ihatethenewlook · 19/02/2024 14:22

I think it’s more people reporting other people’s posts than people reporting their own. I’ve seen people commenting on their own threads asking for them to be removed, but they’ve been left up. There’s usually a ‘trolling’ message left by mn when somethings disappeared from what I’ve seen, even when it’s just people having a laugh on a thread. I wonder what they’re classing as trolling nowadays, as it seems to be everything

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Yes - there was one from last week that just had pictures of Airbus planes in successive posts and just said “Airbus!” After about 6 posts MN deleted it because “it broke talk guidelines.” I wondered if I missed something because I didn’t get what the problem was. It seemed just a silly thread for fun to me!

CarolinaInTheMorning · 19/02/2024 15:27

I agree, but to a limited extent. There was a thread a couple of weeks ago that was basically started to bash Americans. There were quite a few of us US-based Mumsnetters responding to some of the many misapprehensions on the thread. When I woke up the following morning, it was gone, and I can only assume that some of the anti-American posts made during the night (my night) were OTT. But there was a lot of good information on that thread and some very detailed and considered posts by those of us responding to the anti-American posts. My guess is that MNHQ know that there are more and more American Mumsnetters these days, and to allow threads like that to stand does give the impression of a somewhat hostile environment.

CarolinaInTheMorning · 19/02/2024 15:30

Notthrowingawaymyshot42 · 19/02/2024 15:24

I have noticed quite a few threads have a nasty feel atm. Starts ok but turns very negative towards op after a dozen or so posts.

Seems to be a bit of an unpleasant trend. I don't know if it's worse than usual but there is certainly something unpleasant going on.

I've noticed this too. People asking for advice and just getting slammed for whatever situation they are in. And once one or two posters do it, then there is often a pile on.