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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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BrambleJamandCustard · 16/02/2024 15:50

Haven’t worn make up on a regular basis since teens! Almost 30 now. Much prefer people without it. Feel a bit sad for them if they are regularly caked in the stuff

Dery · 16/02/2024 15:51

Mid-50s here. Haven’t worn makeup for years except on very odd occasions. Wld look better if I did, no doubt, but I don’t really think anyone else cares whether I wear if or not.

CrunchyCarrot · 16/02/2024 15:51

Don't wear makeup and haven't for decades. I prefer the natural look.

popcorncake · 16/02/2024 15:52

Um... nothing. I find it a bit odd you seem to assume everyone is negatively judging you for it. Noone cares, and in the nicest possible way, you arent that important to others as they are mainly thinking about themselves. Even if they do think something, it's likely to be a superficial fleeting thought. It's not like they're waking up in the night wondering why you don't wear mascara 😂

FizzyStream · 16/02/2024 15:53

I'm early 40s and having suffered from acne a lot of my life I no longer wear make up because it makes my skin worse. Luckily I am on treatment so my skin is good at the moment apart from the odd hormonal spot so I like going without make up. Don't care what people think anymore.

KittyMcKitty · 16/02/2024 15:53

I don’t feel anything about people who don’t wear makeup- similarly I don’t feel
anything about people who do. It’s a
really strange question and quite sad that you few people would have judgy thoughts!

LittleRedYarny · 16/02/2024 15:55

I actually don’t judge non make up wearers, I do however judge those wearing heavy makeup al la BBC3 snog marry avoid.

SpongeBob2022 · 16/02/2024 15:55

I wear foundation, basic eye liner and blusher every day but its literally putting it on in 1 minute so it is minimal. I feel it's similar for nearly everyone I know.

If you were to ask me if I know anyone that doesn't wear any make up I don't think I'd be able to name someone. I'm assuming it's because everyone I know does, but maybe I just don't notice.

I also don't know anyone in real life who piles it on (and adds false lashes etc) although I am over 40 so my reference group might be skewed.

Londontown12 · 16/02/2024 15:56

Confident !! Fresh natural and carefree !
id love to be able to go makeup free but my skin is terrible 😞 x

ichifanny · 16/02/2024 15:56

I don’t really notice if people don’t wear it though I sort of feel bad for anyone who is missing out on enjoying wearing make up , it’s quite liberating to look however you feel and be able to change it and I love it .

Mnk711 · 16/02/2024 15:56

I don't notice or care. I do notice women who wear a large amount. Mostly I don't notice at all, lots of women don't nowadays I think, or wear subtle makeup that doesn't stand out.

cryinglaughing · 16/02/2024 15:57

I have never worn makeup and furthermore, I have never given a shit what people may or may not think about that.

FatPrincess · 16/02/2024 15:58

MsDoorway · 16/02/2024 15:05

Brutally honest ... if they are very attractive without makeup I think "wow, they look that good without anything on their face!!!"

If they look tired/washed out etc like most of us then I just think "oh they're someone who doesn't care about their appearance" but I'm not impressed in the same way... which is possibly mean, but it's the honest truth about what I think.

I'm very impressed/envious when I see an attractive person still looking great without makeup

This is sort of what I was trying to say.

I don't think badly of people who don't wear it (it's nobody else's business) but it's odd to regard them as some kind of hero. There's a weird narrative going on in this thread about people that wear makeup being insecure but truthfully I think it's the opposite - a load of bitter posters making excuses to snipe at other women for being younger/better looking. 😂

IMakeCrapCakes · 16/02/2024 15:58

I do wonder why sometimes but not in a judgmental way. As in I wonder if they're confident as they are (which is obviously great!) or insecure and don't think they're 'worthy' of looking a certain way, perhaps they want to but arent' confident to-or they are very against it from a feminist perspective, or they like make up but just can't be bothered...but I am a sociologist so I think about all sorts of things to do with people.

I quite like my bare face, at least when I am well and not tired or stressed (I'm 41) but I also like bright eyeshadows, full face of make up and fake eyelashes as in a 'statement' look.

