To think, sure you can’t help coughing/sneezing- but you can help the volume of it?!

[AngeloMysterioso]

DH has a cough. Has had it for a few weeks now. Hasn’t seen a GP or done anything at all about it beyond swig some night/day nurse because that would be far too sensible.

My issue isn’t so much with the cough as how fucking LOUD it is. It’s like a starter pistol going off. I’ll be trying to get our baby to sleep, in he comes, lets out a cough like a fucking cannon, baby jolts awake, starts crying, the whole process starts again.

I can only assume he’s inherited this trait from his father who has a sneeze so obnoxiously loud we once heard it from down the street when we were walking to their house.

It’s starting to piss me off now. AIBU?

Not sure about cough but noisy sneezing drives me mad. No need to engage vocal cords at all. And as for people who say a-tishoo while sneezing 🤯

Loud sneezing really irritates me. I am daily easy going as a rule but that obnoxious klaxon type sneeze really is fucking irritating. My boss does it - I asked him once what happens when he's at the opera (he often is!) and he said "oh, I just sneeze quietly", so it's completely done through choice. I'm enraged just thinking about it now.

YABU. He can’t help how loud he is. My dad is the same.

Also there’s no point in him going to GP for a virus that is passing unless he has other health issues or is severely unwell. GP can’t do anything for viral cough.

YANBU.
My husband has seemingly no volume control when he sneezes, and it's a perfectly pronounced 'atchoooo' at about 137 decibels every single time.

I don’t think you can help the volume at which you cough. Nor can you suppress a cough (without medication - codeine is good for this). But you can sleep elsewhere if you’re keeping others awake. Especially if you’re waking a baby.

Sneezing volume is probably more controllable.

My dh’s sneezes sound like a bomb going off. As for people saying ‘they can’t help it’, I honestly don’t see why not. They just don’t need to YELL! at the same time.
I’ve noticed that on the odd occasion he needs to sneeze in a theatre or cinema, dh somehow manages not to sound like a bomb going off.

When dd1 was very new and wee, he once frightened her so much by sneezing close by, she cried for ages. He felt awful - but still bloody well does it!

Of course he can help the volume of it! I can manage to cough quietly even when I have non-stop coughing as a result of a chest infection. I'm single parent so I have to! Otherwise until I'm better, my DC wouldn't sleep and would be tired at school. He's being bloody selfish and performative

Nonsense! Of course he can, everyone can. He could also but his elbow over his face to muffle what sound he does make

Hard one. I've had a cough lately and have had to cough pretty hard to clear the mucous. I imagine it does bother my work colleagues. I'm not sick any more, it's just a lingering cough

My husband is a Broadway sneezer. Irritates the fuck out of me. There is no need for it whatsoever.

The sharp intake of breath before the actual 'WA-TCHOOOO' also pisses me off.

But at least it's a warning. If I'm in the kitchen for example, it can actually give me a fright.

Just no need whatsoever.

I work with some performance sneezers (there's one you can hear from two floors away, I kid you not!). DH also does it.

They make me jump and frankly I'm turning into a nervous wreck.

My DH is the same. The fucking sneezing is so loud, a yell out along with the sneeze, half the time I end up nearly jumping off the chair with the fright !!

I don't know how anyone controls the volume of a cough or a sneeze. Mine are loud, but certainly not 'performance', it's just how they are.

I get an awful cough a couple times a year (non smoker) and gave up going to the doctors years ago. Everytime it was 'it's just a virus. It can take upto 12 weeks for your body to fully rid itself of this'. Nightnurse at night when really bad and a cough syrup to supress when necessary, otherwise I just get on with it.

I'm fully aware it's annoying. I annoy myself, but I'm not sure what else I'm expected to do?!?

My DH is like this. Has anyone managed to get their DH to turn down the volume successfully?

Cough volume I'm not sure anyone can help. But loudly vocalized sneezing if annoying AF!

I call it Dad sneezing. My dad does it, DH does it and now ds1 is following suit. Men at work do it. There is absolutely no need 🤣

I can suppress/quieten a cough to a certain extent, but I’ve always been a loud sneezer. It’s not “performative”, it’s just I can’t work out how other people manage to do such dainty little sneezes and I feel like if I tried my eardrums or head would explode with the pressure, or something? I don’t know, it just feels like it’d be impossible.

Coughs can last weeks, unfortunately. Might well be there’s nothing a doctor could do except tell him to wait it out.

I like making a big noise so all the dogs bark. I'm not right though lol.

Imagine being sick and getting Hyacinth Bucketed over the volume of your coughs and sneezes in your own damn house!🫤

I agree but my other half sneezes like an elephant and insists he can’t make it quieter 😄

My husbands sneezes are so loud, the whole pub stops and stares when he does one. I hate it. He can do them quietly but won't as he says it could hurt him. One day I'm going to get a decibel measurement made.

He can't help coughing and sneezing, and there is no point going to the GP with that - you just have to let it pass. But he can avoid crashing around the baby's room coughing, and if he truly can't control the volume then he needs to learn to take it elsewhere when he's stricken.

NHS advice is to see a GP if your cough persists for 3 weeks or more for those saying there’s no need to see a GP.

YANBU OP.. my husband sounds like a canon. He had a cough for months recently until I forced him to go to the doctors and he got a course of antibiotics that cleared it right up. Months and months of jumping out of my skin and he could have had some amoxicillin and been done with it all along! Men!

In dh’s case I strongly suspect that it was an attention-seeking habit when he was a child. I’m amazed that the ILs didn’t jump on it - FiL in particular wasn’t exactly an indulgent parent!

But the OP says he has had it for "a few weeks", which is entirely normal with a winter cold. This does not need a GP visit or antibiotics.