DH and his flag pole dream….

[Lilysienna1]

DH mentioned a few years ago, that he has ‘always wanted’ to have a flag on display in the front garden. A proper flag on a pole, that we would raise up every morning, and ‘fly at half mast’ when the occasion calls for it.

I have never ever even thought of having a flag. We are British and I know it’s quite common in America, but not so much here. DH isn’t a football fan, so it’s nothing to do with the flag flying we see during the World Cup and the like.

last year, for Christmas he said the only present he would wish for, was to have that flag. He was most disappointed with the watch and aftershave he received instead.

He has now mentioned it to 13 year old DD who thinks it’s ‘kinda cool’ and she could imagine using it behind her for tik tok dances.

So now, I’m being made out to be highly unreasonable and a bore, for saying I do not want to raise a bloody flag every morning and see it outside the front of my house every day. I did try to compromise by saying ‘maybe’ a small one in the back garden, but DH says it’s to go out the front only, and why should we be ashamed of patriotism.

We don’t live in a grand estate home, just a detached house in a redrow cul-de-sac. The neighbours wouldn’t be affected as there are large trees between our only neigbours drive and ours, and we are on the corner.

However, everyone that comes in and out our road will see it as it’s the first house.

what would you do?? Give in and say yes to DH and his flag pole or put your foot down? Am I really being that unreasonable and boring? Does anyone else fly a flag? 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm sorry but I would judge negatively. If he's not a racist then he's surely eccentric!

Also, the deeds of our house say we are not allowed to erect a flag pole.

Tbf @MasterBeth you've said some batshit things, on this thread. My personal favourite - flying a flag and not caring about whether this upsets the neighbours is akin to sadism.

Sorry what ‘current climate’ are you talking about?

These posters cannot see their own bias. It's painful to me to say this (ex Labour party member) but this is so common on the Left at the moment that it is quite worrying.

I'm quite glad that I'm not the only person with a neighbour flying the Jolly Roger.

Although the number of pirates in the UK is rather concerning

There's one up in our village too this morning!

Yes, same here. Forgot to mention the Jolly Roger and the NHS flag during COVID.

There are quite a few round here, including our opposite neighbours and one in the back garden of a house that leads down to the river. That flies the Jolly Roger on the pole against their little jetty but I've also seen different pennants and things.
My DH would love one 😁

Brilliantly put. 👏

He does know that we are the only nation not allowed to show pride in our national flag doesn't he?

The Union Flag is the flag of the UK. If racists use it to promote racism it's up to the rest of us to remove that slur and take back the flag, not go on about how racists use it.

not a English flag due to the English flags unfortunate association with organisations like Britain First. so shouldn't the England flag be similarly "claimed back"?

I love a flag pole - there are 3 houses with them in our village and they fly all sorts of interesting ones that the DC enjoy researching. Our county coat of arms, the cricket team flag etc.

There’s a house near me with a flag pole in the front garden. The flag gets changed fairly frequently and I love seeing it.

Ok so what is wrong with tartan slippers now? Maybe someone needs to start a thread what can people wear/like/do/ have in their garden that isn’t racist, weird, or gives people the ick? Tartan slippers are fairly innocuous surely.

Your posts are ‘othering’ by assuming that anyone from a ‘multicultural’ background as you put it, would not see the British flag as their own.

I categorically did not say this. I have not "lumped people as multicultural". Please show me where I said this or withdraw your comments.

Thank you for acknowledging this - I am truly exasperated by this thread.

It’s like they have all received some really shit budget training somewhere and now lump everyone as a victim that’s needs ‘due regard’ for the ‘dreadful’ things that have happened regardless of whether it’s factually true or not, and no one is allowed to fly a flag unless you are a sadist, and you can’t express anything but hatred for the U.K. or you are at racist!

WTAH is this.

Are tartan slippers sadistic?

I don’t engage with people like you - read your own posts, you are positively scary with your lack of awareness.

I am more than happy for someone to disagree with what I have said.

I am not happy for someone to take me to task over something I have not said.

If my other half tried to dictate to me what flags I'm not allowed to fly he'd be getting told to eff off. He isn't my boss.

I didn't say I had reported you. Plenty of others quoted your deleted post as they found it offensive and wanted to disagree with you.

You say you haven't been discourteous but if that were true, MN wouldn't have deleted your post. I'm not going to engage with you further.

I used to drive past this house with a marlin on top. And one man up north had a shark in his roof. Sadly the marlin is gone… mid life crisis?! Count your blessings OP!

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OK, I see. You're not able to engage with what I've said, only with the kind of thing you think someone with views like you think mine are from a casual misread of what I said maybe might have said.

Honestly OP, given the way this thread has deteriorated and brought forth a load of covert frothing racists, I would imagine you are even less likely to want to accede to your DH request...

Flag-shagging men give me the ick. It’s usually men. Something phallic about a flag pole perhaps?

awful awful awful, please put your foot down!!!!

Would he settle for Union Jack boxer shorts?