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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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VickyEadieofThigh · 16/02/2024 12:08

I'm 66, hardly ever wear it (if on a posh night out I might - but that's once or twice a year) and I feel exactly the same about women like me who don't as I do about the men who don't.

Kalevala · 16/02/2024 12:08

I find it unnerving when I am used to someone without, or with minimal makeup, then they put it on for a night out. I don't recognise the person immediately, even close family. I look at a photo and see 'random made-up woman' then realise it's my sister.

Sletty · 16/02/2024 12:09

I don’t think I’ve ever looked at a woman and thought about her not wearing make up? That’s very strange. The only thing I’d notice is overdone heavy make up. I hate fake eyelashes and fillers etc too.
But natural - go for it!

VickyEadieofThigh · 16/02/2024 12:09

nighttimeforgenerals88 · 16/02/2024 12:02

I judge men for looking sloppy, too.

But do you judge men for not wearing make-up?

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 16/02/2024 12:09

I have zero opinion either way. I know plenty of women who never wear any make up, I don't see it as that unusual (even though I accept that I may be wrong if you looked at actual statistics)

Sooverthemill · 16/02/2024 12:09

I've also never had a manicure or painted my fingernails. Had a pedicure once. All this stuff just takes time I don't have. Would rather read

wednesday32 · 16/02/2024 12:10

i wear makeup and like having a skincare routine and do it for me no one else. I do not care or judge anyone else based on their appearance.

lotsofpeoplenametheirswords · 16/02/2024 12:10

I don't really notice day today but I see pictures occasionally of people done up to the 9s clothes wise but have done absolutely nothing with their hair and are wearing no make up! I don't 'judge' them so much as think 'I couldn't do that'!

I wear make up every day and will always do so! I like make up!

However. The first thing I notice about a person is their teeth!

ZebraPensAreLife · 16/02/2024 12:10

I don't think anything negative of women who don't wear any but I think at least in a professional setting, it shows you put effort into your appearance if you are wearing it

Do you have the same thoughts about men wearing make-up in a professional setting? If not, why not?

SingingSands · 16/02/2024 12:10

LoseLooseLucy · 16/02/2024 11:38

I admire them personally, I feel bare without some mascara and lipstick at least.
My 19 year old doesn’t care less and hardly ever wears it.

Was going to post almost exactly the same 🙂

I wear a tinted lip balm and light mascara.

I barely see my 19yr old in make up - she spends ages on her hair though, which always looks gorgeous and just puts a bit of lip balm on then heads out.

I think I'm seeing a lot more women wearing less makeup, but looking more groomed - if that makes sense?!

ArrestHer · 16/02/2024 12:11

I’m early forties and don’t wear it and never have worn it consistently. I might wear a little for a night out but generally don’t bother. I don’t really think anything.

i am more likely to notice heavy make up but I think it’s because it’s so different from my day to day. I don’t judge people by it. Each to their own.

PinkEasterbunny · 16/02/2024 12:11

If you don’t wear make up then I think you’re lucky and I am envious, I wish I looked better without it

achangewoulddougood · 16/02/2024 12:11

DPotter · 16/02/2024 12:07

nighttimeforgenerals88

"Was that Snog, Marry, Avoid? I agree, they always looked better haven taken off all the make-up and layers of fake tan!"

Yes - that's the one ! One of those guilty pleasure late evening programmes. Somewhat misogynistic looking back on it.

Exactly - which is exactly how the women who make a point of telling everyone they never wear make up sound. Showing of some self proclaimed "natural beauty" and fishing for compliments.

I'm not even a huge make-up wearer and it annoys me when friends do this.

SisterAgatha · 16/02/2024 12:11

I lay down in a bog and smother myself in mud every day. Then I drag myself threw a hedge exactly four times. Rub a slug across my lips for some natural lubrication.

tell me, am I a worthy woman yet?

Onehappymam · 16/02/2024 12:12

I’m in a professional job. I used to wear make up for work, but don’t any more, even if it’s an important event at work. I do get my eyebrows & eyelashes done to give me some definition though. It seems mad now that I used to wear make up everyday. I dress smartly and my hair is styled. That’s enough.

BrendaMcPherson · 16/02/2024 12:12

I never wear it (I'm mid 50s) and also have grey hair. I'm not brave or confident. I just cba.

KvotheTheBloodless · 16/02/2024 12:13

I wouldn't notice unless she had really bad acne or similar, in which case I'd feel empathetic but not judgy.

Loads of women don't wear make-up, either some or all of the time. It's entirely normal nowadays, in a way that it wasn't so much pre-covid.

FastFood · 16/02/2024 12:14

I don't care really. I guess I can be a bit judgy with too much bad makeup, but I don't think I even notice the absence of it.

I'm mid 40s and sometimes wear make up, sometimes not, it's not a big deal at all for me.

EighteenBaldingStars · 16/02/2024 12:14

I like to see it! I don't wear it everyday either despite rosacea and dark circles under my eyes. I wish it was the norm tbh

BarelyLiterate · 16/02/2024 12:16

I know plenty of women who don’t wear make-up. I very rarely wear it myself.

In general, I think no make-up looks better than the very over made-up look which is currently fashionable, particularly on social media and among those influenced by it. But each to their own. Who am I to judge?

DamnSpots · 16/02/2024 12:18

I think they're great...! But then I'm in my 40s and very rarely wear makeup. I've stopped even bothering to take it when we go on holiday. I've never really worn it much though - even when I was younger I would only ever put it on for a night out.
Most of the time I couldn't tell you if people are wearing make up or not. Only time I really notice is where its people I regularly see without makeup (e.g. gym/running club) and then suddenly see them all made up and looking very different.

manipulatrice · 16/02/2024 12:18

I literally have zero opinion. I don't wear it often and if it wasn't for my dark circles I probably wouldn't wear anything other than maybe a bit of mascara as my lashes are very fair.

Ratfinkstinkypink · 16/02/2024 12:20

nighttimeforgenerals88 · 16/02/2024 11:59

I judge people who go out in sloppy looking clothes and for not making an effort regarding their general appearance, but I don't judge for women for not wearing make-up.

In the days, weeks and months during and after nursing a terminally ill husband through to his death I probably went out not looking my best. I was doing my utmost to keep all the balls in the air without dropping the important ones, the fact that I might not have looked pulled together was the least of my worries.

nighttimeforgenerals88 · 16/02/2024 12:21

VickyEadieofThigh · 16/02/2024 12:09

But do you judge men for not wearing make-up?

No, but I've already stated upthread that I don't judge women for not wearing make-up, either.

Magatha · 16/02/2024 12:21

Oh a very interesting question!

I have never worn make up day to day - only when I go into the office or have an evening out. Then it's basics like cc cream and mascara.

I'm now mid 40s and wondering if I look tired or not well groomed to others. But it seems a faff to put on make up to go to the shops or hang around home or local area. But then I look relatively older and not well groomed unlike other people my age.

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