Theedgeoftheabyss · 16/02/2024 15:59

Makeup is a tax women feel is needed for their visible existence in public. Why does one need to 'make an effort?,' why is it sold as 'self care?' It's bullshit. I'm nearing 40 and I just don't give a shit. It's my face, why do I care what you think? The younger generation are terrifying tho, bland samey faces and an absolute obsession with youth. We should be over this by now.

Wallywobbles · 16/02/2024 16:00

It hadn't occurred to me that people judged women for not doing something unnatural. But I suppose I'd rather see shaved armpets and legs so I guess I'm a hypocrite.

CarpetSlipper · 16/02/2024 16:01

I hardly ever wear it, never occurred to me that people might judge me for it. I couldn’t give a shit if people wear makeup or not and assume most people don’t notice or care.

Doteycat · 16/02/2024 16:02

I dont think abou them at all.
And as for someone thinking "oh theres someone who doesnt care about their appearance" . Christ how ignorant can you be?
How bout, well, me this morning say?
I went out this morning for the first time in 3 months. It took all I had to get dressed and drive to town with my dd so she cld get her driving licence and she bought me tea and cake. Im now at home, exhausted but very happy.
I look wretched. I care HUGELY that im healthy enough to get dressed and spend time with DD. My DH and DDS think i looked fabulous, because I was up and dressed and smiling.
MAke up is way down the list of my priorities. Some people need to rethink theirs,

UncleHerbie · 16/02/2024 16:03

My thoughts are IDGAF about other women’s make up habits. It’s literally none of my business. I wore make up for a preChristmas party for the first time since Jan 2020 and it felt great. I still use serum and moisturiser daily but can’t be arsed wearing it day to day. I wear it for me and others can keep their opinions to themselves. My husband doesn’t care either way. He says I look lovely when I look a wreck

JDJT · 16/02/2024 16:05

I don't wear make up. For me, it's more because I don't really know how i should be applying it. Never really bothered to learn. If I do wear it, on special occasions, I use just mascara, eyeliner, foundation and lipgloss/lipstick.

I never look at another woman and think 'oh she's not wearing any either'. I only notice those that are. I don't judge either of them!

Containerhome · 16/02/2024 16:08

I don't wear it for many reasons. Only 1 person ever said something to me and she said i was lazy for not making an effort.... i replied not making an effort for who? She couldn't answer me.

Member984815 · 16/02/2024 16:08

I don't wear makeup except on the rare occasion I am out for the night , I wouldn't notice either way .

housethatbuiltme · 16/02/2024 16:08

I don't wear make up, I don't know about how others perceive me (although one woman once called me stupid/lazy and told me 'EVERY woman wears make up' and I'm just to 'thick' to know that 'because they put it on so well you can't tell' 😂) but I know how I think of myself.

  1. I'm fairly confident in that I don't feel I need to apologize for my face, body or existence and I know I don't exist to make others 'visually comfortable'.

  2. I think I'm 'pretty enough' in that I don't look any worse than average, I have nice bone structure and I like my pale skin/red hair combo but even if I thought I was 'ugly' I still believe I deserve to exist and don't have to apologize/hide for that.

  3. I'm lazy but I don't care. I rarely shave (not too hairy anyway, but only shave my legs if I'm going swimming which is rare), dye my hair maybe 3-4 times a year and can't be arsed whacking on make up just to do the school run or go to uni etc...

  4. My skin is decent... not perfect I get the odd spot or black head like everyone but I genuinely believe my lack of make up (especially round my lipline where I was horribly prone to spots when I wore lipstick in my teens) aids in keeping my skin quite nice.

My attitude maybe due to the fact I was in an accident as a kid and had several reconstructive surgeries on my face. People weren't nice back then (kids would say my face 'scared' them or just scream and run away, there parent weren't any nicer) and instead of feeling bad about myself I just realized they weren't nice people and my face is nothing to do with them. Now people claim they can't even tell I ever had surgery, I can still see the scars (my husband insists its because I 'look' for them) but feel no need to hide them.

Mixmup · 16/02/2024 16:09

I don’t even notice. Nor care.

mammaCh · 16/02/2024 16:09

I don't notice if someone isn't wearing any, only notice if obvious.
If someone told me they wasn't I'd think they must be confident.
People have often commented how I don't wear make up... I tell them I do! Always wear foundation, eyebrow pencil and mascara.

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