To want to anonymously report a 12 year old for stealing

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How can I anonymously report a 12 year old for stealing food and drink from the school canteen? This child has been bullying my child for a year and I would love to get revenge by helping to get this kid caught for stealing from canteen on a daily basis....bottles of drinks, paninis, cakes, etc.
Financially well off family, they own 2 homes and parents are senior professionals, holiday overseas twice yearly, so no poverty as reason for stealing.
But I don't want any come back on my child who has already been bullied by this kid. So how can I report this anonymously, and how can the staff catch them? Obviously if staff are near by monitoring this kid then they won't steal. No CCTV in school canteen.
I know it's happening because my DC and their friends have all told me they see it happen every day, and it's in a 'shocked can't believe they're doing it' way, not in a snitching way.

This is hilarious!

Last week there was a thread about a kid who had been mean in primary school, at the grand age of 7 (with a history of anxiety), and was now being properly bullied at secondary school age 12. Most posters said tough, serves him right for being mean when he was 7, it’s karma, let him suffer.

Now we have a 12 year old, who is a bully, and posters are saying be kind, this fat rich bully may have secret problems so we should cut him some slack.

It’s bizarre!

If the bullying is not the point of the thread then the fact you, an adult desire to “take revenge” on a 12 year old is? Give yourself a shake. You sound utterly nasty. Deal with the bullying - the school can pick up the theft (which you have not even witnessed, second hand info).

If someone bullied my child the last thing I would have is one ounce of sympathy from them and wouldn't care what background they came from. For the bullying, I would tackle that but the stealing I would not get involved.
If they are stealing and doing it so openly their confidence grows at doing this. So one day they will definitely do it elsewhere and reap the consequences so it will come around. I would just leave it as that isn't affecting my child.

with respect, you seem unhinged.

OP, since so many people on this thread are assuming this fat rich bullying child is clearly suffering in some way, I would suggest you approach the school expressing concern for his wellbeing. You could say you’re worried he must be starving and neglected, as he is stealing food, and you think the school should look into this neglect.

Nothing about your anecdote is hilarious.
Those saying 'karma' or 'let him suffer' sound lovely, really lovely, I wish they were my friends. 🙄
'this fat rich bully may have secret problems so we should cut him some slack.' - you realise that your language there makes you a bully too?
Of course we don't excuse bullies, but we do should make attempts to see what is driving the behaviour. Nobody who is happy and feels secure wants to bully another human being.

'fat, rich, bullying child' - are you projecting with regard to some previous experience?

I would not be happy that my child is being bullied, but I would also question what is motivating the bullying. Bullies are rarely happy individuals, even if they appear that way.

I’d leave it. As much as I would also dislike a rich kid who bullies and steals, we’re still going to need people qualified to become MPs in the future.

No, there is not always more to it. There is sometimes, even often, more to it. However, plenty of times, it comes down to arrogance, a mean streak, a propensity for dishonesty or a combination of the above.

@Wasbedeudetetdas I’m just pointing out the irony of MN and it’s double standards. I was making a comparison between the 2 threads and the opposing tone of the responses. Obviously I don’t mean that it is actually humorous. Sorry, perhaps I wasn’t clear enough.

There IS always more to it.

😂

MN is hilarious. Mentioning a very rare condition as an obvious explanation 😂

Hmmm, well the wording does suggest you thought it was humorous!
That said, it's MN, so of course there are double standards!

There's a lack of maturity in your post and in your approach.

You need to continue to address the bullying with the school.

Even it you report the stealing, it still nay not improving the bullying.

Prioritising revenge over your child's safety appears to be way off to me. I genuinely hope for their sake you are joking.

Where did I say it was an obvious explanation though? Oh yes, I didn't.
I was making the point that there are so many factors in this child's life which OP knows nothing about.

Was that supposed to be funny?

Sorry, I meant Conservative MPs.

The school will know food is being stolen, the catering company will know that more has gone than they sold. If the school is not monitoring already, then they probably are not too fussed and figure if someone is stealing then they might be struggling.

Concentrate on the bullying, follow the complaints procedure if necessary. Do not focus on revenge.

So, was it supposed to be funny?

It was very funny.

I would not be happy that my child is being bullied, but I would also question what is motivating the bullying. Bullies are rarely happy individuals, even if they appear that way.

You are right in that there's obviously a reason but what about the person on the receiving end? Why is more sympathy always advocated for the bully, the person doing the wrong? As an adult the advice is always to never accept this, but so much of expectation on a child having to accept this because 'there is a reason'. Yes there's a reason for everything but we don't always have to be accepting or understanding. Maybe you don't know a child that has been bullied to fully understand the other side.

What’s funny is not answering your question so you’ll have to guess what I was thinking evermore.

Invest your time and energy in teaching your child how to stand up to the bully.