Solidarity for those of us who hate Spring

[crochetmonkey74]

I've had a thread on here before about this and found it really useful as there's no one in real life who doesn't look at me in horror if I even mention this.
You know how people have SAD when the nights draw in , I have it the other way round. This morning, the birdsong by me set me off. Its like a sense of dread. I think it's to do with change. I don't cope well with change generally, I have anxiety made worse by peri menopause so I think moving from something you know well and feel happy with (the dark nights) into something new makes me feel a bit unsettled . Are you the same? Want to chat about it?

Yes I am totally with you on this OP. I feel the same. Prepare to have your arse handed to you though and be told you are a weirdo or you are depressed because you have a preference. People get so riled up over others not liking Spring or Summer and the days getting lighter. It’s bizarre. I couldn’t care less who likes the warmer months. I am a Winter girl and that’s ok.

This is a new one for me and tbh is the exact opposite of how I feel. I love spring. I love all the seasons to be honest just because I like observing the change.

I can sort of understand people who hate summer (though I love it personally) because of the discomfort element, but hating spring is very niche. What exactly is it which you don't like about birdsong?

You hate birdsong and daffodils?

Well you aren't the only one. The Wasteland by TS Eliot (my fave poem) begins 'April is the cruellest month, breeding lilacs out of the dead land, mixing memory and desire, stirring dull roots with spring rain.' So maybe you're destined to be a prize winning poet!

I get it @crochetmonkey74.

Spring is my least favourite season. Last night I was already thinking I can't wait for Autumn. I love the dark evenings.

I do like the really hot weather though.

100%. Autumn and winter are my happy months, but I dread a long, hot summer.

Is it the inconsistency you find difficult. As in one day you are wrapped up in a big, warm coat, hat, scarf, gloves. The next it’s much warmer and you suddenly feel uncomfortable in those clothes? I can understand that.
Ive made a conscious effort these past months to embrace the seasons.
So if it’s cold I make sure I’m appropriately dressed.
Once spring is fully here I’ll swap my clothes and out will come my summer/spring clothes.
It’s my way if coping as I’m the opposite and love summer especially.
Bring on the warm/hot weather is my motto.
Can you find something to enjoy about spring? Easter celebrations, spring flowers, eating pancakes and chocolate (is that spring?) Buy yourself some tulips or daffodils maybe.

Oh, you're not that bad. 😁

No I'd ypu read my posts you'll see a clear explanation of how I fell
Daffodils are actually my favourite flower

Early spring I sort of hate. It's just winter with daffodils. I like love the fact that we have light evenings after the clocks change but everything is still cold and muddy 😔

I've had that thought! I absolutely love September

Im definitely with you! Love the autumn and winter - frosty days and cosy nights in. Think about summer with an approaching feeling of dread. Hot summer days, stuffy nights, hayfever, wasps to name but a few. Even holidays are not my favourite thing and I tolerate them for everyone elses benefit. My best friend is the same and my daughter so you are not alone!

Yup I enjoy all those things. I just get on and live my life, doing pancake day and Easter and buying flowers. It's not the actual seasons or events, it's just a sense of dread at the change of seasons. It's hard to explain if you haven't felt it.
I guess it's similar to someone who loves summer being told to just enjoy being under a blanket with a Christmas tree in the corner. It's not about the things or markers of the seasons it's more about the change and the unsettlement/dread feeling

It's not the actual seasons or events, it's just a sense of dread at the change of seasons. It's hard to explain if you haven't felt it.
I get it. The weekend the clocks change in March is worse than now for me.

I thought I was the only one like this!! Feel exactly the same OP, my favourite time of year is the dark nights and short days. For people calling you “weird” - it’s not weird, it’s just some people may not feel the same emotions as other people. Labelling that weird is uncalled for and unkind. Solidarity OP!

If you're an introvert, maybe it's due to the fact that you'll probably need to speak to more people? You perhaps feel more exposed somehow as your curtains will still be open when you would rather shut them to the outside world.

Also there will be more outside noise like hedge trimmers, noisy power tools and the constant hum of someone's lawn mower?

Personally, I am looking forward to Spring and nice long solitary walks in nature. Summer not so much!

I think for me virtually every year Spring has meant exams, deadlines, work pressure. It is just an association now. I think it is compounded by people who cannot comprehend that you don't love the Spring because so many people are saying how lovely it is to see the signs of spring. Either you have to fake agree with them or go through again the shock of them discovering that some people have a different view to them.

This is very much me, you just can't please me.

I spend most of summer being a hot, sticky, itchy uncomfortable mess, particularly with the muggy nights, and craving cool weather and dark evenings when I can be cosily tucked up in bed at 6pm

And I spend most of winter sick of the relentlessly cold wet windy weather and endless grey skies.

Winter is all the worse now that energy prices are so extortionate, at least in the past I could have limited heating on for a few hours a day without worrying about it bankrupting me.

There are probably only about 5 days a year when I consider the weather to be pleasant and enjoyable.

I feel the same as you, although I get my twinge at around the winter equinox. I love the feeling of the days getting shorter and the long dark nights, and always feel a bit sad when the days start getting longer again. There’s something so cosy and comforting about the dark, I just love it.

I start to feel better when I see the first snowdrops and daffodils because I really enjoy growing vegetables from seed and I know it’s not too long to go now. Once that starts the months fly by and I’ve suddenly got the first harvests and we’re at midsummer and it starts getting darker again, and I’m happy for that.

Ignore the arseholes OP. I don't feel quite the same way as you, but I do get a sense of too many expectations when it starts rolling round to March. I'm not a big fan of winter, but I quite enjoy the hibernation aspect of it where I can effectively put things off and tell myself 'well, I can't be doing that in winter, I'll wait until spring.' Then there's a sort of 'right, time to get busy' vibe and feeling like I have to waken up and start doing stuff!

The clock changes aren't balanced. BST is about a week after the equinox and GMT is a month and a week after.

It always feels like a huge slog in the spring to finally get a sensible amount of daylight and a useful distinction between afternoon/ evening and then, wham, you've crawled through the manual way and then suddenly you're thrown an extra hour and it's light until 8pm.

Working in jobs where it's dark to get to work, dark to get home and no access to daylight in between is really draining and not great for the body's rythmns.

I notice that a lot of people who favour the winter months tend to be more home based and either don't have to function in the darkness and difficult weather, or have more flexibility to use the small window of daylight. The activities they tend to favour such as reading and watching films tend to be easily done at any time of year/ state of daylight.

That’s so odd and specific…. I can understand about the not liking change thing, but why specifically spring? Does this not happen for you when it changes from summer to autumn as well?

I love the changing seasons, I link each one to various memories of things that I’ve done in those seasons, along with the sounds, smells, feelings. So I can enjoy and look forward to every one of them ❤️

Spring is the start of those fresh days out, some sun and blue sky, flowers coming through, the air seems to change and we get the start of light evenings.

Summer is the chance for sunny days, the beach, the buzz of activity, lakes and rivers, long sunny evenings to go for cocktails or stay out making the most of it.

Autumn is the beautiful colours, going for walks, starting to cool off so get to wrap up a bit warmer in a nice jumper. Plus a bit of Halloween decor.

Winter is cosy nights by the fire, hot chocolate, Christmas.

They all feel so different and offer something enjoyable 😊

We’re only a month into winter! Spring isn’t until March.

No none of these, I'm an extrovert actually, love being out and about. I have a busy social life regardless of season. There is no 'reason' to pin it on. Or if I find the reason I can 'fix it' I've just always felt it since a kid.

I really enjoy growing things and I have a nice garden so I'm looking forward to this too