To think this is weird?

[MuckyEyebrows]

DH ate his dinner in another room on his own then went to bed at 5:30 without saying anything! He’s been in bed ever since. So out of character, been together over 15 years and he’s never done this before. I went up to see if he was ok and he said he’d thrown up immediately after eating dinner. Wouldn’t say anything else, I’ve not heard anything from him since! How weird

How can you be sure you would have heard him being sick?

Sounds like he's read something stressful and is withdrawing to think about it.

Maybe ask him in the morning if he's OK.

I get you, it seems weird to me. No way my DH would be sick and not tell me, he's the type to want 'looking after'.

What was he doing on the computer?

Bad news on the computer and he wants some alone time to process it?

I get why that seems weird @MuckyEyebrows. Even if my DH did suddenly start to feel ill and go to bed at 5.30, he'd tell me, or at the very least text me! Perhaps he did read something odd or that's worried him on the computer?

All the people pretending that just going to bed at 5:30 without a word to your wife is normal behaviour 🙄

Sounds very odd and like something has upset him.

As someone who’s grown up around a gambling dad, could he be gambling? Could that have caused the sudden change? Sorry wild stab in the dark and like everyone else said it’s probably just totally normal and that he’s not well.

Sounds like he’s upset or stressed, maybe? What was he looking at on the computer? Has he seen something that’s shocked or worried him? Is there something to do with his work that’s causing him anxiety? How does he usually cope - is it his normal for him to withdraw from you like this when he’s dealing with problems?

Or maybe he’s just feeling shit and really nauseous, but it’s odd to say absolutely nothing to you before going to bed.

Is he a gambler. Has he lost a lot of money today ?

Maybe it is normal for some people to just suddenly go to bed at 5:30 without a word to anyone but it’s not normal for him. I know what he’s like when he’s ill, he’s a drama queen … he’d certainly tell me that he felt ill before it all got dramatic. Just before dinner he was saying we should order a takeaway so he certainly didn’t feel ill then.

When I went up to see where he was he was in bed fully clothed … he’d taken his phone with him. He was a bit off with me when he spoke to me too. He still hasn’t come down and now he’s missing Graham Norton which again … totally out of character.

Id have heard him being sick because he makes a song and dance about it, the full street could probably hear him being sick!

And why did he eat his dinner at the computer? It’s bloody rude for a start, someone cooks you a meal and you don’t even join them to eat it?! It’s just not like him at all

Op, you know your husband better than any stranger on MN. If you think he’s acting weird and out of character, then he certainly is. Go up and speak to him?

As far as I know he just plays games on the computer

Normslly if he’s stressed or anxious he’ll just go quiet, he NEVER just goes to bed.

Sounds like he's had a bit of bad news or something. Maybe let him process things tonight and have another chat with him tomorrow.

I don't understand all these people thinking it's normal for him to go off into a different room to eat his dinner alone, then go to bed fully clothed at 5.30pm and say nothing to anyone! It's also usually obvious if someone has been sick in the house unless you live in a huge mansion!

It sounds to me as though something dramatic happened either over email or phone or computer. Affair? Gambling? Bad news?

Also odd that he's being off with you for no reason.

I would just go and talk to him and not leave until he tells you what's going on.

Sorry but it sounds like he's been dumped by his affair partner or something.

Something BIG has happened whatever that is.

Could he have taken his phone to bed to privately text someone that he had previously been connecting with on the computer?

I think the weird thing is that you've immediately assumed he's lying and are clearly jumping to conclusions in your head about what he was doing on the computer.

Well something major has happened and he's not talking. I'm guessing that you are going to hear about it in a day or two.

I agree with pp who have suggested it looks like he has had some type of bad news on his computer. His behaviour does sound odd and i'd definitely be asking what's going on.

The fact he is the type to want looked after and that he suddenly changed after looking at the computer suggests something is off.

He could also perhaps have tried drugs or had a friend give him something he shouldn’t have consumed maybe. That would make him want to go to bed sharpish and feel too silly to explain into the bargain.

I didn’t want to say this but yeah, that was what occurred to me too. Sorry OP, really hope that’s a reach and not what’s actually happened.

Perhaps he ate at the computer as he was waiting for something, then went to bed when it came.

Have you checked on him, OP? Did he seem unwell when he told you he’d vomited?

Anyway, sorry he’s putting you through this. I hope you find out soon and it’s nothing too serious.

No he didn’t seem ill at all, no temperature, no sweating … he was absolutely fine half hour beforehand

I’d be lying if I said it hadn’t occurred to me

don’t get me wrong I think it’s highly unlikely - but not impossible

I think it sounds like it’s connected to the computer too, was he was fine in the morning and when he first came home?
Had he been drinking before he got home 🤷🏻‍♀️