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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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CurlewKate · 16/02/2024 16:51

@Theedgeoftheabyss "Makeup is a tax women feel is needed for their visible existence in public. Why does one need to 'make an effort?,' why is it sold as 'self care?' "

This!!! See also "having a bath" being described as "pampering."

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 16/02/2024 16:52

I very rarely wear makeup. I do have my brows and lashes tinted, but that's just to make me look like I have light brown eyelashes and eyebrows instead of none at all.

MrsSkylerWhite · 16/02/2024 16:53

Don’t think anything one way or the other (why would I?)

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 16/02/2024 16:53

I don't care whether other people wear it or not, although my dermatitis-y skin always winces a bit when I'm talking to someone wearing seven layers of primer and foundation.

FatPrincess · 16/02/2024 16:53

Tbf trying to look good to attract a mate is about as natural as it gets. Our fundamental purpose as a species is ultimately just to breed and perpetuate the human race as with all species of flower and fauna.

mydamnfootstuckinthedoor · 16/02/2024 16:53

Now that I'm retired, sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. When I was working I ALWAYS wore lipstick at the very least, the redder the better! I was in a "talking" role, and I always thought it would give my audience something to focus on!!

MidnightMeltdown · 16/02/2024 16:55

FLOWER1982 · 16/02/2024 16:49

I stopped doing make up everyday when I had my ds. I was so tired and just didn’t get time. Now I’m still tired, work at home a lot or am in the gym so don’t bother. Yes I feel I don’t look my best but I can’t be arsed with it. Admire the women who can be bothered!

Makeup doesn't need to be time consuming or a massive effort.

Sometimes I just wear one product - a lip and cheek colour (I have olive skin and I feel less sallow with a bit of colour)

Other days I might add mascara and a dab of concealer under my eyes, but it probably takes me about 3 minutes in total to do my makeup.

Noicant · 16/02/2024 16:57

Envy really, I wear make up because I look terrible without it. I wish I could let go of it, it would save me a lot of time.

WonderingWanda · 16/02/2024 16:59

I'm mid 40's and have horrible rosacea and acne so I think anyone who doesn't wear make up is lucky that they either look nice without it or are brave enough not to wear it.

thefamous5 · 16/02/2024 16:59

I don't really notice, and if I do; I don't care.

I personally love wearing makeup and wear it every day, but I really couldn't care what someone else decides to do with their face.

breadandroses92 · 16/02/2024 16:59

You can't always tell? A lot of women like me wear subtle makeup. I wear a lot (bb cream, highlighter blush, powder, eyeshadow, eyeliner and mascara) but its quite natural.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 16/02/2024 17:01

More likely to be judgey the other way, tbh - hate people caked in makeup, they almost always would look better without it.

cauliflowerqueen · 16/02/2024 17:01

I'm more likely to notice someone wearing 'too much' makeup rather than little or none at all, and I sometimes wonder if they're thinking I look terrible, since they obviously put a lot of effort into their makeup and probably notice that I don't. I do tend to throw on some powder before I go out, maybe a touch of blusher, but that's it.

As for why I wear less than I once did, it's a combination of having bigger fish to fry, laziness, lack of confidence in my makeup application skills/lack of certainty that I'll look better with than without, and a feeling that now I'm older (40s), I've had enough of worrying that much about trying to look a certain way. Who am I trying to impress? (If I don't do it for myself, that is, and I wouldn't be.)

NoTouch · 16/02/2024 17:02

I don't wear make up often, special occasions, using evenings only. I don't generally notice subtle/natural makeup - a bit of blush, eyeliner/shadow etc on others.

But must admit I cringe at todays style of heavy make up - I cringe at the expense and look of the comical eyebrows, the spider/furry eyelashes, an inch of foundation/contouring that looks like a fake silicon mask and don't get me started on listening to the impractical clacky nails on keyboards. All on women who are probably unrecognisable but perfectly attractive/normal looking underneath it all.

PegasusReturns · 16/02/2024 17:03

I wear a full face every day when at work or if I’m going out out. I don’t bother if going to shops etc.

It feels like a lot of make up and I was shocked recently when a couple of colleagues were surprised that I described myself as wearing a lot of make up.

I look better with make up and I think most other women do. I’m sure I’ve been conditioned but it’s the reality of society. So yes I’m probably a bit judgy.

SoYoung · 16/02/2024 17:06

I don't particularly judge them, I just wonder why they don't when most people look so much better with good make up. I don't mean the kind that's trowelled on, just the complimentary amount.

mirror245 · 16/02/2024 17:06

I love makeup, clothes, hair, nails and skincare. I have since I was a teenager and I prob spend a fair bit on it. I wear make up most days, unless I'm not leaving the house. For me I don't feel 'ready' without it. I look a lot better with make up- fresher, more awake, glowier skin. My day time make up is light but I will glam if up a bit for a night out. I can do my whole make up routine in 5-10 minutes so it's not time consuming.

The people I know (friends or colleagues) who don't wear make up daily will openly say they don't have time, can't be arsed or don't know how to apply it.

I think that wearing make up is related to overall grooming. I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with a shit hot outfit, either in the office or a night out who wasn't also wearing make up and had styled hair etc . Some women are just not into make up etc it and that's fine. Each to their own.

MidnightMeltdown · 16/02/2024 17:07

I think it also depends a bit on what you're wearing.

Black for example, can be hard to pull off without makeup because it tends to wash you out, and people may think that you look ill. Other colours are more forgiving.

BrondesburyBelle · 16/02/2024 17:07

I rarely wear make up and would only judge you on your behaviour not what you look like or wear

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 16/02/2024 17:08

I’ve never thought about it. And I certainly don’t divide women into groups based on their makeup habits!
I haven’t really considered it before this thread, I suppose.

Susuwatariandkodama · 16/02/2024 17:08

I would think the majority of women I see everyday don’t wear make up so I’ve never thought twice about it really but I also grew up surrounded by women who never wore make up, my sister was the only one who did and even then it was only a bit of lipstick and eyeliner.
I do notice other people’s make up though and sometimes get some inspo from it 😊

bombastix · 16/02/2024 17:09

Please don't say people are lazy for not wearing it. That is not right. It's something you can do but laziness.. no. It's a choice.

Suchagroovyguy · 16/02/2024 17:10

I don’t think I’d notice, let alone care.

Julianne65 · 16/02/2024 17:10

I don’t notice. I only wear foundation if I’m going out as I have red skin. Sometimes eye makeup but I don’t apply it like they do in the videos.

Thomasina79 · 16/02/2024 17:10

I used to wear it when younger, especially mascara. Now I only slap on a bit of blusher, or people ask me if I am ok as I look pale! I use a good face cream though with a good amount of spf as I had a bcc once and the dermatologists said how important the protection is.

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