Nearly 11 year old obsessed with skin care

[Oakstreet]

Getting on my nerves. As far as kids goes she isn't always on social media but all I hear is my friends have it! Fed up. Her dad ended up buying her some, so expensive too, she doesn't need it. I've tried telling her that it is a money spinning scam, and kids her age don't need it. She just doesn't listen, she really is like a stubborn teenager, but still a very a young child who shouldn't even be interested in this stuff. Anyone advice on how to talk to her?

it isn't "ignorant snobbery" not to bow down to the "beauty" products industry, and to wear a natural normal face every day, and not to throw money away or feel the need to cover up

Yup! My 13 YO DD is on the same boat. She’s got more skincare products to challenge boots and she's now mad on Charlotte Tilbury products. Over her birthday in October and Christmas, that’s all she asked for. She’s just bought Charlotte tilbury magic cream which is £79! She doesn’t listen. It’s their generation

I find the idea of 12 year olds wearing make up really sad tbh. There is plenty of time for that.

Just show her pictures of the 25 year olds who look like they're in their 40s... or just put your foot down and say no, she's 10!

I’m not one for ageism usually, but I do think saying “you know that stuff is for old women” might have some effect in this case.

“Bow down”
”throw money away”
You realise how you sound?
As I said, snobbery.

I mean it’s not my favourite. But I have plenty of battles to fight and fighting one over a bit of mascara and highlighter wasn’t important compared to the ones about limiting social media, contributing to jobs around the house, and minding her manners.

So I feel a little sad too because she seems to be growing too quickly, but on balance she’s a well rounded, conscientious, and decent human so that’s ok.

My DD puts on so much highlighter she’d give the tinman from the Wizard of Oz a run for his money. I point out to her any more and she’ll be visible from space. I get an 🙄 for my trouble which is a shame because I‘m funny as fuck 😆

Sol de janiero - pretty yuck but fairly harmless.

Request for Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk. No.

Seriously, it's a bit sad when women can't step outside without this stuff and encouraging your kids to match that is not okay.

Child has worked out to lie massively to fit in which is certainly cheaper and a better life lesson in all probability.

10/11 is the perfect age to start taking care of your skin. She doesn't need really expensive brands though. I worked in skincare for nearly 20 years before becoming ill and part of my job was visiting companies and their factories. A LOT of cheaper brands are made in the exact same factories and the only difference is packaging and a miniscule amount of percentages of ingredients. She also needs to be using the correct ingredients. And at least SPF 30 although preferably 50 every day. Everything else should be pretty basic at her age, no harsh exfoliants, retinoids etc

i'd be astonished if a dermatologist would be very thrilled at seeing a child with no skin problems. they presumably studied hard so they could help people with skin problems.

I took an interest in skincare around the same age. I’ve always had really lovely skin. Still do. And while my friends have pumped thier faces full of filler and Botox, I am completely natural and I look so much younger than them. Just don’t fall for gimmick products

I'm 61, never bothered with much skincare or make up and barely a wrinkle in sight.

At Christmas I saw Charlotte Tilbury's name everywhere but had no idea who she was.

Why do kids/people have to be "influenced " in every aspect of their lives nowadays. Isn't anybody able to think for themselves and make their own decisions?

What is so bad about looking after your skin?! I had bad skin as a teen and I think it is good to get into habits of taking care of your skin. If it was huge fake eyelashes etc I could understand

This made me laugh 😆

Everyone going on about the internet & social media, women and girls have been following these trends for ever. I remember watching an old episode of coronation street and a young Gail Platt/Tildsley or what ever her name is now actually ironing her hair on the ironing board, as it was the trend back then to get the hair style they wanted, women drawing on their legs and using tea bags to stain their skin to make it look like they were wearing tights. Skin bleaching has been around since ancient Egyptian times…

Agree. I think about all the zits and blackheads I could have avoided if I’d known how to take care of my skin when I was younger.

Me too. The discovery of a proper cleansing and toning routine, age 17, was life changing for me.