To think this is weird?

[MuckyEyebrows]

DH ate his dinner in another room on his own then went to bed at 5:30 without saying anything! He’s been in bed ever since. So out of character, been together over 15 years and he’s never done this before. I went up to see if he was ok and he said he’d thrown up immediately after eating dinner. Wouldn’t say anything else, I’ve not heard anything from him since! How weird

Nah he’d been at work until lunch time then sat at the computer all afternoon.

Can’t believe all the people suggesting the OP is odd to find this weird. If my DH was suddenly really feeling sick, he’d tell me. As would I him. Yes, people get ill. But they also manage to tell their nearest & dearest this is the case, rather than disappearing without a word…

My first thought was gambling. Is that a possibility op?

Have you been back up to see him?

Maybe there are lay offs coming at his firm or something else relating to his job

i don’t know about gambling but bitcoin type stuff is a possibility

My first thought was drunk. Very early in our marriage my husband came home from a night out, completely ignored my cheery greeting, locked himself in the bathroom for a long bath. Eventually emerged and refused to talk to me, went straight to bed. I thought at the time he'd had sex with someone but if so it's never come to light, no other behaviour to suggest it. I think now he didn't want me to know how drunk he was and knew that if he spoke I would. It was really unsettling behaviour though, I can still remember the feeling very clearly 15 years on, so I sympathise OP.

No I’ve heard him moving around.
he was really funny with me last time I went up so I’m leaving him to it. I dare say it will all come out in the wash as they say

Ooh blimey - do you think it’s possible he could have lost a lot of money?

Sounds to me like he had a shock when he was on his pc, ate in another room while he tried to pull himself together, then feigned illness (since you’re sure he wasn’t sick but he claimed he was) to escape for a bit.

He gets drunk every weekend though. Thing is he was home at 12:30 and seemed absolutely fine all afternoon. He did start drinking at 5pm but he only had one, he was in bed by 5:30

i really hope not :-(

He's definitely not just been taken ill after eating, he was already acting out of character when he sat down to eat alone.

I would go up and ask for an explanation, personally. I wouldn't shout or be nasty but I would insist that he tell me what is going on. Whatever it is sounds serious enough that you need to know about it.

Actually in hindsight it looked like he’d been crying when I went up. His eyes were all red etc. I didn’t put two and two together at the time as he said he was ill so I put it down to that but I now I really don’t think he is ill … so why did his eyes look all red

@MuckyEyebrows I agree with this poster. Something has definitely upset him. Could be any kind of 'bad' news, but I do think you need to insist he tells you what is wrong. Sounds like he got an email, or something which has caused this. You said he normally goes quiet if he is stressed or anxious - so he's gone quiet AND gone to bed with his clothes on. Sounds like something VERY big has happened.

You need to make him talk. Fingers crossed it's nothing too awful.

@MuckyEyebrows - has he been fired?

I couldn't sit downstairs and chuckle at Graham Norton without getting to the bottom of this , go ask him

Another one agreeing that yes, this is very odd behaviour. I have to be seriously distraught or really ill and have been suffering for hours eg trying to get home or something to get under the covers fully clothed.

To disappear without saying a word to your wife ("I feel shitty I'm going for a lie down" for example) is very weird

That was my first thought too.

Strange to go to bed fully clothed if he's feeling ill
Let's hope he doesn't miraculously get better and go out after getting a message on his closely guarded phone 🤔

Can you actually take a look at his computer OP? If you have access then I'd be checking emails, trash, and history. Personally like you, I would be most concerned as from what you've said, his behaviour is far from the norm for him. Plus, if you now think he might have been crying, I'd be REALLY worried, as others have said, either been dumped by a lover, lost his job, or lost a lot of money, all spring to mind. I wouldn't be able to leave it alone until I knew what was going on, but obviously only you know how you want to handle it. Good luck, I hope it's nothing serious.

If this was my DH I’d go up and ask to talk. Can you check history on the computer?

Def sounds like there is more to the story here… hidden debt, lost a sum of money, been dumped, something he didn’t want to share.

My DH suffers from seizures and if he did something so out of character like that I'd be worried he'd got something neurological going on. I'd definitely check he's ok and get him to tell you if he feels weird.

Could he have been having an affair and it’s ended?