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because I don't think I am. Sorry I know I'm not. DH is a total ar*e!

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OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 19:52

He's been ill. Man flu. He hasn't been to wok for 3 days because his is the kind of job you can't do if you feel rough, but we are not talking life threatening. Slight night time temp, bit of a cough (well he does smoke) and a snotty nose. I've been working, dealing with DCs, cooking (funny how DH doesn;t lose his f*ing appetite when he's ill) and generally keeping things ticking over. DS#1 has also been ill. I've also found time to occasionally pop up with a cup of tea and some paracetamol, and offer some inquiry as to how he was feeling (usually to be met with a pathetic cough and a sad look). OK, I am not good with sick people. I will admit it. But was that any reason for DH to make a crack about me 'not exactly being a Florence Nightingale' and not wanting to come near him. FFS I'd just cooked him a meal after a long day at work and sorting out DCs (with various Easter competition projects this morning).

And now he's gone out. Apparently he's well enough for that. I am sooooo cross. What am I supposed to do. Drop everything? Fing are!!!

Please don't tell me I'm unreasonable or I might just throw something at the laptop....

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SquonkForgotHerEasterName · 20/03/2008 20:33

I suspect this is what he wants

sarah73076 · 20/03/2008 20:36

YANBU. No work=no playtime. He's just walked out and left you to take care of the kids? Funny how he's well enough to do that just in time for the long weekend! I think Tickle's suggestion is fab.

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:42

You reckon squonk?

Poor bugger. He must be so disappointed

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OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:46

Have to admit that when I was very ill before Christmas he was fantastic. I mean really fantastic. But I don't want anyone fussing over me when I'm ill and I was still dragging myself downstairs to get the DC's lunchboxes ready and do some cleaning (sad cow). He has done nothing apart from make fry ups that he leaves for me to clean up and look pathetic.

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OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:47

I think I need to live without a man, or with a man that has learned to live without a woman to look after him. ifswim.

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micegg · 20/03/2008 20:48

Have to laugh as I have had almost the exact same scenario here.

My DH expects me to mop his brow, ask how he is and carry and fetch for him when he is ill. I've told him I can't. I am pathologically unsympathetic unless someone is attached to life support .

ALos too busy given I am 38 weeks pregnant and chasing around after 2 year old DD!

Jane68 · 20/03/2008 20:58

Remember no mercy!

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 20:59

Actually I am sure I want to live without a man. What do we want them for, someone remind me?

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Jane68 · 20/03/2008 21:00

Sex and DIY.

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 21:02

Hmmmm...OK.

He's Ok at one of those and very good at the other. Not saying which way round.

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SquonkForgotHerEasterName · 20/03/2008 21:03

are your shelves straight?

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 21:07

Not saying.

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OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 21:09

DS#1 is playing PS2. DD is asleep. DS#2 is snuggled up in my bed and I'm going to join him. DH can deal with DS and find his own place to sleep.

I can't beleive how cross I am. I don't want to have a row this weekend, but it's niggling away at me.

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SquonkForgotHerEasterName · 20/03/2008 21:11

he does have his key, doesn't he?

Am worried about what you will do to him if he wakes you up at midnight, pissed, because he forgot his key

OrmIrian · 20/03/2008 21:12

Yes he does.

I won't do anything, honest. But I will think about it.

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SquonkForgotHerEasterName · 20/03/2008 21:13

I won't do anything to dp if he wakes up.

But I can get a lot of satisfaction thinking about what I could do

OrmIrian · 21/03/2008 12:20

Thanks for all the support last night. I am being good today and trying to look after the ungrateful sod! I actually went out to buy some bacon this morning (both DH and DS were mildly affronted by there not being any yesterday) and then again for a paper. I bit my lip and filled the air with scent of burning martyr But not worth having a row all over the Easter weekend.

He did try it on when he got back but I was very deeply asleep

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AeroglisseurPleinDesAuguilles · 21/03/2008 12:49

uk.youtube.com/watch?v=LuVBfdEZajY
Here's a chuckleworthy link about man flu!

Joolyjoolyjoo · 21/03/2008 12:57

Oh, I am terrible at sympathy when men are ill!!! I can be quite attentive for about 6 hours, then i get fed up and expect them to go to hospital or pull themselves together!!

YANBU. I usually leave him alone to "sleep" ie shut the bedroom door and forget about him!!

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