My partner breath always smells what do I do?

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He apparently brushes his teeth at work and sent me a photo of his tooth brush and tooth paste at work saying he works with the public ofc he brushes

Yet he stinks all the time; he smokes and doesn't have a good diet

He only has a handful of back teeth and all have fillings.

Surely he is lying about brushing or doesn't brush properly? How doesn't he know how to brush properly

I made a joke saying that's not long enough to brush your teeth to him then finally snapped and said you need to brush each tooth? And yet he got so defensive and said he does that was just a quick brush

But he smells so bad all the time. What do I do?

Even when he yawns or breathes with his mouth closed I can smell him and it's horrible

He’s absolutely disgusting, there’s no excuse. He’s not just showing a lack of respect for himself but also you, as he clearly thinks it’s fine to be around his partner with bad breath and dirty teeth, even though you’ve brought it up with him. This won’t change so just dump him.

Is this post even real? I can't believe it. I could never be with someone like this

I think you need to break up with him. How can you be attracted to someone whose breath repulses you? It doesn't sound like he can be bothered to try and sort it out. A few years ago my husband mentioned that I had bad breath and I was horrified but glad he told me so I could do something about it. A dentist told me the culprit was an infection under one of my teeth and after a couple of dentist/hygienist sessions I got it sorted. However if it hadn't been a dental problem I would have gone to the GP to see if it was another cause and tried everything to sort it out.

I think this situation could lead to a break up.
It's not sustainable to live with someone so malodorous.

You need to leave him. I'm gagging just reading your posts.

I empathise because my ex had bad oral hygiene too but he at least made a shoddy effort with mouthwash and brushing when I told him his breath stank. Not enough effort to floss and really take care of his mouth mind - that and many other reasons why he is an ex!

He needs at the bare minimum an;
Electric Toothbrush
A water flosser
Tongue scraper and Brush
Floss
Needs to brush his Teeth twice a day. Use Water Flosser after brushing. The string floss he needs to use after eating.
If he still has bad breath he needs a deep clean from the dental hygienist.

Grim 🤮

I would tell him to brush teeth one day when he’s home, actually hand him the brush ….. then after whip out the little tablets you buy at the dentist and get him to chew one… they stain all the unbrushed areas blue!!!

Also is he brushing his tongue… he needs to be!

maybe he could use mouth wash after brushing?

another possibility…. My ex husbands breath was repulsive after he’d drunk anything milky!!…… he switched to lactose free milks and it stopped…. So maybe your DH needs to consider almond milk or something similar in his tea/coffee…

god it sound grosse and I honestly couldn’t be near someone like this…

I hate it when a sales person comes over and chats and their breath stinks, honestly I’d rather not purchase from them and shop elsewhere!!

My ex (we broke up for different reasons) has dreadful dental hygiene and never goes to the dentist (he won’t even bring the children, which is a different story.) Once he had a toothache, and the dentist said ‘eh, has your mother or your girlfriend never spoken to you about your bad breath?’ He was deeply outraged, and refused to go back! It’s not my problem any more; well, it never was, but someone with grim dental hygiene who won’t do anything about it either needs a stern intervention and a complete change of regime, or to be abandoned to fester smellily alone.

How are you still with him?

I just don't get it, I've met quite a few men with awful breath and it's like they don't care or want to do anything about it
Tonsil stones are one I can smell on people because I get them myself but I remove them and am really vigilant about them

I’m reminded of that scene in Catastrophe when Sharon Horgan yells about his bad breath - Rob Delaney looks at the babysitter to defend him, who shrugs and says ‘I just thought you’d not brushed your teeth and had too much coffee.’ 🤢

Why you are with him? He sounds like a liability...

Does he live with you? Are you sharing a bed with him? You sound repulsed by him. Surely it’s time to call it a day now.

Sorry but I don't know what you want anyone to say.
That's just vile and I think I would physically throw up dealing with this.
Just move on, it's not your problem

Unfortunately the bacteria in his mouth causing carries disease (cavities) can be spread to you.

When you kiss his poor hygiene can increase the risk of you getting cavities.

Teeth should be flossed every day and brushing for 2 minutes. You can buy a toothbrush that turns off after two minutes. I put a timer on.

That's very grim. I couldn't handle that.

He sounds disgusting, do what you said and dump him

He was clearly not brought up with good hygiene and hasn’t addressed this as an adult.

I would not be able to stand this. I’ve got gum disease myself (runs in the family) and I’m meticulous about dental hygiene because I want to keep my teeth. All sorts of health problems can arise from poor care of teeth, you’d be amazed.

Wait, he drinks coke all day every day? So he's bathing his teeth in sugar and acid, cleaning for under a minute and you wonder why his teeth are all rotten?!

Gum disease absolutely stinks. I can tell as soon as someone opens their mouth sometimes, before I pick up a gum probe.
Get him to go to the hygienist every 3 months (this will be private) that might help.
Or LTB

@YoureALizardHarry11 he thinks he does clean and does a good job "he works with the public" so cleans at work and sent me a photo of his tooth brush yet this is still the situation

@Grimchmas I've told him this. He thinks the government puts stuff in water to ruin your teeth/body. So ironic isn't it

I keep saying but water naturally cleans your mouth after anything you've eaten

You can have lots of fillings despite brushing correctly and regularly, I do. The reason I have lots of fillings does not stem from poor brushing, but from lack of flossing when I was younger. I was never brought up with flossing, so only acquired the habit when I was older and developing dental problems. But obviously the damage was already done, but at least it is progressing at a much slowed rate now. If he isn't flossing, get him to start. If he doesn't like using the string, buy him a Waterpik - they are so quick and easy to use.