I am a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding next month, and I am also bridesmaid for my best friend the month after.
For my sisters wedding, she chose my bridesmaid dress and paid 50% and I paid the other 50%. It's a gorgeous dress and was over £150 but is very formal and won't be something I can wear again in most situations. It was also her choice, but as I said it's gorgeous and I love it.
My best friends wedding is the month after, it's the same colour scheme and my bridesmaid dress from my sisters wedding would work perfectly, it seemed an absolute no brainer to wear it again, really get my monies worth out of it and it's beautiful and I feel really confident in it. This has been my plan for months and was agreed with my best friend.
In all honesty it didn't occur to me to check with my sister because it's after her wedding, so it's not like there is a risk of the dress getting ruined or something. She has made it clear the dress is mine to keep etc. I just didn't see an issue, but when I spoke to her about booking it in for alterations (it's too long, I'm paying for the alterations) I mentioned in passing I'm wearing it as bridesmaid twice so it's worth the expense.
My sister is furious about it, she is saying it's beyond cheeky and she chose that dress, it's my bridesmaid dress as her sister and it's meaningful to her and it's disrespectful to wear it again just weeks later, takes away from her big day etc. I pointed out to her that literally no one from her wedding will even be at my best friends wedding to know apart from me but she was really hurt and made it well known she isn't happy for me to wear it.
AIBU? I don't know if I'm missing something and this really isn't ok but in my head I just can't comprehend an issue