To think, sure you can’t help coughing/sneezing- but you can help the volume of it?!

[AngeloMysterioso]

DH has a cough. Has had it for a few weeks now. Hasn’t seen a GP or done anything at all about it beyond swig some night/day nurse because that would be far too sensible.

My issue isn’t so much with the cough as how fucking LOUD it is. It’s like a starter pistol going off. I’ll be trying to get our baby to sleep, in he comes, lets out a cough like a fucking cannon, baby jolts awake, starts crying, the whole process starts again.

I can only assume he’s inherited this trait from his father who has a sneeze so obnoxiously loud we once heard it from down the street when we were walking to their house.

It’s starting to piss me off now. AIBU?

My husband always tells me I cough loud but I don't intend to be loud. I can make it quieter by coughing with my mouth closed which I do if I absolutely need to but at home I just want to cough normally.

Same with sneezes, sometimes they are loud which again I can control by kind of sneezing into myself but it's not the same and sometimes a sneeze takes me by surprise and so it just comes out at my normal volume.

I am not a performance cougher or sneezer, I'm just as loud if I'm on my own because that's just me. Perhaps your husband is the same although I would be looking at some kind of change if it was waking the baby. I don't think I'm loud enough to wake anybody up but if it was happening frequently I would have to make changes so it didn't keep happening.

Not waking the baby I would just let him get on with it unless I thought he was doing it on our purpose but it's entirely possible he's like me and isn't. I think being a woman might work in my favour in this case though because on the whole we have quieter volume than men so I suppose its the same for coughs and sneezes 🤷‍♀️

For those asking how you control it, you kind of sneeze internally, and it all comes out of your shoulders (that makes no sense), but it comes out a squeak as opposed to a roar. I assumed everyone could do it, so when my husband was sneezing loudly when our son was a baby, I would get the rage,

This adult, like 90% of other adults, carries a hanky as a matter of course. Because that is part of being an adult.

In addition, if I know I've got a cold, I make sure I have several tissues, and I think about where I might be if I were to get a sneezing fit.

Can I ask how old you are? I’m 35 and have never met anyone other than the elderly who carries a hanky. Usually I get a mammoth sneeze just because something has irritated my nose rather than an illness but I will try and do better

I'm 39, but since Covid, most people I know carry tissues.

I think you must have a much more upper class circle than my bunch of slovenly friends 🙈I always get laughed at for having a hanky!

Sometimes my sneezes are quiet, most of the time they're ear splitting.

I don't control the volume.

Why are people so judgemental these days?

Guess what, not all bodies are the same.

My last boss had such a massive full-voice sneeze that every time he drew breath for one I'd drop my pens and stick my fingers in my ears. We worked in a very small space, side by side, and it was so loud it was painful.

OP, if your husband's cough persists more than a couple of months, he needs to get to a doctor. Is it a post-viral cough? I had one after a mere cold that lasted three months. I had to take Symbicort for a while to stop it (I'm mildly asthmatic).