New old phone or take her to see snow for the first time

[Headhurtsthinkingofausername]

I’ve managed to save back a tiny bit of extra money (difficult to do at the moment as there’s rarely any left over, like so many people.
I’m desperate for a new phone, my one at the moment is years old, the speaker doesn’t work (I can’t answer calls) and to properly charge it I have to tilt my charger wire a certain way 🙈 I want a newer model, but still a second hand phone (don’t want on contract etc, just to buy a phone outright)
With the small amount I’ve saved I could also take my Dd away for a few days to see snow for the first time, a few hours drive away (live abroad) in a mid range hotel.

I can’t do both. Which would you do?

I’ve bought a couple of new chargers, it’s the phone

I'm not sure romanticising holidays with small children is a good idea. What you hope it will be like is often very different to how it turns out.

A functioning phone is a basic necessity and can be bought outright without spending hundreds.

The snow is frivolous and can wait.

I don't see why people are offering to provide phones to the OP though.

A functional phone - eg that can make calls to the emergency services - is not a luxury. But the chance of being able to ask around to see if someone you know has one in a drawer you can have is pretty high!

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Phone, don't be a martyr! Where do you live anyway? I'm in southern England and even here it (briefly) snowed recently.

🙄 Oh come on, it's hardly a Louis Vuitton handbag.

Phone.

Get the phone now, save again for the snow trip at a later date

😳 I wasn’t angling for a new phone from anyone 😔no one has offered me one and, this isn’t a pity post, the phone I will get is pricey and something I’ve worked for. This was just asking what others would do, would they get something for themselves or their dc, would they choose practical things or life experiences?

Again, I’ve not posted to get a phone off someone 😬

Phone.

I don't think it's even a small problem that a six year old hasn't seen snow! It's fine. She's six. There's loads of things she hasn't seen. She's got absolutely ages to tick snow off her bucket list.

no one has offered me one
agathamystery has.

I'm normally an experiences before objects person, but I think a working phone is a basic survival thing these days

Jesus! She never asked for a phone, she just asked a question, why to report her?

@GrazingSheep Ok, didn’t see that, very kind, but the one I already have is an old iPhone also. I have friends I could have a basic one from or can use my Dh’s in an emergency. As I said, it’s not about that, it’s ok it’s not a begging thread! V embarrassing

How lovely. Was just wondering if I had an old one somewhere.

Headhurtsthinkingofausername I don't think they are two equivalencies. Most people here are responding that a working phone is a basic human need and these days I'd agree, although you are down playing the necessity of a phone for you.
However basing childhood experiences on whether they are remembered is wrong. You can't keep a child in a room until 4 because they wouldn't remember it anyway. Most people here spend a lot on nursery fees their children won't remember because of the development it gives their children. Take your child to the park/ zoo etc etc they won't remember but the experience/ conversation etc will form their development. In your case I'd get the phone but don't dismiss experiences because a child can't remember, under 5 are formative years and experiences count remembered or not.

Well clearly NOT as you're posting on a 'materialistic' device

The phone shouldn't cost as much as a couple of nights in a hotel and will be far more useful.

@Headhurtsthinkingofausername

i second asking around if anyone has a spare phone lying around, I'd be surprised if none of your f/f do

she may or may not remember going when she's older if you don't 'keep the memory alive'(talk about it, photos, something like a soft toy snowball). I have a truly truely terrible memory, but I have fragments of things when I was younger than your Dd & many people remember lots of things from much younger.

but it really doesn't matter. Because it's the feelings of being loved & happy that matter. She's more likely to remember going to the snow than a carpet picnic and playing BUT both will make her feel happy & loved.

if I had a spare handset I'd happily send it to you. Unfortunately my previous phone completely died!!

Definitely a phone and take her to see snow next year. She's only just had Christmas!

Just bear in mind the snow trip is not just and experience for the child to remember but also for the adult. And I am sure it is something they will remember anyway at that age!

Snow and a pin to clean thhe fluff out of your charger hole

It really depends what you're going to do in the snow! Are you going sledging? 🛷 Skiing? ⛷️ Building snowmen? ⛄️ I think if you're having loads of fun then it will certainly be something she'll remember. ❄️

@User39093 Cant afford skiing, but we could definitely sledge, throw snowballs, make snowmen etc