To say sorry, I've made other plans?

[Snowchoc]

I asked a man to an event re a mutual interest. Not really a date, but just the two of us when usually we'd go as a group. Other friends weren't available this time.

Anyway 3 days ago he said he "should" be able to go. I replied OK then is that confirmed , 8pm? He hadsn't replied. I hate it when people keep their options open and I don't know if I have plans or not!

The event is tomorrow, I'm not chasing him up. If he does come back I'm going to say sorry, you didn't get back to me, I've made other plans and take my son out to dinner.

AIBU or would you expect me to still be free, as it was my original invitation?

And if she wants a definite answer then she'll have to message again - otherwise take the message as it is and do something else 🤷‍♀️

I don't see the issue to be honest, it was a non-committal answer - polite way of saying no thank you in my opinion.

I’d have worded it slightly differently,
leaving out the confirmed part; I’d maybe have asked him to let me know either way so I can make other arrangements if he is not going to go ahead. Apart from that it is annoying and quite rude to just not reply when someone has specifically asked you a question. Hope you enjoy your time with your son, I love taking my son out for lunch or dinner.