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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

because I don't think I am. Sorry I know I'm not. DH is a total ar*e!

44 replies

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 19:52

He's been ill. Man flu. He hasn't been to wok for 3 days because his is the kind of job you can't do if you feel rough, but we are not talking life threatening. Slight night time temp, bit of a cough (well he does smoke) and a snotty nose. I've been working, dealing with DCs, cooking (funny how DH doesn;t lose his f*ing appetite when he's ill) and generally keeping things ticking over. DS#1 has also been ill. I've also found time to occasionally pop up with a cup of tea and some paracetamol, and offer some inquiry as to how he was feeling (usually to be met with a pathetic cough and a sad look). OK, I am not good with sick people. I will admit it. But was that any reason for DH to make a crack about me 'not exactly being a Florence Nightingale' and not wanting to come near him. FFS I'd just cooked him a meal after a long day at work and sorting out DCs (with various Easter competition projects this morning).

And now he's gone out. Apparently he's well enough for that. I am sooooo cross. What am I supposed to do. Drop everything? Fing are!!!

Please don't tell me I'm unreasonable or I might just throw something at the laptop....

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QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 20/03/2008 19:54

Lock the door and hope he gets pneumonia.................

Sorry that's not helpful but YANBU at all.

Alambil · 20/03/2008 19:55

YANBU!!!

yousaidit · 20/03/2008 19:55

You are being a saint!! DH is same, if he has cold he mopes about telling me hw terrible he feels coughing and spluttering and snooking and snorting, then quaffs a bottle of wine and some guinuess and suddenly manages to hot foot it to work rather than stay in the house when his mother turns up with her incessant twittering! Funny how when they want to break out f the house they suddenly feel much better!

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 20/03/2008 19:56

YANBU! Gone out! What a nob.

yousaidit · 20/03/2008 19:56

hot ffots it to work the next day, not straight after a boozy sesh, by the way!

mamhaf · 20/03/2008 19:57

If he was really that ill, he wouldn't be going out.

YA definitely NBU

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 19:57

I would lock the door but sadly he has a key. I am so cross. I put up with so much from him. But they way he said it as he walked out the door was obviously meant to make me think about it...... FFS I have been sooooo patient.

Well I think I have. I baby my children when they are ill (to a certain extent) but I won't baby an adult.

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Buda · 20/03/2008 19:58

YANBU.

My DH went away on Sunday and will be back tomorrow. In that time he managed to phone once on Monday night. I e-mailed him on Wed morning to tell him DS was off school again with a bad tummy and I have heard nothing since.

Sometimes I wish there was a third sex. Cos I'd steer clear of men.

windygalestoday · 20/03/2008 19:58

yanbu --maybe he will get full blown flu going out in weather like this!!! and as he deems your nusring so crap well then he wont be needing u gain will he? its man thing this arse hole business

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:01

He's also still fancies a shag! As I discovered this morning when I was trying to get off for work . Funny that...still drinking, still eating, still fancying sex.... must be at deaths door. Well he won't be getting any now....

Sorry. I will stop shouting at all your lovely MNers.

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ChirpyGirl · 20/03/2008 20:03

Joine the club

Gits aren't they.

windygalestoday · 20/03/2008 20:04

orm oh yes they are never to ill for sex lol

rookiemater · 20/03/2008 20:06

YANBU at all. Did anyone watch that documentary about Tibet where the poor woman ended up married to 3 brothers. Can you imagine the ridiculous demands of being married to three men, shudder..... Or perhaps they haven't heard of man flu in Tibet.

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:06

I've just had a thought. All 3 DCs are up and partying still (as it's a day off tomorrow). I might just got to bed and leave them all up for him to deal with. Is that a good idea...or just too mean (to them)?

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Jane68 · 20/03/2008 20:06

Men are right tossers at times. I have never given my other half the slightest bit of sympathy when he has been ill (even when he ended up on a drip), in order to discourage this sort of nonsense. Harsh I admit but it does work.

ChirpyGirl · 20/03/2008 20:08

Joine? I have gone all middle ages, sorry about that

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:08

Well you see Jane I think I might have made a rod for my own back (to use a popular parenting term) by being a bit of a soft touch when we got together. A drip is impressive though

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Tickle · 20/03/2008 20:08

pretend you caught it and spend 3 days in bed.

Hopeyseggwasntbig · 20/03/2008 20:10

F*ckingn srrse

moondog · 20/03/2008 20:12

Nothing more unattractive than an 'ill' man.

Jane68 · 20/03/2008 20:13

OrmIrian, never too late I say, you will also have the benefit of him being shocked by your response, go on be a hard cow, its great fun.

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:15

That is so true moondog.

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SquonkForgotHerEasterName · 20/03/2008 20:16

he's gone out??!?!?!?!!?!?!?

did his mother never tell him that if he's too ill to go to school work then he's too ill to go out to play to the pub in the evening.

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:29

Apparently not squonk.

I really really want to know how he wants me to behave when he's ill. Not that I'd do it, but I'd still like to know.

I think he got cross because he snapped at DS#1 last night when he was too slow getting himself off the sofa to go to bed and I told him to lay off 'cos DS was ill. Obviously I should have been making more fuss of him. But difference is I am not his bloody mother. Git!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/03/2008 20:32

Oh yes, develop woman flu this weekend. You've got 4 days

I'd be really pissed off if DH had spent 3 days in bed being waited on, for him to then piss off out.