My partner breath always smells what do I do?

[strawo]

He apparently brushes his teeth at work and sent me a photo of his tooth brush and tooth paste at work saying he works with the public ofc he brushes

Yet he stinks all the time; he smokes and doesn't have a good diet

He only has a handful of back teeth and all have fillings.

Surely he is lying about brushing or doesn't brush properly? How doesn't he know how to brush properly

I made a joke saying that's not long enough to brush your teeth to him then finally snapped and said you need to brush each tooth? And yet he got so defensive and said he does that was just a quick brush

But he smells so bad all the time. What do I do?

Your friends and family like him? Have they not mentioned to you that he absolutely stinks? Surely it would have been pretty hard to get to know him in any real way if he stank that bad when being near them or talking to them? I know if someone stank that strongly I wouldn’t be interested in any conversation with them as I’d be trying hard not to gag! 😂

I don’t blame you for leaving! Bad breath is unbearable, even when it’s not their fault.

I knew a girl at work, could only have been in her twenties at the time. Nice girl, nice teeth, AWFUL breath. I mean, difficult to speak to her type awful ☹️ she’s married with kids so obviously some people can cope with it 😂

Same with a bloke I know from another place, dreadful breath but his gf must not mind?! 😐

I know someone who doesn’t clean their teeth due to sensory issues and hypersensitivity eg it hurts/the toothpaste is too minty. I keep a toothbrush at my house for them and when they occasionally call in I say, do you want to clean your teeth? They do it for about five seconds.

However op you say he hasn’t any particular issues, just doesn’t see it as important due to his upbringing.

@Notthesameasitwas no he has no sensory issues

He really just doesn't care at all.

He sounds minging so I’m not surprised you’ve split up. It is likely to be lack of flossing or tonsil stones. For anyone else experiencing this with their partner - you need to get them to use a very bright light and long cotton bud to move the flesh around their tonsils to see if they can spot any yellowish / white balls. These are compacted debris and absolutely stink from the bacteria if they are left there. Get them some Dentyl ph as well as this flushes out the debris in a way that’s quite alarming / reassuring to see in the sink! And also get a scale and polish.

Well done. I imagine your friends and family will have noticed the stink and won't be as surprised/disappointed as you think they will...

I never used to floss only started about a year ago. And omg I can't believe I have gone so long without doing it! I now realise brushing alone isn't enough, although I always brush three times a day including tongue/gums but still I was horrified to see what sticks Inbetween /at the back of teeth!!

Frankly I’m wondering how you managed ‘months’ with him, how you slept with him and how you introduced him to your parents?….. also how the hell they like him if he resembles Mr Stink!

i wonder if his general poor hygiene caused the smell in his/your flat? Like his general body odour/breath has absorbed into materials and clothing at his and maybe he didn’t wash his clothes enough?

my ex husbands breath absolutely stank rancid if he touched dairy!!! Like you couldn’t even walk outdoors next to him if he so much as swigged a mouthful of milk shake etc…. He was aware of it and said his mouth felt ‘furry’…. Only at the end of our relationship did he stop diary and switch to alternative products (despite years of me nagging about it!) He then said how much better he felt for stopping it 🙄 bloody men! They can’t be told anything, even if it benefits them!!

Smoking and bad diet of course he will stink I'm guessing no water either yuk

Get Anti bacterial mouth wash. Floss. Salt water to rinse everyday

@Treehuggingmutherfunkin Yep not one bit of water because the gov "put things in water to make us sick" yet somehow the endless coke he drinks uses the magically water that hasn't been touch by the government..

@T1Dmama he drinks oat milk so I have no idea whatsoever in terms of that

He wore the same clothes days on end and even said to me after he wears clothes they stink which i said adults can't really get away with that, I know I can't I'm a sweaty person; he is too, so I told him he can't possibly get away with that. Yet still did it. He wore the same clothes days on end and had a weird smell not even of BO of like rotten something

The smell in my flat was definitely breath it was horrendous. I've never known someone to leave a smell in the air from breathing. Everyone has bad breath here and there or after eating or drinking certain things but he had it all the time and x1000

@T1Dmama I had a bad cold at the start so I couldn't smell for over a month. Then when I could I told him you need to brush your teeth and shower way more often.

He did it for a bit then stopped

Even the smell of his genitals every other day were horrendous. He didn't believe he had to shower daily. Blew my mind.

Gross!
I’m so confused why @strawo isnt responding to me though, 2 accounts ?

Did your family and friends not smell
him? I’m glad you’ve dumped him, he sounds absolutely vile and very lazy!

@T1Dmama no I had to do a name change for a feed and forgot to change it back

No somehow no one noticed or at least said anything. But no one really got close to him like it would be in social settings like across the living room etc.

@T1Dmama truly mind blowing how he could get 4 fillings in his only 4 back teeth (had the rest removed at 15 because they were so destroyed) and yet still didn't think cleaning his teeth was necessary

Again his parents and girlfriend of 10 years were the exact same. He must just have thought I was a nag

I think it's very common amongst them to have fillings. The way he told me too at the start he needed a filling and got one was like it was nothing. If I had no genuine reason like depression, health reasons to need to filling it was purely my own laziness I'd be so ashamed to tell anyone

He also happily kissed me knowing he needed to get a filling. Maybe I'm dramatic but that to me is no different to knowingly having a sti and sleeping with someone. Likihood is I could have gotten a cavity from his saliva. You should not be dating when waiting for a filling. He should have fixed that then been kissing. That to me is no respect. I've somehow avoided cavities but I imagine I wouldn't for much longer if I had stayed.

He sounds very attractive with his 4 back teeth lol!

Best rid of that one!

OK, with the heating latest update you are sounding a bit unhinged. You don't "catch cavities" and kissing someone while waiting to have a filling isn't equivalent to sleeping with someone while having an STI.

I have lost a lot of teeth despite brushing twice a day, I don’t have bad breath.

My dd(20) has perfect teeth but a poor diet (she has autism and lots of issues around food), she’s always had bad breath. I think a lot of it is down to diet, the fact he smokes makes things worse. There’s a particular smell to bad teeth/abscesses 🤢, I dated someone who smelt of an infected tooth, I was too scared to tell him as he works in the dental industry, so I just dumped him, I just couldn’t handle kissing him.

Regardless of his stinking breath, I would have dumped him for being a thick conspiracy theorist.

Nobody with poor hygiene should be working as a tattoo artist. Most tattoo artists are absolutely obsessed with their personal hygiene, as well as the hygiene of their work station and processes.

OP, can you really see a future with someone who cannot take care of their own personal hygiene and is afraid of water?

I don’t think his bad breath is anything deeper than he doesn’t brush his teeth well/enough and clearly doesn’t care about the impact on himself or others. He needs to see a hygienist ASAP and re-learn how to brush his teeth effectively. Shame he wasn’t taught this as a kid, I can imagine this will be a difficult habit to get into now as an adult.

I'm sorry but HOW have you managed to get serious with a man when his face smell makes you vomit? This would be a deal breaker for me, not even just the "your face make me wretch" thing but i'd also have massive embarrassment being around him in public because his personal hygiene is so bad.

I'd absolutely be telling him - improve your personal hygiene or i'm gone. Like this week - today, book a dental appointment and start a course of improvements or i'm packing.

I thought you had finished with him op?