Inheritance threads seriously wind me up......

[EveryoneEnviesMeEverywhere]

These types of threads are on many forums and articles I've read

AIBU when I am clearly stating that that the person/s leaving their assets behind to whoever is entitled to do as they so wish, EG, give the money away to a charity, their dog, the cat next door, their best friend, only give some of their children their money/etc and or not equally divide it

When I hear and or read about cases going to court, often one sibling against the other, it makes me so angry

If a person/s has mental the capacity as defined in law to make a Will, surely it is their choice and should never be challenged.

A nephew of mine recently complained to me about my sister(his mum) and his dad's Will means he'd get a lot less as things stand. My nephew had moaned to his parents and they told him that he was well settled, had a good job/pay and also had rental properties. I politely tried to make him see sense that regardless of what his parents had told him, in my judgment it istheir choice. My nephew was not happy with what I said.

The above comes with a caveat where disabled dependents may be left out of a Will as that is more complex. However, on the whole, it is as above

AIBU to robustly support the freedom of the assets holder/s to leave money to whoever, whatever they choose and no court should have the right to overturn this.

Every single word of this.

I'm so sorry your cousins acted like such shits when your grandmother died. That must have been horrible. 💐

No, I wouldn’t want my hard earned money going to dogs 🙄 Maybe a joke for dog owners.

@EveryoneEnviesMeEverywhere We have a situation where df has passed recently, SM has got rid of his belongings & anything belong to our DM. We are beneficiaries in the will once SM passes but at this stage she will not even show us my df's will.

Yeah they are. Unfortunate situation. Very thankful I have the house I always wanted. Just wish my dad would spend his money and enjoy it

I think the question of inheritance has become much more fraught and much more present in recent years because housing has become so expensive, and totally unmoored from incomes. So there's both a lot more to inherit, for a lot more people - 50 years ago average people did not own £1m houses - and a lot more at stake.

The defining element that determines how comfortable someone's life will be is now capital rather than income. I'm not saying that justifies some of the grabbiness we see here, but I do think it might explain a lot of it. Inheritance is no longer a lovely bonus but really the thing that makes security possible for many people. It's a big shift.

You make valid points. I never wanted to discuss but dad did and I'm glad. As stated earlier, I'm glad did did talk about it and me and siblings assured him w wanted nothing as he wanted to give use a few k's each

I and my OH have told our children it was to be equally split, this was a few years ago and now we are actively giving money to the grandkids and told our children they may get nothing, 2 a very happy about that one is happy but not so much as atm they dont have children. All of them want us to spend money on ourselves - we have three properties all bought by our own means, all paid off for by us.

IMO, the person the Will belongs to can talk if they wish as it gives the children/family a chance to agree/etc

We could have lived like half of England, hand to mouth but chose not to and as we built up on what we had and as its years of work, we can't just spalsh it around and away - we have retired almost ten yrs early and do drive what many would agree were mid, top end cars and the home is oordianey/small detached in nice road and our rentals are small but lovely locations - we dont aim to sell our rentals and hope all of our money does not go to care home fees - but its our money and we decide

IMPORTANT POINT PLEASE ALL REGISTER THIS IF YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR HARD-EARNED, PRUDENT LIFESTYLE AND SAVINGS AND WANTING THESE TO GO TO LOVED ONES

MAKE A WILL

MAKE A WILL

There are a couple of posts here that talk about a trusting dad, IR first wife dies, marrys new wife and has no kids with her assures his children new mum will look after them - new wife gets married again and soon dies and leaves all to new husband and he dies leaving all the money etc to his daughter

Importantly, we've had noted in our wills we dont want anything to go to step-mum - god forbid anything was to happen to all in will

So have a will drawn up and one can be easily updated and don't forget, if for some reason you want to ensure money does not go to X, then state it in will

Years ago a road we lived on, old guy two doors down, never saw a single visitor - he died a few years after we moved in - a couple of months later there were three people in and out of the house - neibour told us it was distant family and old died without a will, money went to them, people i guess he'd not seen/spoken with for years

I and my OH have told our children it was to be equally split, this was a few years ago and now we are actively giving money to the grandkids and told our children they may get nothing, 2 a very happy about that one is happy but not so much as atm they dont have children.

It sounds like you’re actively rubbing it in your childless’ offspring’s face that they won’t get anything. I hope they go no contact with you and you don’t expect care from them. Save your house for your care home fees if that’s the way you treat your children.

@HussellRobbs i think giving your inheritance to a pet is only legal in France. But France also protects your children and your money automatically passes on to them and is split equally. So the dog thing is really only for people who have no relatives.

I can't imagine not leaving all my money to dd or spunk it all uo the wall unless she was truly awful to me.
I guess i only have her. I think it is important to consider it.

""unless she was truly awful to me.""

The highlighted bit above, there lies the crux of people not leaving money to those who were once their nearest/dearest

For the above reason and several others, it is the choice of the Testator of the will

Sadly, until people experience first hand what some loved ones do to their loved ones, people will always bang on about wills should be dived equally.