If money was no object, how many kids would you have?

[Trueqe]

I have a friend who said to me the other day that there is a window for childbearing and in her opinion the goal is to have as many as we can whilst we can….money is no object for her as she is very rich.

I always end up feeling less maternal as I don’t agree with this at all. I have two kids and want to give them the best of me, having more than that, I just feel I’d be outnumbered and knackered and even if money were no object I really think I’d feel the same way.

Curious to see how other people feel?

YANBU - I’d stick with the number I’ve got if money was no object
YABU - Hell yeah, if I was loaded I’d have more, the more the better

Still would have stuck at one.

I probably would’ve had two, but ultimately it was down to time for me, ie, if we were really wealthy we would be able to outsource a load of boring stuff and have the same time we now have with DC1, would be able to have a nanny for DC2 as well as 1, so kids at home rather than wraparound and not spending a lot of our time with them on school runs etc. basically what we’ve been able to do for 1, to do for 2. Also looks like DC1 will struggle in state school
so likely going private, couldn’t do that for 2. Like the space in our current house but would want more with another DC etc.

Think the key words are successfully parent and I'm not sure anyone can give the children they attention they deserve if there were 6 kids. Most people in their 70s now had 4 or 5 siblings, I don't think the parents did it by choice. Although personally I think it's nice to have a big family, I've enjoy having lots of aunts, uncles and cousins, I'd never do this myself

None.

And ....... I'm on Mumsnet just to wind you up 😳

3, we stopped at 2 as the idea of buying a bigger car, and eventually house terrified us both

Money wasn’t the issue. Fertility was. I’m very blessed to have two. Would have more if I could. Maybe four.

Three

Just the one I have now

I have an overly-maternal condition, which meant that I never considered money (and we didn't have much!). No nannies or help needed...seven children...and that was just right! It has been a complete joy and it really is what life (my life - clearly I am made differently to most) is all about!
No issues through their teenage years - no issues academically...they will contribute to society (a doctor, a dentist, two at university - biomedical engineering and teaching...younger ones at college and school). And before people talk about overpopulation, clearly this thread shows that the few people who want to have more children are irrelevant, as most people, given the choice, don't want that many. So, maybe society should embrace those who really don't find it a bother!

Originally I would have wanted 3, but actually I think now I would stick to the 2 we already have.

0 but somehow I’m poor and ended up with 2!

I wasn't trying to be rude (sorry) just curious?

I have two. I would have liked four.

We are not loaded and has not affected our decision to have 3/4. What has is my age. I want to give them the best of me and that means being able to be active with them. Money is not a concern.

My parents our model they only had 3 of us but they only had minimum wage jobs. We disnt have much growing up but I had an amazing childhood and we all turned out fine. I was a radiographer, 1 dentist, 1 teacher and 1 Pharmacist. Money didn't and doesn't dictate success.
I had class mates who were only childs or only 1 other sibling. Education and extra ciricular and all the experinces in the world that money could buy. They ended up spoiled and lazy and didn't do anything with their lives other then bum around.
Having money can help but if you want to give the best and be the best parent that is time and attention and teaching then life skills is needed. Not money.

I'd have loved 3 to 5. No more than 5, I've got to carry and birth them!

What @tulippa said

Zero. It's not the money, it's the time to do things.

If money was no object I would have about 6.

1

None or one. Money makes no difference.

I’d probably have had rather a lot!

None.

Honestly, none. The physical affects pregnancy and birth have on the body is the biggest reason why i chose to have none, and money wouldn't change that. I don't agree with surrogacy so i wouldnt pay someone else to have one for me either.

If money were no object I would definitely have a second. Always wanted two but I'll need IVF which I can't afford.

If I was younger and had been better off financially, I wound have had four. Had to stop at two 😕