To insist DH drives us?

[Woozywoozer]

DH drives. I don't (medical reasons)

DD has an appointment at 4pm every Monday for the next 12 weeks.

The appointment is in Manchester city centre.

We live close to a tram station so last week he dropped us off there on the way to him getting DS.

It's the same time local high school gets out, 2 of them I fact, and it was absolutely RAMMED.
With teens shouting, fighting, pushing, swearing.

DD is Autistic (shes going to art therapy) and hated it.

DH can pick DS up with us in car then take us to town by 4pm but it would mean him stuck in traffic a bit and driving in Manchester town which he hates (he's only been driving a year)

But we would happily get the tram home later. I just really don't want to get it at school time as it's really distressing for DD (and me, I'm autistic too) to have all the kids screaming. Last week some kid was making comments about DDs stickers on her headphones. But she didn't hear.

DH doesn't work on a Monday. Has no other commitments and it's me that's taking DD every week and sat for 90 mins in a waiting room then getting tram home.

AIBU to tell him I really want him to drop us off?

There's no other appointment slots available and she's been waiting 2 years for this.

I have been driving 20yrs and I hate and will do anything to avoid driving in town (Manchester City centre)
But I also understand the tram can be intimidating and uncomfortable.

Agree with others, travel before the high-school kicks out...or drive to the next stop or one after.

OK! Sorry for responding to your original post and not reading the other 4 pages of responses.

But you still seem unhappy about taking the busy tram home and are minimizing the stress your DH will undoubtedly feel driving in Manchester City Centre at that time. It's not as simple as being "stuck in traffic"

DH is a confident and experienced driver and has been driving more than 40 years. He does a lot of motorway driving and has driven in several other countries, motorways and cities.

We live not far from Manchester and, until a few years ago, he would often drive us in to the city centre at the weekend for a day out. However it seems to have got steadily harder and harder to get around and for a while now we have given up trying altogether. We always get the tram or the train instead.

OP - you seem unable to realise that this post pointing out that DH is fine in other traffic systems in different conditions is exactly the same as someone pointing out that your DD happily gets the tram at other, non busy times of day, so what exactly is the problem?

This thead is full of people telling you that Manchester city centre rush hour traffic is absolutely awful and stressful. The fact that he can happily drive in other situations is irrelevant.

I am an experienced driver but I would avoid Mcr city centre in rush hour if there was any reasonable alternative like the one you've found - simply getting a tram at a different time.

Does your DD get any disability payments for her condition and you do you get PIP for yours? These payments are suppose to help pay for taxis etc to help you in these situations.

I've been driving nearly 30 years, I've driven all over Europe, I've driven left hand drive cars, over driven up mountain tracks in Spain, I've driven the 2400 mile round trip to Sweden and back. All fine, absolutely love driving. But driving into Manchester city centre at that time of day and I end up tears every time. It's just VILE! Junctions are signposted AT the junction and not before, the lanes are ridiculously narrow, with really short slip roads and merging lanes. Your OH has only been driving a year - I very much feel for him. Could a grandparent drive you? Would ear plugs help you? Is there a more convoluted but quieter route you could take? Train and a bit of a walk to chill rather than taking a tram to right nearby? I wouldn't wish driving in Machester city centre on anyone.

I also would never drive in Manchester City centre

Get a taxi./uber. Some trusts allow you to claim back most of the cost of getting to and from appointmenrts. There are also places where community or volunteer transport is available

And a Time Machine considering this happened in February.

I really need to check dates on posts before replying !

I think it's unreasonable given ges only passed his test a year and doesn't feel confident doing the journey. You could both wear noise cancelling earphones.