To think this is weird?

[MuckyEyebrows]

DH ate his dinner in another room on his own then went to bed at 5:30 without saying anything! He’s been in bed ever since. So out of character, been together over 15 years and he’s never done this before. I went up to see if he was ok and he said he’d thrown up immediately after eating dinner. Wouldn’t say anything else, I’ve not heard anything from him since! How weird

Could he have lost his job? My exh went weird and didn't tell me at first.

So, him coming home at the noon hour is usual for him?
Something is going on, and I hope he shares it with you.
Do you usually have a good relationship, or is just a "meh"? Does he usually share what is going on in his life?

All the suggestions above sound possible, so just ask and tell him that silence is NOT golden right now.

Something has definitely happened and I think it's linked to something on his computer. Do you share bank accounts? I'd be all over them if so. What sort of guy is he? If he was fired is he more likely to be angry and shouting or to keep it from you and be upset? Is there any chance he's been having an affair?

This is an astute suggestion. (I wanted to say 'good' suggestion, but that didn't sound quite right given the circumstances!)

This is so strange. I wonder if someone has died but he can't tell you, such as an ex or an affair partner (sorry op) with his eyes looking like he's been crying and the fact he can't tell you. Very odd

Your usual DH, sounds similar to mine. I'd know about it if he was sick. You're a more patient woman than me, because I would be getting whatever the problem was, out of him. I wouldn't be able to sleep on it. Hope it's nothing serious.

I hope all becomes clear tomorrow OP.

Was he definitely at work? Could he have had a medical appointment that he has kept from you OP?

We it can't be just something normal it has to be something we make up on here the more dramatic sounding the better

Bear in mind that sometimes illness can make people act irrationally. Twice over the years my husband has acted out of character - surly and argumentative, heading off for naps or showers at weird times of day. Both times it has been a sign that he was very unwell (anaphylactic shock, and the beginnings of sepsis) and thankfully both times I have refused to let him make his own decisions and I've got him to hospital.

I was thinking this.... not because I think it's likely but because what else did he read that suddenly changed him?

Could also be a financial thing like lost money?

Oh God no. I ate nothing yesterday until around 7pm.

Numb, still am tbh.

A great manager but an even better man. Irreplaceable.

It's not an anniversary of a loved one's birthday or death is it?

@Salaaaaaaaah That's a bit of an extreme response?!?

Update:

I went to bed last night about midnight. When I went up he was sat on the end of the bed, phone in hand which he then put down when I walked in. I asked how he was and he said much better now. I gave him “the look” and he made a joke saying how can I be angry at him being poorly so I said “well you seem absolutely fine now, and it’s weird behaviour to just disappear to bed without saying anything”. He replied “I was sick! I felt really ill” so I said “I don’t believe you was sick at all”. He did his defensive ‘confused laugh’ thing that he does when he knows I’m right and insisted he had been sick so I said “what, silently? And you cleaned up every trace of it? That’s unusual” so he admitted that he wasn’t sick as such, he just felt really sick and gagged a few times. So why lie?!

Anyway I got into bed and he said he’d just woken up so was going to head downstairs for a bit. I said “wow you’re really avoiding me tonight, in bed all evening then back downstairs as soon as I come to bed?!”

Anyway he did go back downstairs but left his phone in the bedroom. I went through it, clean as a boy called David so I literally have no idea what’s going on. He’s absolutely fine this morning.

That's even weirder. Could he have deleted things from his phone and deliberately left it for you as "proof"?

That’s what I thought.

Well the way I see it is stuff like this always comes out eventually, everyone with a secret slips up at some point

Weird!

when my ex did something kinda similar, he was having an emotional affair with a colleague and she’d given him an ultimatum about leaving me and he was all “woe is me I don’t know what to do”

fucking tit he was.

He was t remotely physically unwell but was upset over something bothering him or him finding out something.

Looks like he panicked and temporarily couldn't cope.

The poor communication between you doesn't bode well and just because his phone was 'clean' when you went through it doesn't mean something isn't up or if it's his only phone.

If this was my DH I wouldn't just be able to leave it. Thinking that he had a secret that would eventually come out! That's not a healthy way to live. I would be asking questions until he told me the truth.

I hate to he that person, but when something similar happened to ne it turned out his secret girlfriend had dumped him and he was heartbroken 🙄 Dumb supportive me just thought he was stressed with work and kids and heading for a breakdown. Nope.

This. You'd have to check game chats and for apps like Kik, Telegram, Line, and Discord. Those are the main ones (that I know of) gamers use for game talk and the resulting long-distance romances.

Yes to all of this, I wasn't using the normal apps like WhatsApp and Messenger and mainly spoke through the game itself. I'm pretty sure if my phone had been searched nothing would've been found.

Definitely suspicious. I think you’ll find out eventually op.

I agree with others he's hiding something big and something happened that meant you may have (or may still will) find out.

Not one of my proudest things but many years ago I had a spending addiction. I racked up 000s (and I mean eye watering amounts) of debt that I kept entirely hidden from my DH for a long time.

Anytime something happened that meant he could find out I would feel sick to my stomach to the point I actually would retch and feel light headed and had to go to bed.

I'm not saying it's debt but it could be, or gambling or an affair.

(My secret did eventually come out and we worked through it).