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Terrified i'm dying!!!!

697 replies

Lostmymind11 · 16/02/2024 16:37

Sorry if this is on the wrong thread but i'm not sure where to put it

Nearly 2yrs ago i had surgery to remove a sarcoma (no treatment afterwards as not needed). My 6 month scan was clear and i had another scan 4wks ago to check if it had come back. The hospital have rang today and told me they had booked me in next Friday to see a member of the surgery team. I am abaolutely terrified and beside myself with worry. I am a single parent to a very young child who has no contact with dad due to domestic abuse. I barely have any family/friend support. If the cancer is back i really don't know what i will do. I feel physically ill

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Coffeeisnecessary · 22/03/2024 15:19

This is such a good update, so pleased you have a plan of action, hope it doesn't take too long so you can be back to being cancer free.

Munchyseeds2 · 22/03/2024 17:07

This is good to read!
Onwards and upwards
Do something nice this weekend x

Lostmymind11 · 22/03/2024 17:18

Just been reading the information leaflet i was given about my surgery and 😩😩😩 i am absolutely terrified. I'm going to be in a right state after the surgery

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JohnSt1 · 22/03/2024 17:26

I know the surgery will be hard but it's a better outcome than you expected yesterday. You'll get through it.

I'm so pleased for you. This could be the end of it, and hopefully you have many healthy years ahead of you.

poetryandwine · 22/03/2024 17:28

Great news, OP.

Though it’s very understandable that you are scared. Can we help? 🩷🩷

CrunchyCarrot · 22/03/2024 17:57

It is good news OP, although the op is no doubt daunting for you, there is a lot of hope there! ❤

Illgotothefootofourstairs · 22/03/2024 17:58

OP when I was facing cancer surgery I felt exactly the same but half the things I got myself into a state about didn’t happen. They always have to point out the worst case scenario. Wishing you all the very best .

Tilllly · 22/03/2024 19:49

Lostmymind11 · 22/03/2024 17:18

Just been reading the information leaflet i was given about my surgery and 😩😩😩 i am absolutely terrified. I'm going to be in a right state after the surgery

Maybe, but you are going to be well looked after

Lostmymind11 · 22/03/2024 20:16

I just thought it would be the same as last time but no. An oxygen mask, tube up my nose and into my stomach to feed me and stapled together 😞

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DyslexicPoster · 22/03/2024 20:57

Just think that every step is closer to getting better. The surgery sounds harsh and its totally shit and unfair. But it's like a ladder. That's the first wrung over when you wake up, then you will start yo heal, then go home, then you start to feel better. You can get to top without stepping on the first wrung.

We are rooting for you

poetryandwine · 22/03/2024 21:40

OP,

I won’t pretend it is less than a big deal because it is not. But I honestly don’t think the procedures you have described are your big challenges. DH has had commensurate intubation and staples, for a different abdominal cancer. It was all fine. (DF had the sarcoma. There is a lot of cancer in my family) I’ve been very nervous about intubation and, like DH, found it no big deal, although mine was less involved.

I am SO not wanting to minimise your worries. Don’t hesitate to return and say I’ve been an insensitive cow here, missing your concerns. But in that case please come back with specifics that the community can address. You are facing a big challenge but I don’t think the procedures you have described should come top of the list. These are run of the mill, honestly.

Again, love and very best wishes

Illgotothefootofourstairs · 22/03/2024 21:42

The staples are brilliant . More comfortable than stitches and they come out very easily.

Strugglebus · 22/03/2024 22:55

Glad there is a plan and that surgery is going to get rid of it for you so you can get on with living your brilliant life. One day at a time and you will get through it and out the other side again. Not easy, I know. Thinking of you.

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 23/03/2024 05:11

That is such good news about the operation.. it sounds a tough recovery, but you will get through this. Lots of us rooting for you.
Sending love ❤️

STST · 27/03/2024 14:13

You’ve got this. Frightening, yes. Necessary, also yes. You can do this, and it will be hard and scary but so, so worth it. Lots of us here willing you on and sending you strength. Keep going brave lady.

Lostmymind11 · 28/03/2024 07:19

Morning everyone, i've got my pre op next Thursday so hopefully the operation won't be too much longer after that. Me and my son are going to have a little caravan holiday before so i get to spend some quality time with him

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PaintInColour · 28/03/2024 07:20

That sounds like a good idea. Try and relax and enjoy your time with your boy x

StormKevin · 28/03/2024 07:23

You are amazing OP. X

Betterbuckleupbarbara · 28/03/2024 07:44

@Lostmymind11 You’re sounding focused and strong this morning OP, we are all thinking of you and sending you all the positivity in the world right now.

I hope you have a lovely day today.

Lostmymind11 · 28/03/2024 07:48

I'm not feeling it. Inside i'm a mess and just want to run away from it all but i have no choice but to stick a smile on my face and carry on for my son

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Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 07:50

Well done for being so strong, OP. We’re all proud of you and thinking of you. I hope you and your son have a lovely Easter weekend.

Strugglebus · 28/03/2024 09:10

You have every right to feel anything and everything. It’s viciously unfair and cruel to be going through this - I hope you have good people around you in real life.

poetryandwine · 28/03/2024 09:44

Good on you, OP. You’re finding your strength and I admire you very much. I hope you have a wonderful holiday

Mugcake · 28/03/2024 10:48

I hope you manage to enjoy your holiday and make some lovely memories! Sending love and good wishes your way.

anyolddinosaur · 28/03/2024 10:59

It's great that there is a plan and a good outcome is possible. Go and enjoy your break. I used to write notes before any hospital stay in case I didnt survive, I'm still here 😀