Future MIL dress for our wedding...

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Getting married this year and MIL to be has been stressing about her dress for a while as she hadn't found one she likes..

During convos with her, I have mentioned that I don't mind what she wears as long as it isn't white! (This has been in conversation a few times)

She has now bought a dress (pic attached)

When I first saw it after she bought it I was thinking omg it's too white and I still think so now- my dress is off white and in pictures her white would really stand out!

Would I be unreasonable to ask her to change her dress as I am uncomfortable or do I leave it and ask the photographer to not place us directly next to each other?!

It’s not white.

I love it. Think it will contract beautifully with you and the black panelling.

It doesn’t look like a bridal dress. It’s quite classy.

if your resentment will grow then I would address it now, rather than later when she can no longer return it, or after you get back your wedding pictures. It is very white, more so than black.

Warning: expect an overwhelming amount of users telling you that you are being precious as it's clearly not bridal.

It doesn't look bridal, but if you asked her for no white then she's definitely ignored you. What does your fiancé say?

I don't get your beef. That's a perfect mother of the groom dress imo.

It isn't white.

I also think it's rather horrid, it looks like dementors are attacking her from each side.

What's MIL like? Is it that she's struggled to find a dress and this is the only one she likes, and she's lovely and would never knowingly upset you?

Or is it no surprise that she has picked a dress with a lot of white?

Incidentally, I think traditionally the MOB and MOG were excused from the no white rule.

She’ll deffo be mistaken as the bride in that frock.

Obviously I'm well aware it is not a bridal dress- my concern is in the pics it is white and my dress is not- and added to the fact I have asked her not to be wearing white...

Maybe I'm bridezilla but I always believed if you asked guests to avoid a colour that you should avoid it? 😅

There is no chance this will be confused for a wedding dress.

This dress is really inappropriate for a wedding 😳

That’s a lovely dress, in no way shape or form bridal and you would be completely unreasonable to ask her to change it.

She's gonna look gorgeous in that

The website describes it as navy/ivory, so it’s off white . I think it’s stunning and presumably she chose it because she feels good in it. I think you should reconcile yourself to,her choice

I don’t think you’re bridezilla. However if your only concern is the photos, can you raise it with your photographer and see if s/he can mute her dress and make yours pop more

You do sound like a bridezilla. There is nothing wrong with the dress and I would rather my guests are comfortable and like what they are wearing rather than being hung up on a colour “rule”

I don’t see an issue aesthetically. I don’t think this will look bad in photos just because it has some white on it. Men will have white shirts and someone will be wearing a horribly bold colour dress.

I guess the side issue is whether you think she chose white, when you asked her not to, on purpose. If you think she’s being spiteful then yea it’s an issue, but if she’s generally nice and it just happens the dress she likes has white on then personally I’d leave it and be happy she found a dress she likes.

It’s so weird how these threads go. If the op had posted that that was what she was wearing, we’d be 13 pages in by now of ‘WTF were you thinking buying that dress’?

It's not white it's ivory and I really wouldn't worry about the photos because the bride is always in the middle and you won't be next to her. You'll have your husband between you.

Yesss!! Also people forget that poster is genuinely asking a questions and to BE KIND! 👌🙌🏼

Its a wedding it shouldn't matter what other people are wearing as your guests will know who the bride and groom are

It is a black and white dress, not a white dress. YABVU. There will be other guests whose attire will have white in it. I would question a guest wearing all white to a wedding but not when it's a mix of white with other colours. Be gracious, tell her it looks lovely and leave it at that.

I think it is fine. She won't get mistaken for the bride.

I agree it is a predominantly white dress, she needs to choose something else. It's also really quite dated so she'd be better off with a different one.

Massively inappropriate IMO and I’d be telling my
partner to tell her to change it. Out of all the dresses in all of the colours, why that one?