Do you get on with your SILs?

[ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees]

Just curious if people do?

I have 3 SILs married to my brothers (well one engaged).
I don't live close to any of them so not super close but I like them all. Just nice people, good company and I catch up with them when I'm back home and I seem them plenty even if my brothers are not around. We occasionally call/text but not regularly.

My partner's two sisters are completely indifferent to me. They aren't rude or unkind, they just make zero effort to even talk to me. If I talk to them, I get very little back. Partner just says we are very different types of people and they aren't as sociable. They are very sociable with everyone but me!

Just wondering how others get on?

I have one SIL (married to my brother). She's lovely and my DD adores her auntie. I probably actually get on better with her than with my brother.

We don't live near each other but we sometimes meet up if she is coming to see her family who live not too far from us.

She was my DBs first and only girlfriend and my Dsis and I think that he was incredibly lucky that she made the first move.😀

I have 3 SIL

My brother’s wife - we get on fine. We don’t live near each other so don’t see each other often, but when we do get together, we’re cool

DH has 2 sisters. One is lovely and we get on great. The other is a massive pain in the arse and we see as little of her as we can get away with.

Yes. I have two brother in laws and one sister in laws and we all get on great.

My brother has three sisters and I don't think he would ever have married someone that his sisters wouldn't get on with!

Rainbow1901 re in laws with the same name - I have 2 BILs with same name and a SIL and sister of a SIL with same name. But I think it was even worse in the earlier generation as I had 2 aunties with same name and 2 uncles.

DH is sadly estranged from his sister but she & I got on very well before that. DBro’s wife is absolutely lovely & we have got very close over the years. I am also fond of DH’s sister in law although we only see her & DH’s DBro maybe once or twice a year.

My Sil and I get on very well. We are quite similar and she always says she much prefers me to DH’s first wife who she really didn’t like. My Sil makes up for my dreadful Mil who is an abusive alcoholic mess who neither of us like. Unfortunately we live 4 hours apart but we talk frequently and when we are together we walk miles - nattering and putting the world to rights.

when I was younger i always imagined I would!! But in reality, not so much.
my DH’s sister is lovely & we get on well & chat when we see each other but that’s it, we don’t meet up or do things together other than usual family things.

my DB’s girlfriend leaves the room every time I enter the house!! 🙈 They live with my parents and at first I thought she was shy but 5 years on and she still gets up off the sofa and goes up to their bedroom or goes out for a walk the entire time I’m there. I have no idea why, I’m a quiet person but I always chat away with people. I guess some people just don’t click, and that’s ok!

One is very pleasant. The other is the worst thing that ever happened to our family and bullied my dearest old MIL making her last years a misery

I'm close to my SIL, she's my brother's wife and he died leaving her a widow at 25.
She has always been our sister, and my dad has her on his "daughters" WhatsApp chat.
My brothers been gone 13 years and she still comes to all our family events, cousins weddings, funerals, celebrations, often with her new partner.

My brother adored her, and we do as well, and always will.

I'm friends with my BILs partner but we don't see each other a lot as we live overseas, but get on well.

Superficially yes. I wouldn’t say we are friends, but we get along when required . If I wasn’t married to my dh I wouldn’t keep in touch put it that way.

my dbs wives I get along with , I think they’re great. Think it’s an in-law thing.

I have 2 SiLs (OH's sisters). Neither lives very close. One is about 200 miles away and moved the iLs nearer to her. The other is in a different country, swans over twice a year then sends OH very nasty emails about how he's not doing enough to help - kind of hard when he works full time and is so far away.

Even if they lived closer, I don't think I'd be particularly friendly with them as we don't have similar interests.

DSIL1 and her partner I can’t stand, the relationship between us and them fizzled out naturally, however I still love the Niblings they gave us and get regular updates from MIL about them, and always pass on our love.

DSIL2 and her partner and fabulous. Love them and the niblings they gave us!

Yes. I’m incredibly lucky. I speak to one of my SILs multiple times a week we r friends as well as family. I also speak to my other sil often and we r all helpful and good to each other. Between us we have 5 under 5 so they get what life is like. My other SIL I don’t speak to so much but she is my own brothers wife and he doesn’t bother with me n my kids much: we get on though she is nice

I’m not keen on my SIL, mainly because she is prone to inviting herself to stay (which I find incredibly rude) and then brings other relatives with her (which is even more rude) and generally behaves as though we’re a Travelodge. But DH is inexplicably terrified of rocking the boat and won’t stand up to her

My SIL is a bit of an odd ball who lacks social skills (my partner openly says this also). We get on okay when we have to see each other, but conversation is limited despite me trying (word one replies), so I’ve given up trying to make much conversation now. So, meh - we get on just okay but I avoid seeing her unless I have to!

Maybe they are just different kinds of people.

I have one sister in law, same age as me, who is nice enough but we are very different. I have a career, work full time, am a single mum, always on the go. I live rurally and like travel, gardening and running. She is a sahm, styles herself as an 'influencer', is heavily into clothes and nails etc.

I am told she finds me intimidating. I struggle to find anything to talk to her about beyond where my clothes came from. She isn't interested in politics or cooking or the environment or art, or any of the other things I can make a decent stab at a conversation about.

But she makes my brother happy and that is all that really matters.

Yes I do but they are very very different from me. I enjoy their company.

I have two SIL. One is DHs sister and is a spoilt little madam. We used to get on (with a lot of effort on my part!) but she had a hissy fit in the run up to her wedding and has gone NC.
one is married to my BIL and is a cow. Doesn’t like her husbands family and so will completely blank us all at events. Makes a horrible atmosphere.

IcedPlum · Yesterday 23:08

One is ok but never see her , the other three I have nothing to with highly toxic

It's the exact opposite for me! Three are great, we get on well, but the other one is a vile, aggressive, malignant bully, who has caused loads of problems by making stuff up about me. I avoid her wherever possible.

Yes, I've got 5 and they are all lovely.

DH has two sisters, 1 I get on well with but we don't really see too often although we get on well she's a lot older than us & we just have separate lives really. No other extended family so don't see her through them. The other we have been NC with for over 10 years.

Dhs sister is lovely.
Dhs brothers wife hated me on sight.
My brothers wife I don't know.

I have 3 - one is utterly insufferable and bat shit crazy - been with my DB for 20 years and her insanity just gets worse every year. My DH sis is okay but very strait laced and doesn’t pause for breath when you see her. The other one is just pure toxic and we don’t speak. Never will again thankfully.

Nope. Speak only when necessary. We have different values and I don’t believe in faking it.

I get on very well with my 3 SILs and 2 BILs. They, and my siblings, are some of my favourite people.