It's a bridesmaid dress one!

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I am a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding next month, and I am also bridesmaid for my best friend the month after.

For my sisters wedding, she chose my bridesmaid dress and paid 50% and I paid the other 50%. It's a gorgeous dress and was over £150 but is very formal and won't be something I can wear again in most situations. It was also her choice, but as I said it's gorgeous and I love it.

My best friends wedding is the month after, it's the same colour scheme and my bridesmaid dress from my sisters wedding would work perfectly, it seemed an absolute no brainer to wear it again, really get my monies worth out of it and it's beautiful and I feel really confident in it. This has been my plan for months and was agreed with my best friend.

In all honesty it didn't occur to me to check with my sister because it's after her wedding, so it's not like there is a risk of the dress getting ruined or something. She has made it clear the dress is mine to keep etc. I just didn't see an issue, but when I spoke to her about booking it in for alterations (it's too long, I'm paying for the alterations) I mentioned in passing I'm wearing it as bridesmaid twice so it's worth the expense.

My sister is furious about it, she is saying it's beyond cheeky and she chose that dress, it's my bridesmaid dress as her sister and it's meaningful to her and it's disrespectful to wear it again just weeks later, takes away from her big day etc. I pointed out to her that literally no one from her wedding will even be at my best friends wedding to know apart from me but she was really hurt and made it well known she isn't happy for me to wear it.

AIBU? I don't know if I'm missing something and this really isn't ok but in my head I just can't comprehend an issue

Your sister is bridezilla and stingy. She should be paying for your whole dress and you can wear it as you want afterwards

God forbid if you ever sold it, she'd lose her mind. She's being beyond daft, hopefully she'll be back to normal after the wedding. Unless she just is hardwork and in that case I wish you good luck.

YANBU. She needs to have a word with herself.

@Maddy70

It's hardly unique to the sister's wedding. The same style will have been worn to hundreds of weddings, it's just dress (however lovely) from a shop.

She is being bonkers, but wind do bring out the crazy in people!

BUT I wouldn't have mentioned it to her - she didn't need to know!

You right, your sister is being silly. She should also paid for the dress 100÷

This.
If the second bride is happy for you to wear a previously worn dress (and any sensible person would be) then it's a great idea.
Is your sister annoyed because she contributed to it financially and the second bride will get the benefit essentially for free?

Weddings bring out the crazy! Not wind! Ffs😂

Who would have paid for your dress for your best friend’s wedding if the dress you wore for your sister’s wedding wasn’t suitable? I think it would have been polite for your best friend to offer a contribution to the dress if she was going to pay for / towards yours. But if you were always going to be buying your dress for your best friend’s wedding, then I think crack on and wear it.

Either way, your sister’s reaction is OTT!

She is being ridiculous, it's your dress to do what you want with.
Also, you shouldn't be paying towards your own bridesmaid dress or alterations. If she can't afford £150 she should be finding one for £75.

She's being ridiculous. It's either your dress or it isn't.

If she wants ownership she pays 100%

YANBU to wear it, and your sister IBU not to pay for the full price and the alterations. But I do think you should have mentioned it when you and your friend made the plan.

The bridesmaid dress often dictates the look of a wedding in terms of colours etc, and your sister may feel a bit weird about the whole thing. Your friend is getting a free bridesmaids dress! Really with the weddings so close they should be splitting the cost between them and you pay nothing.

Basically I don't think you've done anything wrong but you should've said.

My sister (who was older than me but got married second) used my bridesmaid dresses for her wedding.

She changed the colour of the chiffon tie but it was great they could get two outings.

So you paid half, are paying for alterations yourself, but can't wear it again??

And you're the brides sister?

How did she treat the other bridesmaids, told them to keep the tag hidden so she could return it after?
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Your sister is out of order especially if you are paying half for the dress! I'm getting married myself in November and am paying for my maid of honours dress and I'd be happy for her to wear it to another event because it would get my moneys worth out of it!