I’m not sure how relevant this is but don’t want to drip feed so I’ll start by saying this is a man who I was in a relationship with on and off from fifteen to twenty one but nothing like that since I met my husband. We’ve mostly kept in touch as we still get on well and have many mutual friends, only by online messaging though as I have moved out of the area.
We dropped out of contact for a few years as his wife didn’t like him to message female friends which is fair enough but he’s now divorced so got in touch to catch up. All good, been nice to talk but the way he goes about messaging is driving me mad and I’m about ready to just quietly stop talking to him.
He does this weird thing where he’ll send a chatty message and I’ll reply and it just gets left unread, sometimes for a day but sometimes weeks, then he’ll message back like there’s no time delay and do it again to anything I reply. It basically makes me feel I’m an inconvenience he has to eventually reply to but he’s the one who reached out to me. I know I’m going to get an avalanche of people saying this sounds like playground bullshit and they’re right, so I just feel like stepping away from the whole friendship. But he’s never been like this in the past and I am aware he’s been having a tough time with getting divorced, having to move in with his parents and navigating shared custody with his child time so maybe I’m being a bit harsh.
We’ve known each other for almost twenty five years so would be a shame to stop talking but maybe better for my blood pressure as I feel I’m getting too old for this kinda thing 😅