To think jumping the bus queue is just rude?

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It happens pretty much daily.
Either I will walk to the stop and a man will be waiting.
Other people come from the other side of road and stop the other side of the man.
The bus comes and he gets on and they walk on after him (I must be invisible )
Or there's a queue at the bus stop and people walk to front of the bus from top of bus shelter and just get on.
It drives me mad
And it's just plain rude
Aibu and is it just every man for themselves ?

Possibly. Or maybe you're standing too far back. I used to regularly get on buses and it looked like I was jumping the queue but other people who were there before weren't actually standing at the bus door end of the shelter or the road. Or with a massive gap between people.

Nobody could jump the queue ahead of me because I stood in the right place without a massive gap.

But also bus stops are generally a free for all

YABU. I don't mind a queue, but queues at bus stops are just weird.
Bus comes everyone gets on. order depends where the bus lands. End of.

I detest pusher iners.

I make sure they don't get the chance.

@kitsuneghost how are they weird ?
There's a bus stop ,people are waiting in line then get on
You wouldn't go to Tesco and push in so why is it okay at a bus stop ?

@DappledThings this is at the top of the shelter where the bus stops behind the man in front.
It's obvious I'm waiting -I think people are rude sometimes

I agree. I don't know about other areas but there's not really such thing as a bus queue anymore. My daughter has a baby on buggy and her other son has special needs guarantee someone will sit in the space tjat makes things easier for her. Even with empty bus

Does anyone queue the same side as you?

Snooze you lose! You have to be quicker. People might think you're not getting on.

@crumblingschools yeah there will be a queue behind me but then some random will just get on from the left of the bus stop

It does seem rude but bus stops often aren't quite an organised queue in that people who got there first might be seated further back than those arriving later who are standing. If you want to be next after the man, walk up right behind him and stay there before others arrive, then no-one can go ahead. I would endeavour to keep my place but sometimes there's too many people etc to fully keep track.

What if you aren't all waiting for the same bus? Not every bus stop only serves one bus so one long queue isn't necessarily practical. Where I am, people just sort of loiter around waiting for the bus they need. And a small queue will form organically as it pulls up.

Are you saying it’s just men that do this? I had a weird experience with a woman when we was both waiting for the bus, it was a bus stop that multiple buses come to at least 5/6 so didn’t know which one she was waiting for anyway when a bus came it stopped I looked at her to see if she was getting on but she was ruffling through her bags, no one else was at the bus stop so not wanting to miss it I got on and sat down, she must have been looking for her card because as soon as she got on she tapped in then started screaming and swearing at me for not waiting for her! I was so confused so if she couldn’t find the card I should miss the bus? The bus wasn’t going to hang around as no one else was getting on.

Also see women with prams I use to have other women with prams push in front of me all the time it’s because they wanted to grab the seat bit, one did that to me before and then there was already one on so I wasn’t allowed on even though I was there first, when I called her out of it she should I should have been quicker! So no it’s not a “man” thing not everything is 🙄

@LilBus no it's men /women /teenagers
I just used him as a example

Personally I couldn't be bothered trying to remember what order people have arrived at the bus stop. Queuing doesn't really work unless there is an obvious and specific spot the bus will stop at. I also don't see the big deal when it's a bus with plenty of room.

I'm chronically early for the bus, so I'm always "first in the queue". I'm rarely first on the bus though, as it's whoever stood closest to where the bus happens to stop, prams/old people/disabled first. Does it matter what order you get on?

I wondered this.

Sometimes's I'm at the back, the bus comes. I move towards the bus. I assume the people that don't move are waiting for a different bus. Turns out they assume I'm supposed to know they are waiting for that specific bus, but no. They are waiting to see if the people in front of them are waiting for the same bus (they usually aren't. There's usually a lot of people waiting and the bus I get is one of the less 'popular' ones).

I always try to let people go on first if they were there first - but some people just make it really difficult to know!

I need a diagram, I can't understand the positioning in your post

But safe to say bus stop queues aren't a thing really. The bus will stop at different ends of the bus stop, people don't immediately move to get on, people just mill around, multiple buses arriving etc...

Nobody queues in London anymore. It's dog eat dog.

Yanbu. Bus queue pusher inners (and people who don't use headphones on the bus) should banned.

Whatever happens avoid Glasgow then, there is no such thing as a bus queue in Glasgow. There is just a large group of people standing in the vague vicinity of the bus stop. Given that about 10 buses stop at some stops that makes sense, how do you form one queue for 10 different buses after all? Queues make no sense in that scenario.

It's a local bus stop that 1 bus stops at
We aren't in a big city
Then back from town also the 1 bus stop

It is odd, buses and bars are the only thing the british don't queue properly for

Except sometimese everyone doesn't get on, due to lack of space, or sometimes people sit in an inconsiderate way (bags on seats etc).

Maybe they didn't realise. A woman once got really annoyed with us because we got on infront of her. But she had been queuing at the wrong bus stop so we didn't realise. It was a road with 3 bus stops for specific buses and she just joined the end of the wrong queue

Happens with me too. Usually it’s when I’m letting an elderly person on before me, then others just go in front of me.

It’s really annoying when people just decide they’re more important and have no etiquette. I’ll always go straight upstairs too because you never know if a disabled or elderly person will come on later.